Your partner and your sex drive

Ours usually match up almost perfectly. Unfortunately, he injured his back and today mine was much higher than his! Lol.

It would be really hard to have a partner who's sex drive was lower or higher than yours. I don't think I've ever heard of that medication, but it is probably a big part of what determines her sex drive.

I don't think YOU should find something to turn her on, necessarily, but in my experiences, it seems when I'm the one who is on a slower sex drive, I find something that helps me get things moving. This has meant taking an evening to stop doing so much work and think about sex for a little bit, and then I'm usually in the mood just fine. Or sometimes foreplay is all it takes to get me there. So perhaps she could do something either with the meds or something that helps her to feel more in the mood -- help get HER sex drive higher. You could try of course, but I think sometimes the person with the low sex drive just needs to do some de-stressing or whatever they need, that way they're "there" when you get going and not off someplace not even turned on.

Perhaps both! That would always be good. Maybe her avoid the meds for a few days and do some thinking about sex, de-stressing. Something to get her mind off everything else in life, and on sex. Then you two do something adventerous or something. Sometimes we do things like go on mini road trips and I'll spend that time with a toy in the passengar side, and later we'll find a nice place to be dirty! Or we'll go for the swing. Just something exciting and to get your mind on sex.

Well, I sure hope you guys manage to leve out the sex drives. I don't know if my ideas will be helful, but hopefully something will bring you to to closer levels. Best of luck!

PS. Have you told her? Maybe tell her she seems less into sex, bring up the meds or tell her you'd love to have a romantic (if that's what she likes) sexy night?

Get rid of ALL your medications and just start over! This is getting so complicated; you and her are being effected by all the med's you are taking! Depressed or not, please just start over and see what happens! It may take some time, but there is so much influence to the med's that you are on that you really can't determine what is controlling your sex drive!

This is a lot to ask for of someone with a mood diorder or any one taking a medication for anything!
I'm sure you know going off a medication cold turkey is especially dangerous if you are taking it for ones mental health/hormone treatment. Of you believe that the medication your partner is taking is effecting their sexual health, talk to them about it, see if they feel the same and would be willing to talk with their doctor about maybe tapering off and trying out a new med that may not have the same side effects. DO NOT JUST SUDDENLY STOP OR ASK THEM TO STOP TAKING THEIR MEDICATION AS IT COULD BE VERY DETRIMENTAL TO YOUR/THEIR OVERALL HEALTH.
I also agree with Kendra that you dont necessarily need to find way to turn her on, but maybe suggesting to them or helping them find new ways to get themselves off/turned on can aid in getting them more on par with your sex drive.

I think you misread something, PL2. Genderfree and partner are each on only one drug, from what the original post says.

Back to the topic: I have a lower sex drive than my partner. I'm five years older than she is, and I'm having a stressful semester in college, and I'm a night owl while she gets up at 6am for work every day; all of these things contribute to lowering my drive, as well as lowering the number of possible opportunities for sex. We live together, and have gotten very comfortable in our routines. Also, she just has a very high sex drive, and would probably be ecstatic if I wanted to have sex 2-3 times a day, every day. Neither of us is on any drugs, but our natural drives and our current life situations are exacerbating the problem, and there've been several times lately that we've gone a month or more without sex. (This would have been unthinkable to me, previously!)

Anyway: I recently became more active here, got involved in the review program, and became interested in trying new toys again. We ordered stuff we'd been wanting to try, and we went out and bought something right away as well. I was motivated to find ways to enjoy our new goodies together, and this made me put a higher priority on getting aroused, and focus on what turns me on. Perhaps something along those lines would help your partner? Maybe finding something new and exciting will motivate her to prioritize her own sexuality again?

Luckily we're pretty equal

sorry

mine is definitely higher. my current guy didnt have sex for two years before me and didnt seem to care at all

Oh yes, my partner and I have that problem too! She loves morning sex and is tired in the evening, while I feel groggy and completely unsexy in the morning and more energetic in the evening. Maybe scheduling would help as well, as Ron Lee mentioned, or maybe surprising her with something romantically sexy (if she likes that sort of thing) on a day when you both have free time?