Ever lose an erection when using condoms?

ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
My boyfriend, who is healthy, 38, and sexually experienced, has zero problems with erections and is fantastic during intercourse... until we introduce a condom. He says once he has the condom on, he can't feel anything and thus instantly starts to lose the erection. His measurements aren't large enough to call for a bigger condom than the average (although I think we'll try it anyway). We've been using two different kinds of Trojan's thinner designs thus far. I'm hoping we can find a condom that works because I can't take hormonal birth control and just pulling out still makes me a little nervous.

He's never had this problem before, but it's been about five years since he last had sex. He's too young for ED, right?

Has anyone had this happen? How did you resolve the problem?
09/23/2011
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Have you tried using a different brand of condom? US condoms tend to be thicker than necessary. Many foreign made condoms (some sold here on EF) are much, much thinner.
09/23/2011
WierdAl WierdAl
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Originally posted by ThoughtsAblaze
My boyfriend, who is healthy, 38, and sexually experienced, has zero problems with erections and is fantastic during intercourse... until we introduce a condom. He says once he has the condom on, he can't feel anything and thus instantly starts ... More
I have had issues with sensitivity whil wearing condoms before. I could go for hours without feeling anything. It would be so frustrating for me and in my mind i was thinking, wtf?

This has probably happened 95% of the time I have used condoms. The only time I could sometimes feel anything was when I used the Lifestyles condoms.

If there is no problem w/o the condom, I doubt its ED.
09/23/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Yes. We stopped using them
09/23/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
My Man and I only use them occasionally. (We're fluid bonded, so we only use non-latex condoms and only use them infrequently.) When he was younger, he had no problem with maintaining his erection while using a condom. As he got older (he's in his 50s now) he simply can't keep the erection while we're putting the condom on, unless it is put on very quickly. I am pretty sure this started happening in his late 30s.

So, we go with withdrawal. But, we're married, and have kids and fluid bonded, so it's a form of BC that works for us.

Have you tried a silicone cock ring before the erection happens? It may help him keep erect and even increase his sensitivity during the condom process.

We use these reusable cock rings on occasion. They are strong enough to help with mild blood vessel restriction, which some of the disposable ring don't help with. If these don't fit him, they make them in other sizes as well. But, these are nice to start with, and if he can put his testes into them, they may fit well. Or you can look and find a ring that constricts and yet is flexible. I wouldn't suggest metal for beginner users. Silicone is perfect, but it has to be tight enough. The one shot use cock rings are too stretchy and don't provide the needed constriction to maintain the erection.
09/23/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
My husband has trouble maintaining an erection with a condom, due to lack of sensitivity also. This has been the case since we first got together over 18 years ago, when he was just 21 years old. We haven't used them in a over 15 years, but when we did, I felt like he would lose his erection the mere suggestion of using one.
09/23/2011
married with children married with children
once along time ago. maybe 15 years ago. I remember giving her oral and forplay, then she went to put on the condom, and I lost my erection. No idea why. That is the only time that has ever happened to me.
09/25/2011
ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
Thanks for the responses everyone! We're trying new brands of condoms, and P'Gell, your advice about cock rings is great: I hadn't considered that one.

I'm wondering if part of it is mental--the need to accept the new feeling of the condom--so do you think it would be crazy to suggest he masturbate with one? If we weren't long distance, I'd be available every day to help him figure this out!
09/25/2011
babyrock babyrock
it's mostly mental. it kills the mood quite quickly for me.
09/26/2011
markwashere markwashere
Regular ones are to tight and too thick...
01/16/2012
Llahsram Llahsram
Seriously, this happens to me, but it's more a mental thing.
01/16/2012
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