Do you think knowing your lovers "Number" is important?

TexasBrat TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes, I think it's important to know how many they've been with.
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18  (14%)
No, I don't think it's important to know specific numbers.
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86  (67%)
Other (please explain).
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24  (19%)
Total votes: 128
Poll is closed
06/02/2011
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Taylor Taylor
I don't need to know an exact number, but I would like to have a general idea of how experienced they are.
06/02/2011
clp clp
I don't like discussing my past with a current partner because I can't stand hearing about theirs. Jealousy is powerful but negative, in this case. Questions lead to more questions and its just a dark down spiral.
06/02/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
I don't need to know an exact number, but I would like to have a general idea of how experienced they are.
I agree completely. I would like to know in general, but I don't need specifics
06/02/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
Quote:
Originally posted by clp
I don't like discussing my past with a current partner because I can't stand hearing about theirs. Jealousy is powerful but negative, in this case. Questions lead to more questions and its just a dark down spiral.
Agreed. I like knowing what each of us has done, but not how many people we've done it with.
06/02/2011
Kdlips Kdlips
nope
06/02/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
The 2 people I have had sex with were both virgins before me, so I feel that it was important for them to let me know that. Otherwise, I wouldn't really care what the specific number was.
06/02/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
I don't need to know an exact number, but I would like to have a general idea of how experienced they are.
I agree 100%.
06/02/2011
Alyjazz Alyjazz
It's not something that is important to me. I might ask out of curiosity, but in the end it really doesn't matter either way. Sometimes it's best not to know. If he's been with 20 and ive been with 1...I'm bound to feel more awkward when he have sex than if I didn't know the number.
06/03/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
not something i need to know or really honestly want to
06/03/2011
Ms. Paprika Ms. Paprika
I'd say I don't need to know the exact number, but rather how experienced they were. Since I'm in college, which is like a breeding ground for STD's, I'd also usually go with them to get tested, regardless of the number. All it takes is one unprotected encounter.
06/03/2011
link82 link82
I don't need to know an exact number, but I like to have a general idea if it's been a lot.
06/03/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I don't think it's important at all.
06/03/2011
Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by clp
I don't like discussing my past with a current partner because I can't stand hearing about theirs. Jealousy is powerful but negative, in this case. Questions lead to more questions and its just a dark down spiral.
I totally agreed with you!
06/04/2011
NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
I don't need to know how many partners they have had however I would like to know how experienced they are.
06/04/2011
ichigostrawberry ichigostrawberry
I mean... the number itself doesn't matter, but if they are withholding it it is more of an issue of the trust factor.
06/04/2011
joja joja
Quote:
Originally posted by ichigostrawberry
I mean... the number itself doesn't matter, but if they are withholding it it is more of an issue of the trust factor.
Exactly. Though I don't really care about the number itself, I would be weirded out if they were insistent on keeping it from me.
06/05/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
Nope, Because what he did before me shouldn't matter, We didnt know we were going to cross paths so i can't be upset or worried about what was before me.
06/05/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
I don't think it's very important.
06/07/2011
ID42 ID42
My husband and I have been married 10 years now and I still don't exactly know how many partners he has had and he doesn't know an exact number of mine. It was never important. We had both been careful and when we weren't, we were tested regularly afterward. I do know that my number at the very least doubles his, but he was more discerning and picky about it. Almost romantic about his previous encounters. And I was out for experience and experimentation.
06/07/2011
Ariel6909 Ariel6909
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
His number is his past
06/10/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
NO! There have been times where I have wondered about a partners or a love interest numbers, but really, I don't want to know. I don't want that running around my head and wondering where I fit in - as in how good I am compared to them.
06/11/2011
buzzvibe buzzvibe
I have no clue how many lovers my partner has had, and I don't care. It's all in the past.
06/11/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
Obviously we are in the minority on this one, but both of us (him and her) feel that in a long term, trusting relationship, one should know the history of the person you are spending your life with. It is a window in to who they are now, and why. Helps you also repeat what is good for them, and avoid what they did not like...even in others.
06/11/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by buzzvibe
I have no clue how many lovers my partner has had, and I don't care. It's all in the past.
I am wondering if this is a generational thing. Older lover I am guessing, might want to know more then younger ones, who grew up in a culture where having "lovers" did not mean there was a huge emotional attachment and commitment of self for "long term", as it did in the past? Just guessing.
06/11/2011
mandiegk mandiegk
Quote:
Originally posted by Shellz31
NO! There have been times where I have wondered about a partners or a love interest numbers, but really, I don't want to know. I don't want that running around my head and wondering where I fit in - as in how good I am compared to them.
This is exactly how I feel - if I knew the number I would be thinking about it all the time.
06/11/2011
Lady Venus Lady Venus
Nope!
06/14/2011
ToriToy ToriToy
I don’t need to know my partner’s number but I do like to know their experience level. To me someone’s experience doesn’t have to go hand in hand with the amount of partners they havehad, and knowing just helps to determine if they know firmly what they like and don’t or of they are still exploring and I need to be extra careful. I am also paranoid of STI’s so I always go with a new partner to get tested while getting tested myself.
06/14/2011
Rossie Rossie
I don't want to know about his past relationships at all - I'm the jealous type.
06/14/2011
Yessi Yessi
well i just want to be safe thats it.
06/15/2011
Total posts: 81
Unique posters: 77