Does your sex drive match your partner's?

Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
He used to want to do it all the time, but now he'd rather play computer games :/
02/29/2012
Contributor: EastCoast36 EastCoast36
My wife's drive is definitely not as high, but kink level is probably a larger gap.

I can't deny that it bothers me, but I really don't see it changing, so I've accepted it mostly. Honestly, it could be worse. If I do try to communicate, she becomes defensive, frustrated, and apologetic (sort of at the same time). I guess I sort of do the same thing from the opposite angle.

Occasionally she will mention something about "women don't..." I think she would be blown away to see women here that think about sex more than an hour or two at night, two or three times a week. Again, more than that, what these other women think about. I'm smart enough not to use examples from this forum to debate her.

It is awesome when we are together and she just lets go. I wish she would do it more often. Also wish she gave the impression that she thought about it anytime except when it's actually happening.
03/21/2012
Contributor: Miss Zombie Miss Zombie
I understand how you feel. My husband's sex drive has decreased a lot. It's weird, and of course I automatically assume he is just not attracted to me anymore. It's a hard ordeal to go through, trust me, I know.
03/22/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
His is definitely higher than mine. Normally I don't think it would bother me, but the reason my drive is so low is because I have issues getting off, so sex is more of a chore to me. Knowing that my lack of desire is keeping him from getting what he needs is a real kick in the pants for me.
04/11/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I always thought that men were all about having sex, but it seems like my man has a much lower sex drive than I do. Makes me feel kind of unattractive. Anyone else been through this?
I think mine may be a little higher, or I am more of a risk taker... when we are married I am expecting him to want a LOT more sex a lot MORE often . But as for now, yes I have a higher sex drive
04/11/2012
Contributor: tom fay tom fay
It really sux for me when I want sex, and he hardly ever does, and her prefers to masturbate. Almost a deal breaker, but its hard when you are in love.
04/11/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
mine is much higher and it's so annoying! definitely puts a bit of a stress on our relationship but we do okay.
05/03/2012
Contributor: Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
So lucky but I finally found a guy who can keep up with my high libido.
05/03/2012
Contributor: Chami Chami
sometimes i think ours is about the same but sometimes im done soooo much quicker
05/09/2012
Contributor: CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
yes
05/13/2012
Contributor: Jeanette Jeanette
Mine is higher than his
05/13/2012
Contributor: badk1tty badk1tty
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I always thought that men were all about having sex, but it seems like my man has a much lower sex drive than I do. Makes me feel kind of unattractive. Anyone else been through this?
His is higher, but he's also in the Military, always gone, always around a bunch of stinky men, and when he has the chance to put it somewhere, he wants to, so I don't blame him
05/13/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
Ours are about the same.
05/13/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I always thought that men were all about having sex, but it seems like my man has a much lower sex drive than I do. Makes me feel kind of unattractive. Anyone else been through this?
We are about the same...both tired. lol.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Arch600 Arch600
These days mine is higher. For better than the first half of our marriage it was decidedly the opposite; hers was much, much higher than mine. I worked long hours under stress and traveled a lot. I feel bad about it now - I didn't even realize it at the time - but her revenge is at hand since roles have been reversed.

Seriously, I understand where she's at right now and don't expect more from her than she is able to give.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Llahsram Llahsram
Her drive is higher.
05/15/2012
Contributor: cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
I'm female, and my libido tends to be higher than my boyfriend's. It's not that big of a deal; we've been together long enough so that we know how to work with it without either one of us feeling weird about it.
05/16/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
His is higher.
06/01/2012
Contributor: Undecided Undecided
Mine is higher but his isn't too far behind
06/01/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Hers is a bit stronger, but I'm not complaining. I've come to happily accept it
06/05/2012
Contributor: Rey Rey
Ours rarely match, mine's higher but we manage
06/07/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by EastCoast36
My wife's drive is definitely not as high, but kink level is probably a larger gap.

I can't deny that it bothers me, but I really don't see it changing, so I've accepted it mostly. Honestly, it could be worse. If I do try ... more
I can relate - I always feel like it's my idea - even though she's the one enjoying the multiple orgasms. For the life of me I cannot understand how she can be so blase
06/07/2012
Contributor: ginainohio ginainohio
her's is way higher
06/08/2012
Contributor: DixieDoo DixieDoo
For the most part, we have equal drives. I'm a little more ferocious than he is in the beginning, he comes back twofold. But, like I said, we are about the same.
06/08/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
My sex drive is out of control high, but I am 42 and I guess its that PEAK thing happening. It does bother me though since my husband is 52 and really doesn't care if we have sex or not. It really bothers me. Any to supress my libido, short of taking medication? I am so distracted by my libido, I have a hard time getting through my days/nights!!!
06/10/2012
Contributor: wes wes
My Girlfriend is a nmypho
06/12/2012
Contributor: Short Cake Short Cake
Mine is higher a lot of the times, but it's usually about the same!
06/12/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I always thought that men were all about having sex, but it seems like my man has a much lower sex drive than I do. Makes me feel kind of unattractive. Anyone else been through this?
Ditto, I have obsessed about sex for the last two years (I'm 42 and in my prime I guess) and my husband never seems interested.(he's 52). I feel like when we have sex, it's a mercy F*%*.which is really depressing.
06/25/2012
Contributor: Liberalqueer Liberalqueer
I think they're about the same, but mine's a bit higher.
06/26/2012
Contributor: Girly Juice Girly Juice
I'm a cis female and have almost the exact same sex drive as my cis male partner. YAY!
06/27/2012