If you found out you were pregnant today...

Rey Rey
worried and anxious, as we are a lesbian couple!!
08/24/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
If you or your partner found out you were pregnant today, with your current life situation, how would you feel and what would you choose to do?
I would be most confused since I am supposed to be sterile and my current partner is 100% sterile and has been for over 14 years! I wouldn't ever abort a healthy fetus and since I already have three kids one more wouldn't be the end of the world...but we would be wondering what the hell happened!

Now don't get me wrong, I totally believe in a woman't right to choose whether she wishes to carry a child to term...I just know "I" would not be able to abort a healthy fetus. However, some people do not have a place in their lives for children and I respect their decisions.
08/24/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Rey
worried and anxious, as we are a lesbian couple!!
Still, if you could prove there was no male involved it could revolutionize being lesbian! You know, provided you actually wanted a child.
08/24/2012
*Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
If I were to find out right now I was pregnant I would be on an emotional roller coaster of happy,anxious,scared,e cstatic I mean the list really goes on. I want a baby so bad but right now isn't the time but "IF" I did end up pregnant then it was meant to be. I would choose to carry my baby to term whether my partner wanted the child or not, I am the one carrying the baby and it is my body. I do NOT believe in abortion unless the pregnancy will kill mother or child. I am Pro-Life (: I fully believe in adoption for unwanted pregnancies, the baby did NOT ask to be conceived so I think it should at least have a chance at life with myself or a family who would love to raise my child. I would NEVER abort or put my child up for adoption as it will be hard for me to get pregnant on my own to begin with.
08/24/2012
Do emu Do emu
Quote:
Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
If you or your partner found out you were pregnant today, with your current life situation, how would you feel and what would you choose to do?
All the bad negative feelings would come up. I want to be in control of my body and thus my life, so I would choose to have an abortion.
08/24/2012
KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
I cant imagine having a kid at the moment. I would be scared of what it would do to my body and labor is scary on its own. My life of constant traveling would not be good for children. I work too much to have time to parent a kid.
08/24/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
Get an abortion. In 5 years super happy. Right now it would just be a well that sucks. Lets go see a Dr.
08/24/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by hyacinthgirl
I would completely go for adoption. I really don't understand the whole 'It's better for it to never be born than to be with a loving family who has spent scads of money and waited years for the opportunity to have a newborn baby'. ... More
Lest we forget about all of the children who aren't adopted as infants, who sit in group homes waiting, hoping, and praying that someone will think they aren't too damaged to take home "to keep".

I have met a lot of adopted children in my day, and few were normal, healthy, happy and well-adjusted children.
08/24/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by indiglo
...POSSIBLE food intolerances seem like a pretty shallow reason to terminate a fetus's life...


In your opinion. Sometimes in life it proves beneficial to run our lives by our own principles... while allowing others the luxury to do ... More
08/24/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by hyacinthgirl
I'm really confused as to why so many people immediately jump to abortion without even considering adoption. Many adoption agencies will set birth mothers up with families who will pay for the costs of the pregnancy to ensure the birth of a ... More
How about because pregnancy does extremely wicked things to a woman's body and it's her choice whether or not she wants to go through that. It's not just "oh, here's your new baby, kthnxbye". There are life long and permanent changes that come with carrying a child to term.

There is also the added fear of the child coming back into their life at a much later date, there is having to explain to a future spouse that you've already had a child and that can weigh heavily on a relationship...

In this day and age? The stories I hear in the news about what adoptive parents and foster parents have done to children? There's no way in hell I would put a kid up for adoption. If I had an option for a private adoption and I knew the potential parents like the back of my hand, I might consider it. Heavy on the might.
08/24/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
If you or your partner found out you were pregnant today, with your current life situation, how would you feel and what would you choose to do?
It would have to be a miracle if it happened, but we had tried for another for years and years. If I were pregnant today, I would be thrilled beyond measure.
08/24/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Beck
If I found out, I would be neutral about it. I already have two children, so I would opt to parent this child as well. Abortion isn't an option for myself unless medically necessary. I would make my appointment with my OBGYN and hope that she ... More
DON'T let your insurance end. Find some way to keep even the most basic of catastrophic coverage. Believe me, being without health insurance is worse then being without food or without transportation. It is THEN that an appendix pops or a leg gets broken and it can wipe you out financially for years or decades. NOT worth it. PLUS staying insured..even the most inexpensive and basic policy, makes it easy to get a NEW policy elsewhere later. Losing ALL insurance makes it darn near impossible to get new insurance later if you have ANY...I mean ANY minor health issue.
08/24/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Ryuson
Wow, at 19, a sophomore in college, with a boyfriend who is going t be in school for 5 more years and my hopes to get into a 4 year medical school 2 years from now... That would be one hard choice. I mean, wow... I think that it would be both of our ... More
There are better and worse times to have a kid. Believe me, medical school and having a young child...while it has been done by some, is the ultimate in nightmare hard. Residency is actually worse, in some ways, since for three or four years, "home" is somewhere you go crash to catch a VERY FEW hours of sleep once in a GREAT while. NO.....plan well to WAIT if being a doctor is in your future.
08/24/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I already have two, but I'd parent another. I'd be worried because I don't have insurance, and my husband makes just enough that we're not available to get free insurance but not enough to support 5 of us.
08/24/2012
Danielle915 Danielle915
I picked confused since my tubes are tied...not very possible for me to get preggers...lol
08/24/2012
Bodhi Bodhi
Worried/Anxious. I'd abort it.
08/24/2012
RealToMe RealToMe
Quote:
Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
If you or your partner found out you were pregnant today, with your current life situation, how would you feel and what would you choose to do?
Freaked out. Adoption.
08/24/2012
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
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Originally posted by Ansley
Lest we forget about all of the children who aren't adopted as infants, who sit in group homes waiting, hoping, and praying that someone will think they aren't too damaged to take home "to keep".

I have met a lot of adopted ... More
Yeah, those kids who are almost all there because one or another of their bio parents (usually drug-addicted, in jail, or some other reason a court has judged them unfit to keep the child in their home) has been too selfish and unconcerned for their child's welfare to give up their parental rights. those are the kids who get ripped out of loving, wanting home if their sperm donor or incubator suddenly decides that they want their kid back, because we still have this asinine idea that blood bonds are more important than bonds of love and caring.

You hear horror stories about adoption because 'Adoptive parents love their child and raise a perfectly normal child' is not news. Scare-mongering and hate is news. I've known so many families who have tried every available recourse to adopt, including fostering older children, and watching the devastation they go through as these children are ripped from their happy, stable home lives and given back to people they don't even know. There's a reason so many Americans are going to China and Russia to get children - Chinese and Russian bio parents usually don't pop back up, demanding the loved child back. We need to get the Oliver Twist mythos out of our heads. Adoption is not cruelty or abandonment, it's not heartless, it's not unnatural, and it's not something anyone should be against.
08/24/2012
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
Be confused cuz im a boy
08/24/2012
Khanner Khanner
I'd be pissed off, look into suing barr laboratories, and have an abortion.
My choice has nothing to do about the hypothetical life of a hypothetical child. I simply don't want to be pregnant or give birth. That's it.

Where life begins or begins to have value is an entirely subjective viewpoint. A fetus can not be said to be sentient during the first trimester when most abortions are performed. I would be hurting no one.
08/24/2012
chelly411 chelly411
I would love it. I love babies!
08/24/2012
hjtee hjtee
We've been trying for years, so I'd be extremely happy!
08/31/2012
ToyGeek ToyGeek
I'd be pretty darned baffled because there's no biological way. I don't know what I'd do, but I can't see myself having an abortion.
08/31/2012
mistre$$ mistre$$
More anxious than anything.
09/01/2012
heather-mooney heather-mooney
haha HAH ah AHhAHA I WOULD FREAK THE FUCK OUT
09/01/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by Bignuf
DON'T let your insurance end. Find some way to keep even the most basic of catastrophic coverage. Believe me, being without health insurance is worse then being without food or without transportation. It is THEN that an appendix pops or a leg ... More
I have no control over when my insurance will end. I can't afford insurance so I have been on state medical. We will only qualify for the next 6 months. They are cutting us off because we make too much. Yet we make to little to afford a basic insurance plan for a family of four. It's over 700 a month through hubbies work.
09/01/2012
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
I'd be overwhelmed and upset, so I'd have to abort. I'm just not ready for kids.
09/01/2012
Illusional Illusional
Considering I haven't had sex... confused... and sad. Cause I'm lonely.
09/01/2012
Lioncub Lioncub
There would be lots of emotions at our house. There is no question that we would keep the child and shower it with love though. Our youngest is 14 and I had my tubes tied right after she was born. Trying to start over now would be hard and nothing we would plan to do, but things happen for a reason.
09/01/2012
Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
Wow. Seriously? You would abort a child just because she/he MIGHT need a gluten free diet? You do realize rice and beans are like .50 cents a pound?

Usually I don't respond to things like this, but that really irks me. I am pro choice to ... More
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09/01/2012
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