When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free?

lick123 lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
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Ask them
89
Inspect down below
14
Don't ask them
2
Other
49
Total votes: 154 (111 voters)
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04/16/2011
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DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
We go get tested together, if we're gonna be serious and not use protection.
04/16/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
Both partners I have had were virgins, so I know they wouldn't have been exposed to STD's. Otherwise, I would make sure to get tested before we stopped using condoms.
04/16/2011
~Brittany~ ~Brittany~
Being tested is a good way!
04/16/2011
Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
I say grab a microscope and go after their junk lmao
04/17/2011
Batty Harlot Batty Harlot
I'd go get tested with them.
04/17/2011
PassionQT PassionQT
The only way to be certain is to get tested. Taking someone's word for it, just because they don't exhibit any symptoms, doesn't mean they don't have an STD. Many people get STD's and don't get noticeable symptoms.
04/17/2011
Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
Communication is so important. Talk to your future partner about the importance of protecting you both and get tested together. It's really nothing to be embarrassed about and both parties should know for their own health.
04/17/2011
Fullbeauty Fullbeauty
Anytime you're going to be serious and not use protection, MUST both get tested. Going together can be a bonding thing, showing how much you care for and trust each other.
04/17/2011
kawigrl kawigrl
ask, and take a look- a nice erotic body massage no contact of genitals but you get a preview, never unprotected always some type of barrier
04/22/2011
Eden C. Eden C.
I always ask. The lesbian community in my area is tight-knit and a lot of them have STDs. I always keep my eyes open for sores or unhealthy discharge. Of course, the person could be lying to me, but I think asking is the best way to know.
04/24/2011
TboyTy TboyTy
I usually get my impressions of their risk factor through discussion. In a discussion of sex in general I'll inquire about number of partners, their views on using protection, and I'll ask when was the last time they were tested. If they don't raise any red flags there I stick with the old adage "Sniff it, Lick it, Stick it" It's worked thus far.
06/20/2011
KnK KnK
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
I'm extremely picky about who I get involved with sexually. If they wanna touch this, getting tested is a requirement. I don't take people based on just their word alone....

That's how one of my girlfriends ended up getting syphilis when her ex was fooling around with other women...
06/20/2011
Rain. Rain.
tests required anyone can say they tested clean...but how recent was the test? I'm wary
06/24/2011
Amazonia Dentata Amazonia Dentata
You don't know. You can't know. They might not even know. Use a condom.

Eventually, if you two become a semi-permanent thing, you can get tested together and share the results.
07/07/2011
SapphirexIce SapphirexIce
Easy get tested together!! yay!
07/15/2011
Purpleladybug Purpleladybug
The best rule to use is always assume that every person has a std until proven other wise by test results!
08/03/2011
sexyintexas sexyintexas
We have seperated a couple of times through the years and do NOT have unprotected sex unless we have both been tested.
08/03/2011
toxie m toxie m
Asking them has always been my way, but people don't always know. That's how I managed to somehow sneakily get herpes after years of sleeping with people who told me they were definitely clean. Alas, everyone getting tested repeatedly is the only way to really know.
08/03/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
We go get tested together, if we're gonna be serious and not use protection.
No other way to really be sure.
08/07/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
We go get tested together, if we're gonna be serious and not use protection.
No other way to really be sure.
08/07/2011
Caramelgirl Caramelgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
Rather than not be safe and just go with it , I would ask the for sure .... And if the are safe then take them home and go for it ....
08/23/2011
emiliaa emiliaa
My question is, what if they aren't, like myself?

Do you just abort all ideas of a relationship simply because you might get a few warts if you have sex? I don't get the STD phobia this society injects into people. By all means be safe and such, but even with condoms, I managed to get this, so it's not like worrying about the millions of risks will make them any less, just be informed.
08/24/2011
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
My question is, what if they aren't, like myself?

Do you just abort all ideas of a relationship simply because you might get a few warts if you have sex? I don't get the STD phobia this society injects into people. By all means be safe ... More
"Do you just abort all ideas of a relationship simply because you might get a few warts if you have sex?"

I would, yes. I personally don't want to have an STD, possibly for the rest of my life. Some people might not mind but there are others, like me, who do.
08/24/2011
The Honeymooners The Honeymooners
If it became a serious thing then I would get tested with them. I give blood very often and if you have given the gift of life they test your blood and are obligated to tell you if they find a STD.
08/24/2011
IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
We go get tested together, if we're gonna be serious and not use protection.
well said
10/28/2011
Anjulie Anjulie
Quote:
Originally posted by Purpleladybug
The best rule to use is always assume that every person has a std until proven other wise by test results!
Agreed
10/29/2011
badk1tty badk1tty
Get tested together - If you can't trust me enough to know what the status of your bits are, you aren't puttin' them inside me.
10/29/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Ask them, Check down below for anything funky, get tested regularly, use protection the first few times.
10/29/2011
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Communication and honesty are a good start....
10/29/2011
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Unique posters: 67