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Akira Akira
Responsibility for teaching safe sex should fall more upon the school or the parents?
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13  (10%)
Parent
114  (90%)
Total votes: 127
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05/30/2011
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MaryExy MaryExy
Ideally I think it's best for parents to teach it, as it makes it easier for the kid to have open, mature conversations with their parents about sex. However, I know too many kids whose parents never talked about sex, and someone has got to make sure that all kids are informed.
05/30/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Akira
Responsibility for teaching safe sex should fall more upon the school or the parents?
It is the responsibility of the parents but if they shirk that duty then teachers, clergy or doctors should take up the slack.
05/30/2011
Maeby Maeby
I agree that it should up to the parents, but I also think sexual health is an important part of an overall health curriculum.

I'm a product of an abstinence-only education, and let me tell you, it wasn't just limited to "no sex is the safest sex of all." After showing us slides of genital warts, my gym teacher held up a heart made of construction paper. She ripped three or four pieces from it, then pointed to the torn-up stump and said, "Every time you have sex with someone, you give him a piece of your heart. When you get married, this is all you have left for your husband."

My parents never had the talk with me (I don't know why), but if they had, I might have been less influenced by such "lessons." While I think it's important to teach teenagers to protect their hearts and choose their partners wisely, there are much better ways of communicating this. And, as you can imagine, there was no instructional time devoted to birth control, condoms, responsible sex, etc.
05/30/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
It is the responsibility of the parents but if they shirk that duty then teachers, clergy or doctors should take up the slack.
I completely agree. I think it should be the sole responsibility of parents, but there should be sexual education systems in place in case parents don't feel like they are able to do it.
05/30/2011
married with children married with children
the government cant handle balancing a budget, do we really want them teaching our kids safe sex?
05/31/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
I think parents should definitely talk to their children about sex, but it is also very important to have sex education in schools. Some parents just refuse to talk about it, or they may not know enough themselves to be able to teach their children.
05/31/2011
big b big b
parents first.but the school has to be safty net
05/31/2011
Linga Linga
More to the parents definitely but I think kids learning actual scientific facts about sex in school is a great in conjunction with the parents. Laving it just to the school is never a good idea.
05/31/2011
indiglo indiglo
It is a parent's responsibility. Not only that, but I would prefer teaching my child my value system relating to sex, and how they should value themselves, etc. Of course, if the parents don't do it, someone has to - so the school has to pick up the slack. But it's sad, because talking about that openly would only help the parent/child relationship. It's a missed opportunity, I think.
05/31/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Why not both?
06/01/2011
cobiffle cobiffle
parents but school shouldnt try to scare kids into not having sex
06/01/2011
KaraSutra KaraSutra
It should almost always fall on the parents shoulders, however that's something that often doesn't happen and when it does, many parents aren't very educated themselves and therefore can't address the questions in an honest, authoritative and informative way. I think it should be offered in schools with the option for parents to opt their children out of the class. However at the end of the term or course, the children will get tested just like the others. That way the parents will be expected to find a way to educate their children and take responsibility for their actions, or lack thereof.
06/01/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
Quote:
Originally posted by KaraSutra
It should almost always fall on the parents shoulders, however that's something that often doesn't happen and when it does, many parents aren't very educated themselves and therefore can't address the questions in an honest, ... More
This would be a good idea.
06/01/2011
ichigostrawberry ichigostrawberry
Parents, but I don't think schools should just teach abstinence only as a back-up kind of thing so the child might be very informed.
06/01/2011
alliegator alliegator
I think it should be a team effort: schools teach all the correct facts and parents teach their kids their family's morals and give them the skills to make mature decisions about their sexual health as they grow up.
06/03/2011
null null
I think it should be the parent's job, but we can't depend on that so i think the school should be ready to pick up the slack. At the very least the school should teach the basics to keep kids safe!
06/03/2011
js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by Akira
Responsibility for teaching safe sex should fall more upon the school or the parents?
My child and I were always close. It made is pretty easy for me.
06/03/2011
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I think the school should teach about safe sex and various diseases, and the parents as well which will hopefully allow them to make informative decisions.
07/06/2011
Amazonia Dentata Amazonia Dentata
I agree with the idea that schools should make sure students have access to facts. I think that school sex educators should assume that they will be the only reliable source for information that a kid may run into in high school, because it is often true. Peers don't know anything and many can't approach their parents, or their parents stick to a morality-only message and/or don't know how to answer questions about, say, why one would need to use a condom for non-PIV sex.

Abstinence-only education does it all wrong: it doesn't provide facts (or provides misleading or incorrect facts), and instead teaches a very specific morality that many disagree with - including many parents. I might even say, most parents.
07/06/2011
SapphirexIce SapphirexIce
I think both!!
07/15/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Akira
Responsibility for teaching safe sex should fall more upon the school or the parents?
School can teach BIOLOGY and ANATOMY..that is fine. Maybe even general sex ed, but when it come to romance and values...that is a PARENTS job. Ashamed most don't live up to that assignment, however.
07/15/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I think it should come more so from the parents, but it doesn't hurt for the school to teach some too.
07/15/2011
emiliaa emiliaa
My mom told me a little bit, but she wasn't too well informed, herself. My school told me condoms were 80% effective IF used correctly. This is entirely untrue, they're some 97-99% effective if used correctly. -_-
07/19/2011
BabyL0ve BabyL0ve
my parents never talked to me about sex except when my sister got pregnant at 16...awkward!
08/07/2011
sktb0007 sktb0007
I vote PARENTS
08/14/2011
Kkay Kkay
Hmm. Parents ideally, but there's no guarantee that the parents will, and a complete lack of sexual education isn't healthy.
08/15/2011
sarki sarki
Should be on the parents
08/15/2011
Lucky21 Lucky21
Parents should be responsible, but I feel like it should be re-enforced in school as well.
08/28/2011
Nora Nora
"Other" or "both". Not everyone's parents are aware of what "safer sex" is, let alone how to use it. I think it should be discussed at home and then reinforced in the schools. That, of course leaves the "home-schoolers" on the short stick though...
08/28/2011
Total posts: 69
Unique posters: 67