No Orgasms-Ever.

Katarina Britt Katarina Britt
I'm still pretty young (just breaching 19), but throughout my own sexual explorations I've come to find that I, unlike any other woman I have heard about, is completely incapable of achieving a successful orgasm. My boyfriend decided to try and achieve the results by his own means and came up short also, hurting not only his ego, but mine as well. Penetration doesn't seem to do anything for me in that area, and I can only handle clitoral stimulation for a short amount of time because it becomes uncomfortable and almost painful. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do, but this is absolutely killing my sex life, and my sex drive, along with simultaneously impacting my current romantic relationship. If anyone has any sort of help to provide, I would gladly take it.
Apr 15, 3:32 pm
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Missy May Missy May
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Originally posted by Katarina Britt
I'm still pretty young (just breaching 19), but throughout my own sexual explorations I've come to find that I, unlike any other woman I have heard about, is completely incapable of achieving a successful orgasm. My boyfriend decided to try ... More
Hi Katarina,

I had that first orgasm at 20, and not from lack of trying. I also couldn't (and still can't) handle too much clitoral stimulation. But if you can fight through it the build up of OMG when the stimulation starts to get too much, that's usually when you are the brink of an orgasm. I find that if I can't scream then I can't reach orgasm because the clit stimulation is waaay too much for me. When I had my first orgasm I did it while my husband was at work and I was alone. I took a while to get really relaxed and used a vibrator just on my clit. I felt like it was waaaaaaay too much stimulation but a few minutes after I reached that point and pushed past it I had my first orgasm. Relaxing is a HUGE part of being able to achieve an orgasm. I hope I have helped and not just rambled a lot.
Apr 15, 4:44 pm
Trixxxy Trixxxy
Investing in a good toy and playing with yourself first is key, I think. If the toy is powerful, try it first on the lowest setting. Coconut oil makes awesome lube although you might have to apply it twice during sex. Learn your own body really really well then surprise him with the results! I lay on my back and my boyfriend is on his side next to me. I use a vibrator as he penetrates me and it works well although sometimes I have to have him go extremely slow or just kind of sit there for a few minutes. Penetration does absolutely zero for me as well, i know the feel.
Jul 20, 2:24 am
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Katarina Britt
I'm still pretty young (just breaching 19), but throughout my own sexual explorations I've come to find that I, unlike any other woman I have heard about, is completely incapable of achieving a successful orgasm. My boyfriend decided to try ... More
You may need to find a day when you have nothing else to do at all. A nice, relaxed afternoon. Put on some good music or a porno if you enjoy that, and try working on your clit very, very slowly. Work around it, then on it. No rush, no contests. Just see if you may be one of those woman who needs more time to build to that crescendo. If your boyfriend is very, very patient and willing to spend an afternoon just working on pleasing you, then you can do this kind of activity as a couple as well. Sometimes very patient and gentle oral play is more "tolerable" then a finger or toy, for long sessions, on the clit directly, as well as around that area. Best wishes on finding that magic moment.
Jul 20, 1:29 pm
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