When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free?

duff duff
Ive always asked n always used a condom
11/25/2011
SaMiKaY SaMiKaY
I ask. But before I got seriously involved with any guy, I went and got tested with them. Safety first!
12/14/2011
Collogue Collogue
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Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
my boyfriend and I are looking for a third partner and this is something i've wondered about. I think I want us all to get tested (possibly together--fun times) but I don't know if it would be weird to insist that. I mean, I didn't have my current boyfriend get tested, but he is only my second partner (and i'm his second partner)
12/14/2011
Flash777 Flash777
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
Safer to ask then be sorry!
12/21/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
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Originally posted by emiliaa
My question is, what if they aren't, like myself?

Do you just abort all ideas of a relationship simply because you might get a few warts if you have sex? I don't get the STD phobia this society injects into people. By all means be safe ... More
i understand the ridiculous stigma that STDs have, as I have herpes myself, but I'd also like to make sure that I don't get other diseases, including ones that can be cured. Condoms don't ensure 100% safe sex, but it makes sex safer.

Honestly, I would date someone with an STD because to me, it's not a big deal as long as they're doing what they can to keep it under control. If I can do it, so they can they!

Most STDs are just an annoying setback and are not at all a defining factor of a person, so I understand your frustration.
12/23/2011
fredacarl fredacarl
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
get tested togther
02/14/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
I definitely ask, but that isn't enough to go unprotected!
02/15/2012
ViVix ViVix
Oh...as a follow up to the answers...some of us don't have health insurance. The planned parenthood in my area charges $60 just for the office visit before testing is even done. So, going and getting tested often would be unlikely even though it is the best policy.
02/15/2012
richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
Ask them
02/17/2012
roskat roskat
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Originally posted by badk1tty
Get tested together - If you can't trust me enough to know what the status of your bits are, you aren't puttin' them inside me.
Well put!
03/14/2012
SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
We go get tested together, if we're gonna be serious and not use protection.
Agreed. If we're going to be in a relationship, we get tested before the condom comes off. Otherwise, protection is required to ride this ride.
03/14/2012
Howley Howley
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
ask, use protection, and no head (non protection contact) with rando's ..... and pray they dont have oral herpes
04/02/2012
tigertiger tigertiger
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
"inspecting" would not tell you anything at all. just ask if they get tested
05/14/2012
xilliannax xilliannax
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
Exchange medical paperwork stating last testing and results
05/16/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Both get tested when you decide to become sexually active. Wait another six months while being abstinent with partner sex, and test again for HIV etc.
05/30/2012
giftdgecko giftdgecko
asking is a good first step, discreet inspection and a condom to start a relationship never hurt either.
06/12/2012
AnotherBrother AnotherBrother
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
We go get tested together, if we're gonna be serious and not use protection.
This! I still use protection, however, as not STDs come from sex. Did you know it's possible to catch things from simply wearing your pants too tight (vaginosis) or liking rare steak (Hepatitis)?

No glove, no love and retesting every year. I'm paranoid that way.
06/17/2012
MaeGal MaeGal
I've only been with my current boyfriend, but before we had sex without a condom, I got checked (even though I was a virgin, just to be sure) and he got checked (as he has had past sexual partners, and he was pretty sure he was fine but didn't want to risk my health).

If I were to ever have another sexual partner (like a third person with my boyfriend and I), I would ask when they were last tested.
06/17/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Testing, since not all STDs are obvious
06/18/2012
cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
Ask them, but don't trust them until you've been tested together. Use protection until then.
06/20/2012
sexykiss sexykiss
ask them and get tested together is the best way to know
06/23/2012
ChickenFeathers ChickenFeathers
Since my wife and I were each other's one and only, all we did was ask each other beforehand.
06/27/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
Ask them, Inspect them, and ask for proof from a doctor. If you are STILL unsure walk away!
06/27/2012
Bittenflame Bittenflame
I am really paranoid baout this, so I actually prefer to se their last testing results
07/02/2012
Danneh Danneh
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Originally posted by Coralbell
Both partners I have had were virgins, so I know they wouldn't have been exposed to STD's. Otherwise, I would make sure to get tested before we stopped using condoms.
Except being a virgin doesn't necessarily mean no STDS. Some can be passed through child birth- or like... herpes is often passed through relatives kissing children's faces.
07/21/2012
Experiment Experiment
Condom. Then if you start getting serious, talk about both of you getting tested. Some more condoms. Did I mention how important condoms are?
07/24/2012
SexToys-R-Us SexToys-R-Us
ask away and you can always ask for proof too, as in the last std test results, you can never be too safe.
10/25/2012
novanilla novanilla
It depends on the situation. My current partner was a virgin before me, and had never gone further than making out, so I just got tested. We're getting HIV tested together soon too!
11/18/2012
bratcat bratcat
while i dont always ask, though it's good practice, i always get tested after new partners. If something were to come up (thank god it hasn't yet) i would contact the last person i was with and discuss it with them as they may not know they were infected/to let them know they were exposed to said STD or STI.
01/21/2013
Martiniman Martiniman
A deep and meaningful conversation needs to be had on both parts, but trust is involved.
01/22/2013
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