Do you think there has to be instant chemistry when first meeting a possible sexual partner?

edeneve edeneve
Do you think there has to be instant chemistry when first meeting a possible sexual partner?
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CinnamonNights , Enjoia
2
Oriental husband and wife , CoffeeCup , edeneve , SaucyxGirl , SexScienceAndFood , U3H
6
Wicked Wahine , Taylor , Gunsmoke
3
Total votes: 11 (11 voters)
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11/16/2013
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CinnamonNights CinnamonNights
I personally prefer to actually feel a connection with someone before sex or dating.
11/17/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I am voting 'other' because I have experience on both sides of the issue. I will say that instant chemistry makes for some off-the-charts, hot sex and I can't deny it (though i waited before jumping the person to be sure we would work out). However, I have also been "won over" by someone and the sex, when it did happen, was fabulous, too. Just don't have sex until you are ready for it and then I don't think there will be a problem. Some people can just not present well at first and sometimes chemistry needs to grow. As long as you wait until you actually do have sexual chemistry with them before trying sex, I don't think you will be disappointed. However, I would not have sex with someone who didn't turn me on, it's not worth it for either of us (unless I was a sex worker and cool with that. I am not a sex worker and I know it would upset me in the end, but those are just my personal quirks).

I think sometimes we can have sexual chemistry with someone who is bad for us otherwise (happened to me recently!), so I don't use it as the sole determining factor. Conversely, there may be a great match for you who does not at first have chemistry with you, but that doesn't mean anything other than don't have sex with them until you DO have chemistry, it can develop!
11/17/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
I don't think the chemistry has to be instant. Many times when you learn more about a person the chemistry can grow and grow. And there's times there can be an instant chemistry.
11/17/2013
Taylor Taylor
There doesn't need to be instant chemistry for me, but there needs to not be an instant repulsion if that makes sense.

I would say with me most people I am neutral towards at first, and a few a may have that instant click with, and a few I just don't like right off the bat. If there's a click or I feel neutral with them at first there's a chance I could grow to like them over time, but if I instantly am turned off by something about them it's probably not going to happen
11/17/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
'Instant karma' has some advantages - but I have seen many instances where it took longer for the chemistry to develop. In my case, when I met the girl who would become my wife, I didn't even think of sex with her because of the age difference - I tried to fix her up with my younger friends.

It turned out that she preferred someone more mature. But once the younger guys struck out - things went very fast.

I think is still very true that the girl picks her spouse - not the other way around.
11/21/2013
edeneve edeneve
I don't think chemistry needs to be instant upon meeting someone. it can happen. but it can also happen after getting to know someone a bit or over a longer period of time. I think it depends of the 2 individuals & the circumstances surrounding meeting as well as getting to know them.
May 26, 11:37 am
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
Instant chemistry, no. While sometimes there is instant chemistry between people it is possible that the chemistry needs to be built up or even teased out if both are not really aware of things.
May 26, 11:41 am
SexScienceAndFood SexScienceAndFood
as a chemist..sort of ...fast reactions are over fast. I prefer ones that start slower and build up
Jul 11, 10:49 am
Total posts: 9
Unique posters: 8