Do you think it's important to have kids?

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Do you think it's important to have kids?

peachmarie peachmarie
If you are not interested in having kids i would not suggest simply having them out of pressure, your feelings could change when you had the child but also they might not? That wouldn't be fair to a child to have a mother who was just disinterested and not invested in them.It also wouldn't be fair to you to have to deal with kids you don't want, if you had them out of pressure you would love them but what if you felt resentful because you hadn't wanted that life or commitment and now your stuck with it. Some people just aren't meant to be parents and that's ok. You can enjoy your disposable income,not have to worry about college funds, ER bills, little sleep, resentful teens, sick days. etc. Kids are an expensive investment so if you have the choice it's best to be sure that you want one and can afford it.
07/01/2012
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
Kids are just unnecessary unless you really, really want them. There are enough people.
07/01/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
its important for me to have kids because i want them and love the idea of being a mother but its not for everyone
07/01/2012
Feisty Feisty
I don't think it is necessary for everyone to have kids to be happy, since people value different things. However, it is something that is important to me and would make me happy.
10/11/2012
travelnurse travelnurse
No it's not a necessity, but my children have added so much to my life. I don't regret it one bit. I was 21 and a single mom with my oldest and I have no issues. Before I had kids I said that I didn't want any either. Things change. Some days like to give my Husband back!!!
10/12/2012
RonLee RonLee
There are way too many people who DO have children, who should NOT have had them.
10/12/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I feel so conflicted about this. I want to have a baby. My husband wants it, too. He is definitely a family-oriented man, which is one reason I fell in love with him. On the other hand, I'm scared. Scared because my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage, and I went through hell with that. NO support whatsoever from my family-not that any amount of support would've taken the pain away, but it might've helped... I'm worried that it could happen again, possibly even later in the pregnancy (my baby died at 7 weeks.) A co-worker's sister recently had a stillborn. I can't imagine the pain she's going through.
10/12/2012
kinaaaa kinaaaa
Kids are not for everyone.

Just because a couple or individual decides not to have children does not mean they will never fulfill what they want in life. Its a personal choice and frankly, no one else business but the person or persons.
10/12/2012
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Well, it's important to some people..
10/12/2012
KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
I don't think everyone needs to have kids. I personally don't want any. I'm still young, so maybe I'll change my mind some day.
03/13/2013
marriedlady123 marriedlady123
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Originally posted by mama2007
my kids are my life and everything; i'm a stay at home mom to my 3 and 4 yr old kids and i'd be lost without them in my life. They truly make me happy and complete, with my husband. Some people don't want kids and that's fine too; do ...
agreed-they are super important to me but i know not everyone feels this way!
03/13/2013
Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
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Originally posted by sweetpea12
Do you think that it's important to have kids? I really have never been interested in children in any way, whatsoever. And people keep pressuring me and getting freaked out that I have this opinion. I just really never want kids, and I never want ...
For some people yes for other people no because kids arent necessary.
03/13/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I said no. Simply because it isn't essential to have kids to be happy. I have a huge family, and fortunately a lot of the people on my dad's side, didn't reproduce. They just shouldn't have kids. They don't want them, they are crazy enough w/o them, and they're happy as is. Sometimes I think it's pushed too hard that people need kids. I'm happy as a mom, but I know it isn't for everyone.
03/14/2013
Munko Munko
I don't think for others it's a necessity on an individual level. It's entirely personal and people who don't want kids, shouldn't have them - it doesn't often work out for the best. Although there are some people who do a complete 180 once they do have an unplanned child, so I suppose you never know! As I parent, I can also see the perks to being childless, for sure, as well!

For me however, there would be no way I'd make it through life without being a mother in some shape or form. Probably from the day I realized as a female I was capable of having children and being a mom at some point, I've wanted to be a mom.

I've dedicated my entire life, education, and career to kids from the time I was very small...I love the little boogers, whether they're mine or not. For me, I will measure my success by that of the children I've raised...If I manage to raise these precious little beings into happy, well rounded individuals then I will feel my life was a success.

The day my daughter was born was the most defining moment of my life and I have been in absolute awe with her every day since!
03/15/2013
Rhazya Rhazya
No, if I feel the need to share my life, I would do it with a spouse or pets. Neither of which will happen any time soon.

I'm not in a position in life where I can afford taking care of me, much less anyone else. I like kids, don't want to have them. I'm happy to be the cool aunt or always requested babysitter. I could handle kids part time, deal with them when they are fun, then pass them along when the kids are a pain
03/15/2013
ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
I would like to have kids in my future. I'm not sure if it's important or not to have them...
03/15/2013
hillys hillys
I think it depends on the family/person.
03/15/2013
earthmama earthmama
It's just a very personal decision. I have friends that have thrown multiple relationships into tailspins over this issue.
03/17/2013
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by sweetpea12
Do you think that it's important to have kids? I really have never been interested in children in any way, whatsoever. And people keep pressuring me and getting freaked out that I have this opinion. I just really never want kids, and I never want ...
You can definitely have a happy life without kids.
03/18/2013
Evgeny  Kravtsov Evgeny Kravtsov
No kids aren't necessary for a happy life
03/19/2013
novanilla novanilla
That's ludicrous. People don't all need the same things to be happy as everyone else does.
03/19/2013
chicmichiw chicmichiw
Nope! If you know you don't want children or if your partner doesn't want them, there are plenty of ways to be happy. It's a decision that shouldn't be the default for your adult life -- it requires a lot of thought and commitment.
03/19/2013
jr2012 jr2012
absolutely not. I don't want to have kids either and I'm very happy to see lots of people around here agree with me!
03/19/2013
HannahPanda HannahPanda
I don't think they're necessary for happiness at all.
03/19/2013
meitman meitman
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Originally posted by ksparkles16
I don't think kids are necessary for a happy life but I do think they can make your life happy if that's what you want. If you don't want kids, and have kids you are always going to want to blame them for taking your freedom away. This ...
I agree with this totally except I have kids and I can't imagine my life without them. Don't have them for anyone but yourself, though. It's not fair to anyone if you don't really want them.
03/19/2013
rosythorn rosythorn
If you don't want kids, don't have them!

I work with unwanted children, it is the absolute worst!


Though I am sad that one of my red headed friends doesn't want to have kids, because that gene will probably eventually disappear.
03/20/2013
Creepellah Creepellah
I don't want kids.
03/27/2013
Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
No, I don't think it is necessary. It it happens, then cool..if not then that's cool too.
03/27/2013
wwwww wwwww
It's a matter of preference. I don't think it should be a requirement however even though it seems like having babies is treated like the default life experience. As a person who does not want any children it really frustrates me that we live in a society that perpetuates the idea that a family requires children or that being a parent makes you less selfish/ a better person. It's very sad to me because I feel like it often puts pressure on people who really should not have children to produce some.
03/27/2013
butts butts
Absolutely not. Some people need children, some people don't. There's nothing wrong with living a child-free life! I personally (and many of my friends feel the same) have ZERO desire to have children, especially right now, I don't feel like it would improve my life in any way. My mother on the other hand, she probably would have become intensely depressed if she didn't have kids.
03/27/2013
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