I'm thinking/hoping that I just have a weak bladder.... HELP.

Contributor: *Ashley* *Ashley*
I am a 24 year female with two kids (ages 4 & 2). I have noticed lately that I have a weak bladder. When I have to pee I have .3 seconds to either make it to the bathroom or cross my legs & pray I don't pee on myself. I have had abnormal pap smears in my past (young adult/teen years) but when the doctors looked father into, everything was fine.

Is this normal!?!??? I was thinking me having kids could of caused this issue. Maybe I now have a.. weak vagina? I was wondering if you thought Exercisers for vaginal muscles would help. I don't know how to use them or anything. If it would help though, I am all about giving it a try! I don't have any health insurance; so going to the doctor is put on the back burner for me. I understand this is not a medical hotline or anything. I figured I'd ask in hopes of receiving good & helpful answers.

Thanks in advanced.
01/10/2013
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Contributor: Mwar Mwar
Of course I must say that you should talk to a doctor to make sure everything is okay.

Kegals are known to strengthen the pelvic floor, so it could indeed help.
01/10/2013
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
I think that setting up some sort of kegel (the exersises that strengthen the pelvic floor) routine is an excellent idea!
01/10/2013
Contributor: *Ashley* *Ashley*
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Originally posted by Gracie
I think that setting up some sort of kegel (the exersises that strengthen the pelvic floor) routine is an excellent idea!
Any advise on what to start with??
01/10/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
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Originally posted by *Ashley*
Any advise on what to start with??
Start with your own muscles!

If you don't know how to do them, start when you're going pee. In the middle of going, make the flow stop. This is the muscle you want to be working. Try at first with peeing. Stop and hold it for a minute, then go, stop and hold it, then go. Once you're familiar with using that muscle, you can do it throughout the day as you're doing other things. I just randomly do them as I think of them.

There are awesome items that you can use as tools for helping with these exercises. Vaginal balls are a good place to start, but truly, if you have any dildos, you can always just tighten your muscles around it and do it that way. The balls are more discreet since you can do it in public and no one will know. I would recommend getting a set that has a cord on it. Something like the Luna Beads or Smart Balls would be something to look into since they are easier to remove.

Having this issue is normal. It just means you need to work those muscles a little more! Having kids can make them weak, especially if you didn't do Kegels before birthing, but start now and I'm willing to bet you'll see a difference!
01/10/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Start with your own muscles!

If you don't know how to do them, start when you're going pee. In the middle of going, make the flow stop. This is the muscle you want to be working. Try at first with peeing. Stop and hold it for a ... more
Excellent answer!!! Kegels are amazing at helping with incontinence!!!
01/11/2013
Contributor: VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
I know this migt sound crazy but is there any chance you could be pregnant? Even if you don't believe you are you could still take a test anyway.
01/11/2013
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
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Originally posted by *Ashley*
I am a 24 year female with two kids (ages 4 & 2). I have noticed lately that I have a weak bladder. When I have to pee I have .3 seconds to either make it to the bathroom or cross my legs & pray I don't pee on myself. I have had abnormal ... more
I've had similar experiences here, and doing exercises to strengthen the pelvic muscles has definitely helped.

If you have a hard time focusing on kegels on your own, I recommend picking up a set of vaginal balls. Personally, I really like the LELO's original Luna beads because there are 4 different weights you can work your way up through.

Try to see a doctor if you can, especially if there's any pain or burning with the urgency to pee. I've become more prone to bladder infections too, since I had my son, and those can take antibiotics to go away completely. I know the doctor's appointment itself can be pricey, but there's plenty of pharmacies out there that will fill the antibiotic at low or no cost.

Good luck to you, and it will get better!
01/11/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by *Ashley*
I am a 24 year female with two kids (ages 4 & 2). I have noticed lately that I have a weak bladder. When I have to pee I have .3 seconds to either make it to the bathroom or cross my legs & pray I don't pee on myself. I have had abnormal ... more
It could be that your bladder has been affected, but you can definitely improve your entire downstairs' strength with kegel exercises. I had some very minor symptoms of rectocele and began using kegel balls daily back during the summer and I have had huge improvements! I still use my kegel balls almost daily.

Giving birth, especially more than once is so likely to cause that. It's really, really common, but the good thing is, if it is minor right now, you can improve the strength with kegels & after reading what I have about prolapse (of the bladder or rectum), you definitely can make a big difference if you're proactive now. So yes, I do think they'll help, provided you go about it correctly, which would mean being diligent in doing the kegels and choosing the proper size product. I say that because some women find that the average size kegel ball is too big to actually work their muscles (this was my case), so we often have to use a mini ball such as the Luna Mini Beads, which are the set I've been using daily.

You don't have to use a kegel product, but I'd been doing kegel exercises for years and didn't actually notice real improvement until I began using the balls. Maybe it's just that when I started using the balls, I began doing at least triple the amount of kegels, who knows, but I do think you'd benefit from them.

Sorry to hear about your situation with health insurance. I hope you found some help here and if you get confused looking for the right kegel product (if you do choose to use one), you can always message me or someone else who's used several different one diligently. I've tried several & have a big opinion on each. Lol. I will tell you one thing that'll come in handy -- if you want a kegel ball, make sure it's one that has an inner ball that rolls around (Smartballs, Luna Beads, Etc.) Those that are glass or the balls/eggs that do not have an inner ball don't give you as great of a work out. In my case, the bigger the rumble I get from the ball, the better the exercise is. For instance, I have the Bedroom Kandi set and they did not rumble at all (provide that rumbly sensation), so they caused me to not work my muscles near as much as my Luna Beads, which provide the biggest, most often rumble than any other kegel ball I've used.

Well, I hope this is helpful. If I've confused you, let me know & I'll try and clear it up.

Hope you get some relief soon!
01/11/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by Gone (LD29)
I've had similar experiences here, and doing exercises to strengthen the pelvic muscles has definitely helped.

If you have a hard time focusing on kegels on your own, I recommend picking up a set of vaginal balls. Personally, I really ... more
PS. About bladder infections -- have you tried changing to an all natural soap for downstairs? If not, I highly recommend using a natural soap. Seriously, it seems to be one of the most common causes of bladder infections. My twin suffered since we were children and so does my neice, so I got them both some Ayurvedic soap that's all natural and has amazing ingredients (Auromere is the name, super cheap, totally natural!) and neither have had a single infection since! Also, for relief from bladder infection, aloe vera (taken internally) can be super helpful! Forskohlii can too, which is also what my twin sister takes now. I have taken it, and unfortunately, it makes me nauseas every time, so not sure if that'd be a great option for others.


*PS. I'm not a doctor & not recommending these herbs for treatment, but just stating what I've learned & what has helped me. Just hoping I might be of some help to someone else since the topic came up. If ya'll are having issues with it & haven't tried these options before, you should do some research to see about it.

Wishing you all good bladder health!
01/11/2013