I am worried about a friend, need advice?

MJ7 MJ7
So my friend is in her 20s and when we were teenagers, she taught me pretty much everything I needed to know about safe sex, STIs, condoms, etc. She was really passionate about it and so I became the same way.

I have always been pretty safe during my sexual encounters and tend to get tested once or twice a year just to keep peace of mind.

But recently my friend has started sleeping with a lot of different people -- with no protection! I'm so worried she will get something, or end up pregnant from someone she barely knows.

But if I try to bring it up, she thinks I'm judging her or calling her a hoe. I just want her to be safe, but she isn't hearing it.

Help?
09/11/2012
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kendra30752 kendra30752
Put together a basket of condoms, semen "killer", etc. Maybe add in a nice little vibe and send it to her or have it sent to her work, house, or just put it at her doorstep. Maybe have a little card that says "be careful." Be friendly about it or you could even make it humorous? I don't know. If she's educated and still behaving ignorantly, then there's nothing YOU can do about it really. Definitely try to say or do SOMETHING though. Here's what I'd do if it were my best girl friend: I'd dicreetly bring up the topic of sex, or sexual partners, acting like I'm telling her something confident like "my partner and I enjoy doing it without a condom, but I could never do it without protection if I didn't know him." Of course I'd make it believable, but something like that usually does the trick with my close girl friends.
09/11/2012
Mwar Mwar
Is there something else deeper going on? Perhaps she is engaging in this behavior as a cry for help or perhaps she feels that she doesn't need protection or isn't worth saving. Or she may be suffering from self esteem or family pressure that make her feel like her health is unimportant. I'm not a therapist, but it sounds that something deeper could be going on here.

I would be there, and would try my best to make the conversation light at best. Always say you are there and care. I do love Kendra's idea of a gift basket.

Also... is she on pills or something against pregnancy? Because if she's not, that's a whole other host of issues as well.

I wish you luck. I have had friends go through similar things, so if you want to message me, I'm more than happy to listen. Hope it gets better.
09/12/2012
Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by MJ7
So my friend is in her 20s and when we were teenagers, she taught me pretty much everything I needed to know about safe sex, STIs, condoms, etc. She was really passionate about it and so I became the same way.

I have always been pretty safe ... More
Just sit her down and tell her you want her to be safe and live a long life. Ask her what reason has caused her to be unsafe and sleeping around. Tell her you would never judge her, but you worry for her safety. If she gets mad, keep trying. SHe needs to be aware of what risk she is putting herself in!
09/12/2012
Eve12 Eve12
Everyone else has already said everything I could think of! Good luck!!
09/13/2012
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