Sex drive postpartum.

samopayn samopayn
I had a baby about four months ago. I have totally lost my sex drive. Any seggestions?
10/20/2011
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Sleeping Dreamer Sleeping Dreamer
None. I'm currently breastfeeding a 10 month old and have NO DESIRE for sex whatsoever. Course, my husband's deployed so it's better off this way.

But my best advice is fake it. Fake it until you can get into it. Pushing yourself to be more intimate even when it's the last thing you want to do might open the floodgates and allow you to enjoy what's happening and then before you know it, you'll want it to happen again and again.

Usually doing something will trigger a memory and then a physical response and your body will say, "oh yeah, I remember this.... I like this". At least, we hope.
10/20/2011
samopayn samopayn
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
None. I'm currently breastfeeding a 10 month old and have NO DESIRE for sex whatsoever. Course, my husband's deployed so it's better off this way.

But my best advice is fake it. Fake it until you can get into it. Pushing yourself ... More
I have sex with my boyfriend anyways. He doesn't know that I'm NEVER in the mood. I try so hard! But I definately didn't have sex when I was breastfeeding. Everytime I would actually get turned on, my milk would let down. Talk about a mood killer!

I think I'm going to talk to my OB/GYN about it. Maybe she will be able to tell me how to fix this!!!
10/27/2011
arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
Quote:
Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
None. I'm currently breastfeeding a 10 month old and have NO DESIRE for sex whatsoever. Course, my husband's deployed so it's better off this way.

But my best advice is fake it. Fake it until you can get into it. Pushing yourself ... More
Agree--I am sure you have heard the expression, "Fake it til you make it..." Sometimes I want anything but sex but if its been several days I do it and during and after I am usually glad I did. I just do not recommend EVER telling you man you faked it. That ruined a great relationship for me.
10/27/2011
arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
OH--and as Patsy Cline would say, "Sometimes its hard to be a woman..." I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that song.
10/27/2011
samopayn samopayn
I mean I enjoy the sex but I never WANT it any more.
10/28/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
Oh man, I'm having a baby here pretty soon, this is great advice!
01/14/2012
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