I can't shave every day because it irritates my skin. if I'm not actively with a partner I usually let it grow how it wants, it doesn't bother me, it just takes longer to shave it next time. I don't really care what the doctor does or doesn't like. I don't like some old guys' fingers up my ass or in my cooch and I get them anyways. He can deal with it since the hair is spread out enough to not cause visibility issues.
I think the most I would ever shave would be once a week or less due to my sensitive skin, and the fact that the initial stuff that grows back is insane to shave.
In any case.. I just leave it how it is for the doctor.. I don't care and he shouldn't care. It's traumatizing enough for me with hair, it'd be worse if I was fully exposed. It'd be so much colder!