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Do you prefer a male or female gynecologist, or does it not matter?
I prefer a male gynocologist over a female. The female professionals I have had the displeasure of being groped by are usually insensitive and distant or unconcerned about my problems. My physician's assistant is a nightmare and I can't understand why because my GP (her boss) is fantastic and she's spent her entire career with him. He listens, she stares off in the distance. But anyway, yeah male.
06/06/2011
I've had pap smears by multiple different male and female doctors. Often it hurts when a male does it. It never hurts when a woman doctor does it. I'm guessing that its taught in medical school that the cervix has no nerve endings. While this is technically true, pap smears still hurt if you're rough about it.
I have a female gyn now. I LOVE her.
I have a female gyn now. I LOVE her.
06/24/2011
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I'm puzzled by this. I've had internal sonograms. What they insert is only about a half an inch wide. I can't imagine why they would make them large.
Originally posted by
Petite Valentine
You would think, but I once had an internal pelvic sonogram done by a female tech and she was the least compassionate person I ever met. She couldn't seem to grasp that shoving a HUGE piece of HARD plastic into my vagina is UNCOMFORTABLE when
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You would think, but I once had an internal pelvic sonogram done by a female tech and she was the least compassionate person I ever met. She couldn't seem to grasp that shoving a HUGE piece of HARD plastic into my vagina is UNCOMFORTABLE when I'm not in the mood, no matter how much lube she used. By comparison, the male tech was very careful, gentle, and continuously asked if I was alright.
06/24/2011
I prefer females, but when I was pregnant I had to see one of the male ob/gyns at an appointment as well as when I was in labor because my female ob/gyn wasn't there yet.
It made me so uncomfortable, but it is what it is. As long as I can help it I'd prefer a female because it's easier to talk to them about any problems and concerns I have. Everyone I know prefers a male though, so I always thought I was weird for this
It made me so uncomfortable, but it is what it is. As long as I can help it I'd prefer a female because it's easier to talk to them about any problems and concerns I have. Everyone I know prefers a male though, so I always thought I was weird for this
06/24/2011
Wow! This question is really good because I've desperately had questions about my own self in this area. I have a SERIOUS phobia which I usually don't refer to it in this way, but it does fit, with male ob/gyns. I DO NOT LIKE IT! I've had a very hard time with this, I don't know if it came from a really traumatic experience I had 5 years ago or what, but it brings back those awful memories for some reason and I feel violated all over again. See I've always had a female and my friends would act like I was crazy, they all prefer men and say it's disgusting to prefer a female! I thought something was wrong with me for being so freaked out by it. It doesn't feel right to me, a man doing my pap smears and such.
Last year when I had surgery (endometriosis and female issues) myOB/GYN was a male and they told me HE needed to do a pap smear himself RIGHT AFTER I'd just had it done by a female which was not my regular ob/gyn anyways and she screwed things up so badly with patients she ended up fired! Anyways, I totally freaked and cried and asked her to please, please understand and let me have a female! She told me it was not possible any where in my area or in chattanooga which is about an hr away where I knew they had to have female OB/GYN'S she laughed and blew it off. So I ended up going for it & had the rest of the day with horrible memories and it just brought up everything from that experience 5 years ago with the rapist. I don't know why, but I've strongly protested against ever letting a male do my health stuff and then I had no choice. It felt awful and most people think I'm stupid for it, but it truly brought really nasty feelings back for me.
Anyways, this male OB/GYN done my surgery and kept telling me NO SEX, NO TAMPONS, NO VAGINAL ANYTHING! I assumed it was because of just the surgery which they went through my stomach right under my belly button. I didn't think much of it and then I found out on my own that he'd stitched my cervix! I think he should've told me that. He wouldn't. I called and asked him why it was stitched, he had no answer.
Every 2 weeks for months before my surgery he wanted to "feel inside" I fucking hated it and didn't understand the reason for it. I mean at least let the nurse who's standing in the same room do it if I'm THAT uncomfortable. I wish it never happened. So yes I totally prefer a female and will NEVER, EVER let a male touch me or look at me again (of course my partner, but that's all!)
I also prefer a female because when I went through all that pain and suffering nearly my entire life, there was no way a male could truly know what I felt or even relate to it and women can. Women can relate to those types of things much more than a male even if the male has 100 degrees, he still can never know what it's like or even close to what it's like. I have a specific female OB/GYN now and actually was supposed to see her for a shot today, but it wasn't possible so I didn't go. I will not see anyone besides her now. I just think women are more able to relate and understand and plus I don't feel it's any man's business to take it upon himself to do things to me knowing I don't want him to. If a woman asks for a female to do those things then the male dr. should take that into consideration and not blow it off.
Last year when I had surgery (endometriosis and female issues) myOB/GYN was a male and they told me HE needed to do a pap smear himself RIGHT AFTER I'd just had it done by a female which was not my regular ob/gyn anyways and she screwed things up so badly with patients she ended up fired! Anyways, I totally freaked and cried and asked her to please, please understand and let me have a female! She told me it was not possible any where in my area or in chattanooga which is about an hr away where I knew they had to have female OB/GYN'S she laughed and blew it off. So I ended up going for it & had the rest of the day with horrible memories and it just brought up everything from that experience 5 years ago with the rapist. I don't know why, but I've strongly protested against ever letting a male do my health stuff and then I had no choice. It felt awful and most people think I'm stupid for it, but it truly brought really nasty feelings back for me.
Anyways, this male OB/GYN done my surgery and kept telling me NO SEX, NO TAMPONS, NO VAGINAL ANYTHING! I assumed it was because of just the surgery which they went through my stomach right under my belly button. I didn't think much of it and then I found out on my own that he'd stitched my cervix! I think he should've told me that. He wouldn't. I called and asked him why it was stitched, he had no answer.
Every 2 weeks for months before my surgery he wanted to "feel inside" I fucking hated it and didn't understand the reason for it. I mean at least let the nurse who's standing in the same room do it if I'm THAT uncomfortable. I wish it never happened. So yes I totally prefer a female and will NEVER, EVER let a male touch me or look at me again (of course my partner, but that's all!)
I also prefer a female because when I went through all that pain and suffering nearly my entire life, there was no way a male could truly know what I felt or even relate to it and women can. Women can relate to those types of things much more than a male even if the male has 100 degrees, he still can never know what it's like or even close to what it's like. I have a specific female OB/GYN now and actually was supposed to see her for a shot today, but it wasn't possible so I didn't go. I will not see anyone besides her now. I just think women are more able to relate and understand and plus I don't feel it's any man's business to take it upon himself to do things to me knowing I don't want him to. If a woman asks for a female to do those things then the male dr. should take that into consideration and not blow it off.
06/24/2011
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There ya go. Now that's exactly what I was trying to explain, only I get overly-explainy and end up sounding confusing and crazy! lol You said it better.
Originally posted by
deletedacct
I doesn't really matter but i feel more comfortable with a female gynecologist. They have a vagina, i have a vagina- vagina connection?
06/24/2011
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Kendra, that's exactly the reason why you need to tell them that you REQUIRE (not 'need' but require) a female OB/GYN - because of rape trauma. Any clinic that does not accommodate patient requests especially under such circumstances should be dropped immediately. Your fears are legitimate, and they should have been more sensitive to such a situation.
Originally posted by
kendra30752
Wow! This question is really good because I've desperately had questions about my own self in this area. I have a SERIOUS phobia which I usually don't refer to it in this way, but it does fit, with male ob/gyns. I DO NOT LIKE IT! I've had
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Wow! This question is really good because I've desperately had questions about my own self in this area. I have a SERIOUS phobia which I usually don't refer to it in this way, but it does fit, with male ob/gyns. I DO NOT LIKE IT! I've had a very hard time with this, I don't know if it came from a really traumatic experience I had 5 years ago or what, but it brings back those awful memories for some reason and I feel violated all over again. See I've always had a female and my friends would act like I was crazy, they all prefer men and say it's disgusting to prefer a female! I thought something was wrong with me for being so freaked out by it. It doesn't feel right to me, a man doing my pap smears and such.
Last year when I had surgery (endometriosis and female issues) myOB/GYN was a male and they told me HE needed to do a pap smear himself RIGHT AFTER I'd just had it done by a female which was not my regular ob/gyn anyways and she screwed things up so badly with patients she ended up fired! Anyways, I totally freaked and cried and asked her to please, please understand and let me have a female! She told me it was not possible any where in my area or in chattanooga which is about an hr away where I knew they had to have female OB/GYN'S she laughed and blew it off. So I ended up going for it & had the rest of the day with horrible memories and it just brought up everything from that experience 5 years ago with the rapist. I don't know why, but I've strongly protested against ever letting a male do my health stuff and then I had no choice. It felt awful and most people think I'm stupid for it, but it truly brought really nasty feelings back for me.
Anyways, this male OB/GYN done my surgery and kept telling me NO SEX, NO TAMPONS, NO VAGINAL ANYTHING! I assumed it was because of just the surgery which they went through my stomach right under my belly button. I didn't think much of it and then I found out on my own that he'd stitched my cervix! I think he should've told me that. He wouldn't. I called and asked him why it was stitched, he had no answer.
Every 2 weeks for months before my surgery he wanted to "feel inside" I fucking hated it and didn't understand the reason for it. I mean at least let the nurse who's standing in the same room do it if I'm THAT uncomfortable. I wish it never happened. So yes I totally prefer a female and will NEVER, EVER let a male touch me or look at me again (of course my partner, but that's all!)
I also prefer a female because when I went through all that pain and suffering nearly my entire life, there was no way a male could truly know what I felt or even relate to it and women can. Women can relate to those types of things much more than a male even if the male has 100 degrees, he still can never know what it's like or even close to what it's like. I have a specific female OB/GYN now and actually was supposed to see her for a shot today, but it wasn't possible so I didn't go. I will not see anyone besides her now. I just think women are more able to relate and understand and plus I don't feel it's any man's business to take it upon himself to do things to me knowing I don't want him to. If a woman asks for a female to do those things then the male dr. should take that into consideration and not blow it off.
Last year when I had surgery (endometriosis and female issues) myOB/GYN was a male and they told me HE needed to do a pap smear himself RIGHT AFTER I'd just had it done by a female which was not my regular ob/gyn anyways and she screwed things up so badly with patients she ended up fired! Anyways, I totally freaked and cried and asked her to please, please understand and let me have a female! She told me it was not possible any where in my area or in chattanooga which is about an hr away where I knew they had to have female OB/GYN'S she laughed and blew it off. So I ended up going for it & had the rest of the day with horrible memories and it just brought up everything from that experience 5 years ago with the rapist. I don't know why, but I've strongly protested against ever letting a male do my health stuff and then I had no choice. It felt awful and most people think I'm stupid for it, but it truly brought really nasty feelings back for me.
Anyways, this male OB/GYN done my surgery and kept telling me NO SEX, NO TAMPONS, NO VAGINAL ANYTHING! I assumed it was because of just the surgery which they went through my stomach right under my belly button. I didn't think much of it and then I found out on my own that he'd stitched my cervix! I think he should've told me that. He wouldn't. I called and asked him why it was stitched, he had no answer.
Every 2 weeks for months before my surgery he wanted to "feel inside" I fucking hated it and didn't understand the reason for it. I mean at least let the nurse who's standing in the same room do it if I'm THAT uncomfortable. I wish it never happened. So yes I totally prefer a female and will NEVER, EVER let a male touch me or look at me again (of course my partner, but that's all!)
I also prefer a female because when I went through all that pain and suffering nearly my entire life, there was no way a male could truly know what I felt or even relate to it and women can. Women can relate to those types of things much more than a male even if the male has 100 degrees, he still can never know what it's like or even close to what it's like. I have a specific female OB/GYN now and actually was supposed to see her for a shot today, but it wasn't possible so I didn't go. I will not see anyone besides her now. I just think women are more able to relate and understand and plus I don't feel it's any man's business to take it upon himself to do things to me knowing I don't want him to. If a woman asks for a female to do those things then the male dr. should take that into consideration and not blow it off.
(Boils my blood that rape victims' distrust of the gender that violated them are poo-poo'ed like that. WTF?)
Plus that OB/GYN guy didn't sound like a legit character anyway; I mean NOT telling you that your cervix is stitched up??? That's kinda important to know.
06/24/2011
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I didn't have my measuring tape, but it was closer to an inch wide. Maybe it was older tech? I don't know, but I wanted to KILL that woman. I tried to be a trooper, but when I couldn't help the occasional, "Ow, that hurts," she got angry with me like I was trying to ruin her day. I was young, so I let her finish the sonogram, but if I knew then what I know now, I would have told her to fuck off and send in another tech.
Originally posted by
Tuesday
I'm puzzled by this. I've had internal sonograms. What they insert is only about a half an inch wide. I can't imagine why they would make them large.
@ kendra30752:
I'm so sorry that happened to you. The dismissal of your concerns was completely unprofessional, and if the OB/GYN performed surgery without your consent — my insurance company qualifies anything that breaks skin as a form of surgery — then he should be reported to the medical board, that is completely unacceptable.
However, with regards to the second pap smear or your desire to have the nurse perform an examination, I can tell you they insist on the doctor doing it for malpractice insurance reasons. Of course that's still no excuse for not letting you have a female OB/GYN in the first place. What jerks I would definitely report them to the state medical board.
06/24/2011
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Maybe the technician was having a bad day, but she still should have been more understanding - used lots of lube, gone slow, etc.
Originally posted by
Petite Valentine
I didn't have my measuring tape, but it was closer to an inch wide. Maybe it was older tech? I don't know, but I wanted to KILL that woman. I tried to be a trooper, but when I couldn't help the occasional, "Ow, that hurts," she
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I didn't have my measuring tape, but it was closer to an inch wide. Maybe it was older tech? I don't know, but I wanted to KILL that woman. I tried to be a trooper, but when I couldn't help the occasional, "Ow, that hurts," she got angry with me like I was trying to ruin her day. I was young, so I let her finish the sonogram, but if I knew then what I know now, I would have told her to fuck off and send in another tech.
@ kendra30752:
I'm so sorry that happened to you. The dismissal of your concerns was completely unprofessional, and if the OB/GYN performed surgery without your consent — my insurance company qualifies anything that breaks skin as a form of surgery — then he should be reported to the medical board, that is completely unacceptable.
However, with regards to the second pap smear or your desire to have the nurse perform an examination, I can tell you they insist on the doctor doing it for malpractice insurance reasons. Of course that's still no excuse for not letting you have a female OB/GYN in the first place. What jerks I would definitely report them to the state medical board.
@ kendra30752:
I'm so sorry that happened to you. The dismissal of your concerns was completely unprofessional, and if the OB/GYN performed surgery without your consent — my insurance company qualifies anything that breaks skin as a form of surgery — then he should be reported to the medical board, that is completely unacceptable.
However, with regards to the second pap smear or your desire to have the nurse perform an examination, I can tell you they insist on the doctor doing it for malpractice insurance reasons. Of course that's still no excuse for not letting you have a female OB/GYN in the first place. What jerks I would definitely report them to the state medical board.
06/24/2011
I have a female gyn., I choose her because I heard she is excellent and will listen. I had doubts however, when I wanted an IUD and she had concerns inserting an IUD in a woman who was not previously pregnant Since I was never pregnant, I felt she was giving me a hard time and was ready to find someone else, she did relent and now have an IUD. I guess she was being cautious, perhaps that's a plus.....
Overall, for me it depends on the person, expertise and ability to relate rather then gender.
Overall, for me it depends on the person, expertise and ability to relate rather then gender.
06/24/2011
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I've had good and bad Gynos of both sexes. I think it all depends on how they treat you and how well you can get along. If they are rude and invasive from the get go, you will have a lot harder time. I've had some that told me my vagina was fat, hairy, lopsided, or are just not careful and make me bleed. I've had others that were calm and attentive, and pleasant to talk to without making stupid judgements.
Originally posted by
Petite Valentine
My family members think I'm nuts because I didn't insist on a female gynecologist. I think gender isn't important as long as the doctor is good at what s/he does. What about you guys?
06/27/2011
I used to only stick to female gynos until this one time, haha... I was eighteen and I made an appointment for my pap. Turned out my normal doctor wasn't in, but a male doctor was ALONG WITH A DAMN FEMALE GYNO IN TRAINING. So there I was, on the table, legs spread wide with a Speculum too large for me that I wasn't used to (my previous clinics had smaller sized ones for teenage girls), with two people peaking and poking at my vagina, taking turns. And as if the speculum didn't hurt enough to begin with, the lady had problems getting it in which hurt way more. The entire session took 20 minutes longer than it usually would have. So yeah, now I don't give a fuck. I doubt I can have a worse experience with a pap with any doctor, no matter what gender or how many lol
06/27/2011
I prefer a female Ob/Gyn, but not a necessity.
I started seeing a female practitioner when i was younger & going to the sexual health clinic for pills and yearly checkups.
When away at college, I have gotten a PAP at the local clinic by a male practitioner, and now i am back to seeing the female at the clinic.
more awkward for me with a male- but at the same time it is an important test and examination, so i could care less as long as i'm healthy!
I started seeing a female practitioner when i was younger & going to the sexual health clinic for pills and yearly checkups.
When away at college, I have gotten a PAP at the local clinic by a male practitioner, and now i am back to seeing the female at the clinic.
more awkward for me with a male- but at the same time it is an important test and examination, so i could care less as long as i'm healthy!
06/29/2011
I have the bestest male gyno ever!!!! I feel safe discussing my sexual habits/history with him as women have frequently been more judgmental or critical in the department.
He makes the typical doctor-patient small talk they do with students: life, school & career choices. He always tells me I'm making the right choice by doing what I love with my life (apparently happy women have healthier ovaries). Recently he mentioned how he also loves his job because he loves and respects women and wants to do his part to keep ladies healthy. I think his frank honesty has a lot to do with why I keep coming back.
He makes the typical doctor-patient small talk they do with students: life, school & career choices. He always tells me I'm making the right choice by doing what I love with my life (apparently happy women have healthier ovaries). Recently he mentioned how he also loves his job because he loves and respects women and wants to do his part to keep ladies healthy. I think his frank honesty has a lot to do with why I keep coming back.
07/07/2011
