What are your thoughts on "Slut Shaming"?

Contributor: Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
This goes a bit hand in hand with judgement calls on appearance, but then there's the judgement calls passed on a woman's sexual preferences, or her sexual etiquette with men: having had many sexual partners or having multiple at the same time is deemed as immoral and wrong, leading to this weird hangover of old world disgrace that haunts them and their friends.

I myself dislike one-night-stands, but I have nothing against girls/women who choose to have multiple partners-- it is still a viable and healthy life for anyone (if not for me), and I think we need to put the judgement hammer away.

What do you think of slut shamming or female disgracing? Is this a thing in your community? Have you gone through it? Would you say it has been applied to men, or is only a female thing?
01/18/2013
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
The only time I've ever heard a man call another a slut for his sexual behavior or style of dress was between one gay man to another and it was in a joking manner. Like "go on with your bad self, girl".

Slut is almost always used as a way to suppress a woman's sexuality and freedom to dress as she feels comfortable. So yes, it only applies to women and it only applies to women who openly display their sexuality.
01/18/2013
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
I've never really heard it applied to men.

I remember in the 8th or 9th grade when a girl was upset about being called a slut. The teacher tried to reassure her, saying that she shouldn't worry about it "as long as it isn't true". So, is there a magical number of people that a girl has to have sex with before being considered a slut, or what? Even back then I felt that there was something wrong with that conversation.

I've been called a slut by people driving by me quite a few times, and I often here men (and women) close to my age calling others sluts.

Slut shaming is something I am strongly against, which is why I feel somewhat conflicted about enjoying being called a slut in a sexual setting.
01/18/2013
Contributor: marriedlady123 marriedlady123
It still very much is alive...I especially remember it in high school and college. I do disagree with the previous commenters though, I have heard men referred to as sluts quite often, although there almost always is in a joking and congratulatory way.
01/18/2013
Contributor: vulvalicious vulvalicious
I don't agree with female disgracing and it's not a thing in my life, though it may be in my community and I'm just not aware of it. I noticed this happening some around me when I was in high school and college. It's not something I have gone through per se. I do remember a few times in college when I was called names depicting sexual promiscuity that were meant to be insulting to me. I was at the time quite sexually inexperienced and monogamous so the name calling was not based on my sex life, but again, meant just to insult me. I see slut shaming as largely being a result of a schema common to the society we live in that contributes to a stereotype of women who have many different sexual partners at the same time or frequently as being dirty, immoral or sexually promiscuous.
01/18/2013
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Bethy Cassatt
This goes a bit hand in hand with judgement calls on appearance, but then there's the judgement calls passed on a woman's sexual preferences, or her sexual etiquette with men: having had many sexual partners or having multiple at the same ... more
I find it ridiculous. I don't get why people judge each other on things like appearance or personal choices. I've gone through it and it is just annoying.
01/18/2013
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I personally don't agree with promiscuity, whether it be a male or female. However, to each their own. I've got enough on my own plate to worry about.
01/19/2013
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Everyone can have their feelings hurt. Doesn't matter if you are a slut or if you are a virgin, everyone can have their feelings hurt by a lot of things said/done to them.

I don't think anyone should feel bad about being a slut, but I also don't think it's something to brag about. Much like I don't think you should go around bragging that you're a virgin, or that you're gay, lesbian, trans, etc. It's just who you are, nothing more, nothing less.

If we're not shaming virgins or non-promiscuous people, we are shaming the sluts and the whores, so to speak.

It doesn't makes it right, it really doesn't, but if we try to stop society from blaming one "kind" of people (using kind in quotes because I'm not sure how else to put it, not meaning any offense), then they will just move on to another kind of offense.

Personally, I don't agree with sleeping with anyone and everyone and making a total mess out of your life, but I've been there. I've been that girl getting sex where she could because it felt good and for no other reason. I've been the girl drinking until she passed out and not caring who saw her naked or touched her sexually. -shrugs- So, to each his or her own, really.
01/19/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
I'm very sex-positive. The very idea of "shaming" someone because they have more sex than someone else would like is completely disgusting.

Life's too short. Let's all be who we are, do what we want to do and live and let live.
01/22/2013
Contributor: Trixxxy Trixxxy
Many women (and some men) have constantly ridiculed me for doing what I want with who I want in the past. They can all go fuck themselves. Most of them are jealous because they can't get a boyfriend to stick with them for more than a month.

I don't care who does what with whom as long as it's consensual and within reason.

If those people want to go their entire life without fully living out their sexual experience, GOOD FOR THEM. But that's not for me.

As much as I disapprove of this word it applies to my situation.....YOLO!
01/22/2013