If you found out you were pregnant today...

Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
If you or your partner found out you were pregnant today, with your current life situation, how would you feel and what would you choose to do?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
*How would you feel?*
1
Ecstatic
27
Happy
43
Relieved
4
Neutral
13
Upset
90
Angry
25
Worried/Anxious
160
Overwhelmed
147
Confused
91
*What would you choose to do*
3
Parent the child
111
Place the child for adoption
15
Seek an abortion
107
Total votes: 837 (292 voters)
Poll is closed
08/23/2012
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ValerieRayne ValerieRayne
I picked that I would overwhelmed and parent the child. I already have 4 kids and The Boyfriend and I have agreed that we're in no way ready for a 5th, so if I found out I was pregnant today, I'd literally be freaking out.

I think I would probably cry a lot and call everyone in my support network to get their opinions (which I know would be abortion). I would make The Boyfriend come home from work immediately to calm me down from all the talk of abortions and probably be really bitchy towards him. I would probably be really bitchy towards everyone...

I don't know what I would really do about it. I've always said that I'd never have an abortion. I believe in our rights to have them if we choose, I just can't imagine myself doing it. I don't want to think about the emotional turmoil that I would go through. My family is completely against adoption unless it's within the family, whereas I'm open to the concept of open adoption, but then again, I couldn't imagine giving up one of my own.

It would be a hard decision to make for sure and one that I know would affect us for the rest of our lives, regardless of the outcome good or bad. So, honestly, I don't know what I would do... What we would do...
08/23/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
I really hope this wouldn't happen to me. I'm not ready for kids. I can't even take care of myself most days.
08/23/2012
Ansley Ansley
I would abort. No questions asked. Kids do not fit into nor they have a place in my lifestyle.
08/23/2012
Beck Beck
If I found out, I would be neutral about it. I already have two children, so I would opt to parent this child as well. Abortion isn't an option for myself unless medically necessary. I would make my appointment with my OBGYN and hope that she would work with me when my insurance ends here in a few months.
08/23/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
If I found out, I would be neutral about it. I already have two children, so I would opt to parent this child as well. Abortion isn't an option for myself unless medically necessary. I would make my appointment with my OBGYN and hope that she ... More
Sorry your insurance is ending. I've lived without insurance for years, so I know how stressful it is. I hope you can get coverage soon, somehow.
08/23/2012
Kitka Kitka
I would be worried/upset/overwhel med and probably opt for abortion only because we really cannot afford another child that has to eat gluten-free. I'd rather get a full hysterectomy at this point in my life but I'm too young for anyone to contemplate even doing it.
08/23/2012
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
I would abort. No questions asked. Kids do not fit into nor they have a place in my lifestyle.
Amen. Same here.
08/23/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I voted "happy, relieved, worried/anxious." Yes, quite the gamut of emotions! I miscarried my first pregnancy, which was a "surprise" pregnancy, back in March. Since then I've had a huge hole in my heart. I've been wanting to conceive again, but fears about miscarrying again, not having health insurance, and being in a part of the country where there are no birth centers (NOT giving birth in a hospital is very important to me) have held me back. DH and I tried this month, but it looks like I'm going to be having a period here soon.
08/23/2012
pirata pirata
I would be worried and anxious and confused. I think I would have an absolute heart attack and I know I am not ready for any of that. So I think an abortion would be my only real option.
08/23/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Kitka
I would be worried/upset/overwhel med and probably opt for abortion only because we really cannot afford another child that has to eat gluten-free. I'd rather get a full hysterectomy at this point in my life but I'm too young for anyone to ... More
Wow. Seriously? You would abort a child just because she/he MIGHT need a gluten free diet? You do realize rice and beans are like .50 cents a pound?

Usually I don't respond to things like this, but that really irks me. I am pro choice to a certain point. But there should be some kind of legitimate reason to end a fetus's life.
08/23/2012
Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
Wow. Seriously? You would abort a child just because she/he MIGHT need a gluten free diet? You do realize rice and beans are like .50 cents a pound?

Usually I don't respond to things like this, but that really irks me. I am pro choice to ... More
That's not fair. She has her reasons and you don't live in her home; you shouldn't be judging her hypothetical decisions.
08/23/2012
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
I would abort. No questions asked. Kids do not fit into nor they have a place in my lifestyle.
Same here.
08/23/2012
SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
I'm staunchly pro-life (with the exception of the mother's life at risk, such as ectopic pregnancy). With 2 kids already, I would choose to parent the child. If I was in a situation where for some reason there just could not be a child involved in our lives, I would seek adoption.
08/23/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
It would have to be an immaculate conception at this point (several factors that make pregnancy impossible) - so that might be an indication that Higher (or otherwise) Powers have Plans. Best not to mess with it and just live with it.
08/23/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Worried and overwhelmed for sure. I would keep it.
08/23/2012
js250 js250
Since I had a hysterectomy due to medical issues when I was 22--I would be one rich woman!! And possibly dead after the birth, since the babies that attach to organs either do not survive themselves or the woman doesn't. I think only 3 have lived--to date.
08/23/2012
kitty91 kitty91
My husband & i only have one childs and shes 3 so if it were to happen i wouldnt be devasted id be kinda happy(: but we arent trying just yet
08/23/2012
CountryPrincess CountryPrincess
I have one daughter (3) and my bf has a daughter too (almost 2) that we are in a custody battle to at least get partial custody for. Due to all the bills my ex husband left me with and all the bills his soon to be ex wife is leaving him with we are in now way ready for another baby right now.... I actually had the scare last month and was freaking out. I want another baby so bad, BUT not right now! I want us to be married first and more stable than what we are now before we take that next step.
08/23/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
Wow, at 19, a sophomore in college, with a boyfriend who is going t be in school for 5 more years and my hopes to get into a 4 year medical school 2 years from now... That would be one hard choice. I mean, wow... I think that it would be both of our choices, and we'd have to make it when the time came, but I'm leaning towards adoption. We certainly wouldn't abort a perfectly healthy baby to two perfectly healthy teenagers just because it would be inconvenient.

Tough poll, glad it hasn't turned into a pro-life/pro-choice flame war like it would on any other site!
08/23/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
That's not fair. She has her reasons and you don't live in her home; you shouldn't be judging her hypothetical decisions.
This. Someone's reasons are their own regardless of how you feel about them.

I would be upset, angry, confused, and overwhelmed. I have one kid and that's all I want. I have to come off my meds if I'm pregnant and that does NOT end well. Plus one is how many I can handle. I couldn't possibly deal with two children. I'd be constantly overwhelmed. Plus I send my son to one of the best private schools in the area. I couldn't afford to do that for two and I wouldn't want a child's education to suffer.
08/23/2012
PeachCandy PeachCandy
I would totally freak out. I'm done having kids but I found out today I was having another, I would definitely count it as a blessing
08/23/2012
Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
This. Someone's reasons are their own regardless of how you feel about them.

I would be upset, angry, confused, and overwhelmed. I have one kid and that's all I want. I have to come off my meds if I'm pregnant and that does NOT ... More
Those are all sound reasons! My reason is just that when it comes to my personal life I'm a selfish twat and I don't want to share that with a creature that demands attention at every turn. I don't even like super-cuddly pets. Give me my space, please! It just wouldn't be fair to bring a child into that environment knowing what my patience level is with them and their need for constant supervision and attention.
08/23/2012
edeneve edeneve
I'd be rich, in the Guiness Book Of World Records, a science specimem, or going absolutely crazy - had a full hysterectomy 7 years ago.
08/23/2012
michael scofield michael scofield
Im broke so My child would be broke too
08/23/2012
Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
my Mister and i both have a child from previous relationships and i know he doesnt want another, but having gone through a recent pregnancy scare i can say confidently that we'd both agree to keep the child and raise it, but while i'd be happy to have another child this really isnt the best time for either of us to have to deal with another kid
08/23/2012
Rawr4483 Rawr4483
I would be completely overwhelmed at such an unexpected change of events.
08/23/2012
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I'm really surprised that there is almost an even amount of abortion/parent answers and absolutely zero for adoption. I'm completely pro-choice but wow!

Personally, I always told my fiance that the absolute earliest I would be okay with a pregnancy would be this month. I'm 8 1/2 months away from getting my college degree so if I were to get pregnant now, a child would not affect my graduation date. Sure, being pregnant in my senior year would suck, but it's better than having an infant to care for while I'm writing research papers. At this point, I would be anxious and worried, but I'd decide to parent.
08/23/2012
Chefbriapink Chefbriapink
If I am pregnant, it is because I planned it. I love women
08/23/2012
Vaginas Vaginas
I'm not ready for a baby
08/23/2012
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Unique posters: 175