I think it's a good idea, they should have nothing to get mad about over it..
STD Tests: Is "I'll Show You Mine If You Show Me Yours" ok?
12/14/2012
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Absolutely. The test is one true proof.
Originally posted by
NurseKitty
I have a friend from South Africa who moved here to the US, she met a boy and they started getting serious. She asked him to go with her and get tested for STD's, he freaked out and ultimately ended the relationship due to "her lack of
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I have a friend from South Africa who moved here to the US, she met a boy and they started getting serious. She asked him to go with her and get tested for STD's, he freaked out and ultimately ended the relationship due to "her lack of trust". She told me in SA it is customary and in fact a sign of your commitment to your partner to get an STD test and share the results with one another.
So I wanted to hear what the US populous thinks! Is it ok to ask your partner? less
So I wanted to hear what the US populous thinks! Is it ok to ask your partner? less
01/23/2013
I'm all for getting tested
01/23/2013
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I think it should be done in all relationships. Whoever your friend is, she should be glad because anytime he acted like that about going to get tested there's no telling what he had or may have had, he just did her a favor
Originally posted by
NurseKitty
I have a friend from South Africa who moved here to the US, she met a boy and they started getting serious. She asked him to go with her and get tested for STD's, he freaked out and ultimately ended the relationship due to "her lack of
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I have a friend from South Africa who moved here to the US, she met a boy and they started getting serious. She asked him to go with her and get tested for STD's, he freaked out and ultimately ended the relationship due to "her lack of trust". She told me in SA it is customary and in fact a sign of your commitment to your partner to get an STD test and share the results with one another.
So I wanted to hear what the US populous thinks! Is it ok to ask your partner? less
So I wanted to hear what the US populous thinks! Is it ok to ask your partner? less
01/23/2013
I often talk about my sexual health with my partner, and they are always willing to listen/want to know if things change since i got tested more regularly when i contracted a strain of the HPV virus (luckily it was super easy to treat and has been in remission since being treated). I'm always very open with my sexual health when it comes to my partners as i think it's something very important to be open about, but to my knowledge none of my previous partners have actually been tested. I know if i asked my current partner to do so they probably would, and would also accompany me while getting tested as well.
01/27/2013
That South African custom is a very smart one. Doing so is a good way to show your partner that you care about their health, while being insistent about it shows that you're not gonna just blow it off.
01/27/2013
That's a good idea. I've never done it with a new partner, but I plan to with the next.
01/28/2013
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That's kind of how I feel. This is an issue that BOTH parties should be concerned about.
Originally posted by
wdanas
In these cases I often wonder if the partner that freaks out is hiding something or afraid to find out the truth for themselves.
From my perspective it has nothing to do with trust, but with respect and concern for your partner.
From my perspective it has nothing to do with trust, but with respect and concern for your partner.
In all honesty your friend is from South Africa were the risks of HIV and AIDS are very high, and she is a smart girl for protecting herself by testing before becomes sexually active with a new partner. In 2010 around 44% of all deaths in South Africa were HIV/AIDS related. Those are some pretty scary numbers. I would think that the Guy she was seeing would be happy to have medical confirmation that they are both perfectly healthy.
01/28/2013
no test, no play
01/29/2013
Sounds wise.
01/29/2013
I think that guy was a jerk for not doing that. Though, many people may get insulted at some mis-interperated implication, I think that woman was very smart to ask that.
01/30/2013
Of course! STD testing is very inexpensive and in my area free, especially if you're an LGBT individual. They make little STD check yourself kits now for HIV and AIDS. I'm glad!
02/16/2013
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I 100% agree.
Originally posted by
Ansley
And the winner of the Overreaction Award of the Year goes to her ex-boyfriend. If someone refused to get tested or to show me their results, they would be on the other end of the refusal. My life is way too important than their issues over "not
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And the winner of the Overreaction Award of the Year goes to her ex-boyfriend. If someone refused to get tested or to show me their results, they would be on the other end of the refusal. My life is way too important than their issues over "not trusting someone" because I know STDs can be silent killers.
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03/16/2013
This is a great idea.
03/16/2013