If you found out you were pregnant today...

All the bad negative feelings would come up. I want to be in control of my body and thus my life, so I would choose to have an abortion.

Lest we forget about all of the children who aren't adopted as infants, who sit in group homes waiting, hoping, and praying that someone will think they aren't too damaged to take home "to keep".

I have met a lot of adopted children in my day, and few were normal, healthy, happy and well-adjusted children.

How about because pregnancy does extremely wicked things to a woman's body and it's her choice whether or not she wants to go through that. It's not just "oh, here's your new baby, kthnxbye". There are life long and permanent changes that come with carrying a child to term.

There is also the added fear of the child coming back into their life at a much later date, there is having to explain to a future spouse that you've already had a child and that can weigh heavily on a relationship...

In this day and age? The stories I hear in the news about what adoptive parents and foster parents have done to children? There's no way in hell I would put a kid up for adoption. If I had an option for a private adoption and I knew the potential parents like the back of my hand, I might consider it. Heavy on the might.

It would have to be a miracle if it happened, but we had tried for another for years and years. If I were pregnant today, I would be thrilled beyond measure.

DON'T let your insurance end. Find some way to keep even the most basic of catastrophic coverage. Believe me, being without health insurance is worse then being without food or without transportation. It is THEN that an appendix pops or a leg gets broken and it can wipe you out financially for years or decades. NOT worth it. PLUS staying insured..even the most inexpensive and basic policy, makes it easy to get a NEW policy elsewhere later. Losing ALL insurance makes it darn near impossible to get new insurance later if you have ANY...I mean ANY minor health issue.

There are better and worse times to have a kid. Believe me, medical school and having a young child...while it has been done by some, is the ultimate in nightmare hard. Residency is actually worse, in some ways, since for three or four years, "home" is somewhere you go crash to catch a VERY FEW hours of sleep once in a GREAT while. NO.....plan well to WAIT if being a doctor is in your future.

Freaked out. Adoption.

Yeah, those kids who are almost all there because one or another of their bio parents (usually drug-addicted, in jail, or some other reason a court has judged them unfit to keep the child in their home) has been too selfish and unconcerned for their child's welfare to give up their parental rights. those are the kids who get ripped out of loving, wanting home if their sperm donor or incubator suddenly decides that they want their kid back, because we still have this asinine idea that blood bonds are more important than bonds of love and caring.

You hear horror stories about adoption because 'Adoptive parents love their child and raise a perfectly normal child' is not news. Scare-mongering and hate is news. I've known so many families who have tried every available recourse to adopt, including fostering older children, and watching the devastation they go through as these children are ripped from their happy, stable home lives and given back to people they don't even know. There's a reason so many Americans are going to China and Russia to get children - Chinese and Russian bio parents usually don't pop back up, demanding the loved child back. We need to get the Oliver Twist mythos out of our heads. Adoption is not cruelty or abandonment, it's not heartless, it's not unnatural, and it's not something anyone should be against.

I have no control over when my insurance will end. I can't afford insurance so I have been on state medical. We will only qualify for the next 6 months. They are cutting us off because we make too much. Yet we make to little to afford a basic insurance plan for a family of four. It's over 700 a month through hubbies work.

Everyone's different. This is a safe place, we're free to express ourselves here.