How is this possible?

I was talking to my great friend. I had not talk to her in FOREVER, so I was so excited when she called. We talked for hours and hours. I don't know how the convo lead to sex, but it did. We were talking about sex toys, and she told me she had NEVER had an orgasm. How is that possible? I mean I could understand not having one during sex, but not even alone? I asked her even when masturbating? she said yeah! She would masturbate for more than a half hour with NO luck. So, I'm curious? How is this possible? Is it something she sould be worried about? she asked me if she sould get checked out. I told her I didn't think it was that big of a deal, but I'd ask around.

I don't think I've ever had a time when I didn't orgasm. I mean it did happen ONCE and that was because of the antidepressants I was on (No she isn't on any). less

Some women never orgasm. I've heard it's possible to go your whole life and never experience it. One theory is that the earlier on a woman started masturbating the better ability and control she has over her orgasms. Maybe your friend started masturbating very late in life? less

It might just be that she doesn't know what she needs in order to orgasm. Everyone is different. My mom didn't have her first orgasm until late in life. It's just a matter of her finding what she needs in order to orgasm. She should try getting a toy or two and experimenting. less

I don't know this feeling personally but a friend of mine was 27 before she experienced her first orgasm! She used all kinds of toys, she couldn't have them during sex, she couldn't even orgasm when someone ELSE used them on HER, until she started seeing a physician for it, she never really discussed those details but after years and years of seeing a Dr. and actually therapy because she was worried something was wrong with her and needed a professional to talk to, she managed to have her first, and hasn't had trouble since. less

My mom once told me that she didn't have her first orgasm until sometime after she'd been married to my dad (sometime during her mid 20's, I think). Having been 'gasming since I was twelve, I found this to be quite shocking. I never asked her how she finally achieved it, though.

Everybody has different requirements, I suppose. I've also heard that some people just need to keep at it for a really, really long time. less

I had a hard time coming for years, then learned some positions -69 and cowgirl- that helped when with a partner and LOTS of foreplay from a loving partner, and then by being VERY patient with myself and through the use of toys. I was raised in a conservative family/school as well. That didn't stunt my sexual interest, i just had to inform myself of sexual health and what works for me in an open and accepting way. 'Orgasms' by Lou Paget was a very insightful read as well. Good luck to her less

I'm seeing a sexual physical therapist for my vaginismus. I had no idea you could see one for orgasm troubles. I might bring that up to her in a casual way. hahaha I'm glad your friend finally was able and now is not having problems. I couldn't begin to understand how annying not being able to orgasm could be. less