Would you rely on the 'withdrawal' method of birth control?

<3BF <3BF
According to planned parenthood, the 'withdrawal' or 'pull out' method is up to 96% effective if done correctly. I can see why this option would be attractive as it's 100% free, more intimate than say putting on condoms or spermicide, and won't effect hormones like other birth control options. However this method is only 73% effective if done incorrectly. How many of you have, would, or do find this option reliable? Planned Parenthood info: link
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I would trust this method but don't practice it
HannahPanda , ginas , MistressDandelion , Llahsram
4
I have trusted this in the past (on a few occasions)
funluvinmama , Missmarc , Calla , Mirachaya , MissBre , ginas , MissCara , Darklyvan , Bodhi , toxie m , <3BF , Dixiemomma , Cat E. , Anna Mattingly , Bethy Cassatt , damnbul12
16
I have trusted this in the past (consistently)
Missy May , P'Gell , Beck , Badass , JessCee , humblepie , Gunsmoke , bayosgirl , aliceinthehole , Deeder , Misfit Momma , ginas , Ansley , sunkissedJess , Em2Theilee , Ilovelingerie , All His , Fluffy Snuggles , falalena , This Is For The Birds , Emma (Girl With Fire)
21
I would never use this method of birth control
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I use this method and it works
unfulfilled , P'Gell , Beck , Badass , JessCee , humblepie , bayosgirl , pixypi , Ansley , sunkissedJess , Bodhi , Ilovelingerie , falalena , roe6989
14
I have gotten or know someone who has gottent pregnant using this method
blacklodge , humblepie , Sex Positivity , bayosgirl , ghalik , Katelyn , aliceinthehole , SallyRoo , Chilipepper , lustylusty , RonLee , MissBre , 31 Flavors , RTC , Madame Celeste , Mistress Sassy , Ansley , Arch600 , Em2Theilee , AnotherBrother , CindyH , MaeGal , g- , Peggi , pinkpottergirl , apryls , Darling Jen , MrsHouseWife , rmiles124 , epiphanyjayne , falalena , spiced , leanright69 , Pandwhora , bratcat , Jenyana , VeganChick (is Gone) , Eugler , kandy anjel , InsatiableK , freeport
41
other...
Jewlickah , mistre$$ , travelnurse , roe6989 , rosythorn , VeganChick (is Gone) , twelve13 , angel42539 , goodeatz
9
Total votes: 231 (179 voters)
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04/02/2012
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wrmbreze wrmbreze
That doesn't work because the little swimmers can come out at anytime during sex, not just during the big FINALE.
04/02/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I add this with watching my cycle and knowing when I ovulate and refrain from sex during that time I'm more fertile. Been using it for about 3 years now.
04/02/2012
Missy May Missy May
I don't know why it worked for me, probably because most of the time I was on birth control. But there was a long stretch of time that I was not on birth control and we still used the pull out method with no unwanted pregnancy.

And I'm still using it. But atm i am also on the mini pill and nursing.

Also, I know that this is NOT safe, but during the five years I've been having sex, I've used a condom.... maybe.... 5 times?

We did not get pregnant till we wanted to. Would I tell this to someone impressionable or irresponsible? No. I would not suggest this method to anyone. I got really lucky. Either that, or they're teaching the correct way to do it in sex ed now. Just kidding!
04/02/2012
Beck Beck
We use this method off and on. It works well for us. A guy needs to know he has great control over his ejaculation. If the male can not control it even a small drop, it will not be successful. There is always a chance of it not working, but there is a chance of any birth control failing you.
04/02/2012
funluvinmama funluvinmama
An ex and I did this in the past and I ended up pregnant. I trusted him instead of following my own feelings about not having sex that moment.
04/02/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by wrmbreze
That doesn't work because the little swimmers can come out at anytime during sex, not just during the big FINALE.
Not true. As long as the man's urethra was "rinsed" with urination since the last ejaculation, there will be NO sperm released before actual full ejaculation.

We used to be told "pre-cum" had sperm in it, and it only does if the urethra wasn't rinsed with urine after the last ejaculation.

Sperm doesn't just Ninja Pop Out any time during penile stimulation.

My husband and I have used withdrawal on and off for years. We are VERY fertile (considering if he DOESN'T pull out, I get pregnant every time) yet when we use withdrawal, I don't get pregnant.

The man has to have a LOT of control. The man has to urinate fully before sex starts. He has to be willing to pull out before the orgasm or ejaculation starts, and both partners have to be willing to use the system. It usually only works in dedicated relationships where the partners trust each other and are both on the same page.

My Man is pretty well versed in this system and can pull out before a single drop of real semen is released, yet has no complaints with the method. Our using it came about because of my inability to use the Pill, allergy to latex, (and Large non-latex condoms being impossible to find) not being able to use a diaphragm due to urinary issues on my part and the fact that most of them are made of latex, and simply knowing we love sex but didn't want a child every other year of our entire relationship.

It works if both members of the couple work on it. I don't trust "Natural Family Planning" (or "watching your cycle") because I have gotten pregnant several times while supposedly in my "safe time" so we just use withdrawal all the time.
04/02/2012
wrmbreze wrmbreze
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Not true. As long as the man's urethra was "rinsed" with urination since the last ejaculation, there will be NO sperm released before actual full ejaculation.

We used to be told "pre-cum" had sperm in it, and it only ... More
I said that because that is what we were taught in nursing school, no one ever mentioned anything about rinsing the urethra..You learn something new everyday. This was 2010-2011 when we were told this btw.
04/02/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
I think it can be a perfectly reliable method if both partners are very knowledgeable about their bodies and are obviously fluid bonded with each other. Watching the woman's fertility cycle in addition, as unfulfilled suggests, does increase the effectiveness.

For my partner and I it has not been our preferred method since we're both comfortable with other forms of birth control, but there's nothing wrong with withdrawal if done correctly.
04/02/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by wrmbreze
I said that because that is what we were taught in nursing school, no one ever mentioned anything about rinsing the urethra..You learn something new everyday. This was 2010-2011 when we were told this btw.
I was taught the same thing in during my nursing education. As I work in Maternal Infant Health, I try to keep up with newer research. A LOT of what we were taught in nursing school (not to mention things taught in Medical School) are not only outdated, but were untrue at the time they were being taught.
04/02/2012
Badass Badass
but in my circumstances, if i become pregnant we would be okay with it..
04/02/2012
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
I wouldn't trust it. Even if it is 96% reliable, that's not good enough for me.
04/02/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
According to planned parenthood, the 'withdrawal' or 'pull out' method is up to 96% effective if done correctly. I can see why this option would be attractive as it's 100% free, more intimate than say putting on condoms or ... More
I'd suggest just read the Planned Parenthood page thoroughly if someone wants to practice this method.
04/02/2012
NurseKitty NurseKitty
I think it's fine if a child is something that you may want eventually. But my husband and I do not want any children so we are extra careful and use another form of birth control
04/02/2012
humblepie humblepie
I've relied on this for around two years with no mishaps. A friend of mine did become pregnant while using this method, but I suspect her boyfriend actually wanted her to get pregnant (to keep her in the relationship), and he would often pull out a bit later than he should have.

This method requires a lot of trust from both partners, and a ton of discipline from the male, but it can work. Luckily I should be getting on the pill soon
04/02/2012
HannahPanda HannahPanda
I thought that pre-cum was dangerous as well because it carries sperm? Ah, I'm a lesbian, not like it's useful for me but I like to make sure my friends are doing things safely lol
04/02/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I wouldn't rely on this. That's how people get pregnant. If you use this you should use one other method
04/02/2012
voenne voenne
I've only used this method in the past while on some other sort of birth control, but now I would never risk it.
04/02/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I used this method for a long time in HS & college. I hate condoms and most of my single days were pre AIDS, so for us STDs mostly amounted to 'The Clap' (gonorrhea) - a quick course of antibiotics and your back in the game.

By my mid college years 99% of the girls were on the pill. Never had any kids until we planned it when I was 37 years old.
04/02/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
No way. It only takes one little guy...
04/02/2012
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
No way, too much of a risk!
04/02/2012
vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
I have never relied on this method, and I NEVER would.
04/02/2012
Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
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Originally posted by vanilla&chocolate
I have never relied on this method, and I NEVER would.
Amen.
04/03/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Hmm.. I'll put in my two cents. I've used this method almost exclusively (I would use condoms in the beginning of my relationships or during my period) for 6 years + and never got pregnant until a couple of months ago. I was SHOCKED that I got pregnant, because like many people I believed that "pre-cum doesn't have sperm." According to Wikipedia (and I know a lot of people think that source isn't trustworthy but I don't have any qualms about it), SOME men do have sperm in their pre-cum and some don't. Of those who do, there are usually so few sperm that, on average, pregnancy will only occur 2.5% of the time. Here's the article in case anyone's interested (warning: very NSFW pic):Link

So basically, pregnancy with the W/D method is unlikely, especially if the man does it properly, i.e. pulls out before he ejaculates. An interesting side note from personal experience: I've always heard that men find this very, very difficult. Both of my partners have said they didn't masturbate until later in life (I'm talking 20's and 30's) and they both did/do this technique easily. So I'm thinking not having the experience of making himself cum helps a man control the "urge" when it comes to pulling out. That's just my opinion, I'm not a sex expert by any means.

As for the method, we're still using it, even though he says he wants to wait four months to conceive after my MC. I figured it wouldn't make sense to go on hormonal BC for just a few months since we want to conceive again so soon. I have to confess I won't be upset if I get pregnant again but I'll be very impressed with my guy and his little swimmers that could.
04/03/2012
VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
There's no way I'd rely on this method alone! It's just too risky for me and that's a risk I'm absolutely not willing to take! If it's going "in" you and you don't have any other protection and think this will work just fine it's just... stupid to me. I take birth control pills and always have even a month or longer before we actually started having sex because I'm really careful.
04/03/2012
emelgee emelgee
I'm sure some people with very good luck can have it work, but it's very risky if you're sincerely trying to prevent pregnancy!
04/07/2012
JunexMommy JunexMommy
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
According to planned parenthood, the 'withdrawal' or 'pull out' method is up to 96% effective if done correctly. I can see why this option would be attractive as it's 100% free, more intimate than say putting on condoms or ... More
I would never rely on just pull out, thats how i got pregnant actually!
04/08/2012
Tork48309 Tork48309
Really? No way would I chance it.
04/08/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by emelgee
I'm sure some people with very good luck can have it work, but it's very risky if you're sincerely trying to prevent pregnancy!
It has nothing to do with "luck" and everything to do with ability to control one's ejaculation, time it and get out in time. As well as knowing to pee before sex and trusting your partner.

It works well with couples who have done the research and are willing to do what it takes. No luck involved. Just skill.

My husband and I are VERY fertile! If this method didn't work, we'd have more kids. We have sex once with no birth control and I get pregnant. But, we've used withdrawal successfully for years.
04/09/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I hate it. Had one FWB who did it - irritated the fuck out of me that he'd just pull out and not want to be intimately connected at that moment. He knew I was on the Pill, too, so it wasn't like anything would happen. It was likely habit, but still ... I'm responsible enough to take care of my own fertility - trust me when I say not to worry on your end.
04/18/2012
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