Looking to buy my boyfriend a book on giving oral sex and whatnot to woman because...he needs it! I thought it would be a nice gift for him. Help me pick one out?
Best book for teaching how to pleasure a woman?
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Which book(s) would you pick?
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Have you read any of these books?
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Is there anything else you would recommend?
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Would like to keep it down to your favorite two!
01/13/2013
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Clit-ology
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Would like to keep it down to your favorite two!
01/14/2013
Clit-ology
01/14/2013
She comes first was great
01/14/2013
Clit-ology
01/14/2013
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I was actually learning towards that one but it seems Clit-ology is a winner with most people.
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amazon
She comes first was great
01/14/2013
I know this isn't the most helpful answer, but forget the books... and promise a great blowjob right after he goes down on you.
Then, while he is down there, be vocal. Tell him what you need, how you need it, and how it makes you feel.
You teaching him what you need will work infinitely better than a silly book.
Then, while he is down there, be vocal. Tell him what you need, how you need it, and how it makes you feel.
You teaching him what you need will work infinitely better than a silly book.
01/15/2013
I think directions from you are most helpful but I've heard good things about She Comes First, and I Love Female Orgasm has great authors (I've seen them speak before) and has lots of other advice about female orgasm.
01/15/2013
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Thanks for your advise, but I have actually tried the "telling." I think he is a more visual learner and is in need of a quicker reference. I can't really tell him how to please me. I tried, and it really failed because he knows the female anatomy very little. Also, I have found that even when I did give him direction, and I would get quiet in pleasure/thought, he would stop doing whatever he was doing. I figure this way he can read up on it then ask me questions as he goes.
Originally posted by
MrWill
I know this isn't the most helpful answer, but forget the books... and promise a great blowjob right after he goes down on you.
Then, while he is down there, be vocal. Tell him what you need, how you need it, and how it makes you ... more
Then, while he is down there, be vocal. Tell him what you need, how you need it, and how it makes you ... more
I know this isn't the most helpful answer, but forget the books... and promise a great blowjob right after he goes down on you.
Then, while he is down there, be vocal. Tell him what you need, how you need it, and how it makes you feel.
You teaching him what you need will work infinitely better than a silly book. less
Then, while he is down there, be vocal. Tell him what you need, how you need it, and how it makes you feel.
You teaching him what you need will work infinitely better than a silly book. less
I actually don't see giving him a book as "silly." I'm no sex expert, or anatomy expert so half the things I do to myself I can't explain to him how to do. I also have never been touched properly (heh) by a guy so it's almost like the blind leading the blind. But he can def. ask questions along with the book. A majority of how I learned to do blowjobs was off of the internet/books. I didn't know guys had so many sweet spots until I did some research.
01/17/2013
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Books can be awesome ! Not everyone really knows what they like, either.
Originally posted by
Bleu
Thanks for your advise, but I have actually tried the "telling." I think he is a more visual learner and is in need of a quicker reference. I can't really tell him how to please me. I tried, and it really failed because he knows the
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Thanks for your advise, but I have actually tried the "telling." I think he is a more visual learner and is in need of a quicker reference. I can't really tell him how to please me. I tried, and it really failed because he knows the female anatomy very little. Also, I have found that even when I did give him direction, and I would get quiet in pleasure/thought, he would stop doing whatever he was doing. I figure this way he can read up on it then ask me questions as he goes.
I actually don't see giving him a book as "silly." I'm no sex expert, or anatomy expert so half the things I do to myself I can't explain to him how to do. I also have never been touched properly (heh) by a guy so it's almost like the blind leading the blind. But he can def. ask questions along with the book. A majority of how I learned to do blowjobs was off of the internet/books. I didn't know guys had so many sweet spots until I did some research. less
I actually don't see giving him a book as "silly." I'm no sex expert, or anatomy expert so half the things I do to myself I can't explain to him how to do. I also have never been touched properly (heh) by a guy so it's almost like the blind leading the blind. But he can def. ask questions along with the book. A majority of how I learned to do blowjobs was off of the internet/books. I didn't know guys had so many sweet spots until I did some research. less
The first time my boyfriend went down on me, neither of us had any idea what we were doing. Being eaten out is so much different than being fingered, it's difficult !
And sometimes it's hard to discuss, especially in the act. Books are awesome teaching tools, I mean look at all of the sex-based books that exist purely to teach and improve. I hope he likes it, good luck !
01/18/2013
Might want to make sure that won't offend him before you get it, lol. Criticizing someone's sexual skills can be kind of cruel.
01/18/2013
She Comes First by Ian Kerner is also good
01/18/2013
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Outright doing it is! Being like "hey, you suck at this." is horrible! But being like "hey, I thought you might like this book" is a more subtle and nicer form of saying "I'd like it if you were better at this...here." I've actually told him I would like him to improve and to look stuff up a bit.
Originally posted by
emiliaa
Might want to make sure that won't offend him before you get it, lol. Criticizing someone's sexual skills can be kind of cruel.
Our relationship goes on the fact that we shouldn't be offended by constructive criticism, we are both beginners with MUCH room for improvement. It will lead to a better time for both me and him if I improve on the things he tells me and he improves on the things I tell him. He has a bit more backbone than to get mad if I say "you suck at oral. Here's a book." (I wouldn't say the first sentence).
01/19/2013
Clit-ology
01/22/2013
The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus 2nd edition, hand down!! The best!!!
02/22/2013
clitology
03/03/2013
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Have you read any of these books?
01/13/2013
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I want t
Originally posted by
Bleu
Have you read any of these books?
01/14/2013
I want them
01/14/2013
He has read "She comes First", and I can say...I do, everytime.
01/22/2013
I haven't.
01/24/2013
She comes first was a good read
01/26/2013
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This could be tips, articles you've read, other books from other websites, videos, toys that help him, etc. I just want to give him the greatest start since it's kinda weird to try to explain to him what to do while he is doing it! I'm kinda helpless in that way.
Any tips you have for me too, as his girlfriend, would be awesome too!
Any tips you have for me too, as his girlfriend, would be awesome too!
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I actually just picked up The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women
I'm reading through it now and so far I am learning quite a bit that I never knew before. It's proving to be quite helpful.
I also want to read Clitology and The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus, too. They might be on my order list once I'm done with this book.
I'm reading through it now and so far I am learning quite a bit that I never knew before. It's proving to be quite helpful.
I also want to read Clitology and The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus, too. They might be on my order list once I'm done with this book.
01/14/2013
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Thank you for the replay I am really in-between figuring out which book to get him.
Originally posted by
wrecklesswords
I actually just picked up The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women
I'm reading through it now and so far I am learning quite a bit that I never knew before. It's proving to be quite helpful.
I also want to read Clitology and The ... more
I'm reading through it now and so far I am learning quite a bit that I never knew before. It's proving to be quite helpful.
I also want to read Clitology and The ... more
I actually just picked up The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women
I'm reading through it now and so far I am learning quite a bit that I never knew before. It's proving to be quite helpful.
I also want to read Clitology and The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus, too. They might be on my order list once I'm done with this book. less
I'm reading through it now and so far I am learning quite a bit that I never knew before. It's proving to be quite helpful.
I also want to read Clitology and The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus, too. They might be on my order list once I'm done with this book. less
01/17/2013
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