Okay. I know a lot of you are thinking, "It's NEVER safe!" I agree with this, of course. I know I can technically get pregnant at any time in my cycle. HOWEVER. Given the fact that I already know this, I'd like someone to answer this with something other than, "It's never safe" or "Use condoms anyway."
Here's our dilemma. BOTH of us hate condoms. We hate the way they smell, feel, sound, look... Just, we hate them. Often if we use one (a male OR female variety), neither of us is stimulated enough to orgasm. We have trouble remembering them anyway. As far as I know, devices that cover the cervix are made of latex, which I'm allergic to. But I am not able to take hormonal birth control because of a family history of stroke, among other things that hormones can lead to. The doctor won't prescribe them. We are leery of a vasectomy because the reversal rate is not as high as we would like, and we would like children someday, just not yet. The same with tube tying.
That leaves us with a choice between unfulfilling "safe" sex, or the pull-out method. But there's a problem with that as well. When he's about to cum, the head of his cock, like most men's, swells. But his gets huge, and sometimes when he pulls out, it tears my vaginal opening. The moment we should like best, hurts me, and then neither of us can really enjoy it.
We have this past year taken to having the sex we really want, unprotected and him finishing inside me, only on the one day right after my period. But I'm not entirely certain this is the best day for that, considering ovulation takes place in the next week. So what I'm wondering is, what day or two during the menstrual cycle, though not 100% safe, is the day I'm least likely to become pregnant if he ejaculates inside me?
Also, if anyone has any other forms of birth control they know of that could help us, I'd love to hear them. Any help is appreciated!
Here's our dilemma. BOTH of us hate condoms. We hate the way they smell, feel, sound, look... Just, we hate them. Often if we use one (a male OR female variety), neither of us is stimulated enough to orgasm. We have trouble remembering them anyway. As far as I know, devices that cover the cervix are made of latex, which I'm allergic to. But I am not able to take hormonal birth control because of a family history of stroke, among other things that hormones can lead to. The doctor won't prescribe them. We are leery of a vasectomy because the reversal rate is not as high as we would like, and we would like children someday, just not yet. The same with tube tying.
That leaves us with a choice between unfulfilling "safe" sex, or the pull-out method. But there's a problem with that as well. When he's about to cum, the head of his cock, like most men's, swells. But his gets huge, and sometimes when he pulls out, it tears my vaginal opening. The moment we should like best, hurts me, and then neither of us can really enjoy it.
We have this past year taken to having the sex we really want, unprotected and him finishing inside me, only on the one day right after my period. But I'm not entirely certain this is the best day for that, considering ovulation takes place in the next week. So what I'm wondering is, what day or two during the menstrual cycle, though not 100% safe, is the day I'm least likely to become pregnant if he ejaculates inside me?
Also, if anyone has any other forms of birth control they know of that could help us, I'd love to hear them. Any help is appreciated!
