It's something we all deal with. Weather it's a friend or a complete stranger, what are ways that YOU tell people you don't want to get down and dirty with them?
Best way to fend off sexual advances?
It depends if they're polite or rude about it and if I know them well or not. Usually it's "Sorry, not interested." or "Sorry, I'm taken." but if they want to be rude about it, it morphs into "I've gotten wet for exactly one man in my entire life, and you ain't it." If someone gets exceptionally rude, for instance "I'm horny, and you'll do." levels of rude, I tend to haul out the big guns and really let them have it. I've come up with some outright cruel rejections in my time...
Although, with my lover, before we got together I caught him checking out my ass and told him "Take a good look at these pants, because you're not getting in them." My how wrong I was...
Although, with my lover, before we got together I caught him checking out my ass and told him "Take a good look at these pants, because you're not getting in them." My how wrong I was...
12/05/2011
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Lol I once told a guy "sorry I have a boyfriend" when he asked for my phone number and he responded with "it's ok we can still be friends!"
Originally posted by
AndroAngel
It depends if they're polite or rude about it and if I know them well or not. Usually it's "Sorry, not interested." or "Sorry, I'm taken." but if they want to be rude about it, it morphs into "I've gotten wet for exactly one man in my entire life,
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It depends if they're polite or rude about it and if I know them well or not. Usually it's "Sorry, not interested." or "Sorry, I'm taken." but if they want to be rude about it, it morphs into "I've gotten wet for exactly one man in my entire life, and you ain't it." If someone gets exceptionally rude, for instance "I'm horny, and you'll do." levels of rude, I tend to haul out the big guns and really let them have it. I've come up with some outright cruel rejections in my time...
Although, with my lover, before we got together I caught him checking out my ass and told him "Take a good look at these pants, because you're not getting in them." My how wrong I was...
Although, with my lover, before we got together I caught him checking out my ass and told him "Take a good look at these pants, because you're not getting in them." My how wrong I was...
Usually if I'm not interested in getting hit on I'll just glare and show excessive levels of disinterest, or like, talk about the news which usually turns the beach bums in this town off a lot lol. Sometimes I'll just walk away. Sometimes I just say no. A lot of times I'll just ignore it, to be honest...
12/05/2011
I tend to be rather blunt about the fact that I'm not available. One time, my ex boyfriend (who put me through 2 years of hell) told me "I still have feelings for you!"
My response was "Your hairline's receding."
He hasn't tried to pull that crap again since! Being blunt can be kindof hurtful, but it tends to be very effective.
My response was "Your hairline's receding."
He hasn't tried to pull that crap again since! Being blunt can be kindof hurtful, but it tends to be very effective.
12/07/2011
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I simply say in a firm, no nonsense voice that I am uninterested. Usually it's the ages old, "Sorry man my dance card is full" if that fails I just get brutal. I learned long ago that it's best to hurt someone upfront than wait till later and try to be 'nice'.
Originally posted by
Rhinobaby
It's something we all deal with. Weather it's a friend or a complete stranger, what are ways that YOU tell people you don't want to get down and dirty with them?
12/10/2011
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I totally agree here. I used to get so freaked when men would come onto me, I freaked bad when they'd do it as my partner walked away! So I would try and ignore it and keep my distance and let me just say, this turned out with them acting worse and worse and one occasion I even developed a stalker, really! But that wasn't due to ignoring the come on's. Still, it seems when someone is determined, they need a firm NO! Or they will not stop. Sadly, a lot of them won't stop even with a firm no. I had to learn that this was the solution and have even had to be rude and drop friends.
Originally posted by
indiglo
A very clear, firm "No" works the best. Don't giggle, act flattered, or act unsure. Those reactions will send mixed signals. Be clear, firm and resolute. Get up and walk away if possible, or call someone else over to change the topic of the
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A very clear, firm "No" works the best. Don't giggle, act flattered, or act unsure. Those reactions will send mixed signals. Be clear, firm and resolute. Get up and walk away if possible, or call someone else over to change the topic of the conversation.
I would make it very clear, but if it's a friend who you want to remain friends with, give them a casual call later to let them know you still want to be friends, but that benefits are off the table.
Calling someone else over is a good idea. If the person isn't determined, but just has to give it a shot, this will more than likely be all it takes.
If you end up with someone who won't leave you alone, ignore calls and texts after telling them you aren't prepared for a relationship.
12/14/2011
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I am told this as well, but when I do get hit one I completely ignore the comment walking away saying I'm married. Then that is usually the end of it, but sometimes it is not.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
The bus usually shows up and saves me.
(It's always at the bus stops this happens to me, never anywhere else. I'm told I usually go around with 'FUCK OFF ASSHOLE' across my face.)
(It's always at the bus stops this happens to me, never anywhere else. I'm told I usually go around with 'FUCK OFF ASSHOLE' across my face.)
My sister was working as a cashier and this guy came through her line. He told her about how pretty her eyes were and that he was not leaving without getting her number, she told him I am sorry about I am married and not interested. Again he continued with I am not leaving without getting your number, then said how do you know I do not have a gun on me. So she screamed and got down on the ground as security was running to get the guy. Sometimes No does not do the trick.
12/14/2011
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