Did anyone talk to you/explain anything about sex toys?

liilii080 liilii080
I learned a lot about sex (anatomy, diseases, etc.) from my Mom, a nurse; but in all the talks we ever had about sex she never once talked to me about toys and the role they can play in learning your body and what works for you. I plan to change that with my own kids but I was curious if anyone else had someone who introduced them to sex toys and how you felt about that.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
No, nobody told me anything about toys
211
Yes, I learned from family (mom/sister/aunt/etc.)
11
Yes, I learned from friends
16
Yes, I learned from a partner
14
Other, because there is always more to the story!
25
Total votes: 277 (256 voters)
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01/03/2011
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Illusional Illusional
I didn't learn anything about anything, until reading here.

I've learned so much.

I thought jelly was the best of the best kind of toys.
My mom never wanted to discuss sex with me, and all the other crap I learned was from romance novels.
01/03/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I'm not big on advice - just like my golf - my sex 'game' is completely self-taught - trial-and-error. But like Illusional said = read everything you can, if you're buying a toy read all the reviews for the product your interested in and anything similar. I have a really good BS detector so I can tell when someone's blowing smoke.
01/03/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I found my mom's toys. So that's how I learned. She caught me looking at them when I was about 15 and had to explain.
01/03/2011
Jobthingy Jobthingy
No. I am self taught.
01/03/2011
ToyGeek ToyGeek
I knew they existed thanks to something moderately cryptic, yet leading, that a teacher said about what they weren't allowed to teach us, but I never had the courage to actually buy any until many, many years later. I'm pretty sure many of my classmates headed to Spencer's straight after school that day, though.
01/03/2011
Envy Envy
I didn't get into them until my dad's gf got me my first one at 21. Before then I didn't even masturbate.

I learned more on my own, though.
01/03/2011
Alys Alys
I knew they existed... I just never got up the courage to physically go into a shop. Still in the discovery stage, but that is the fun of EF, when I have questions I have somewhere to go with them now!
01/03/2011
sbon sbon
I knew they existed, but no one specifically told me anything. Had to do all the research myself.
01/04/2011
darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
My mom made jokes about vibrators and stuff, so I knew what they were. Other than that, I found out about sex toys on my own.
01/04/2011
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
The very basic yes. But everything else I taught myself.
01/04/2011
lamira lamira
I never had anyone tell me about sex toys. I had to learn on my own and experiment.
01/04/2011
C4ss C4ss
No, not really. I learned about them on my own.
01/04/2011
NuMe NuMe
My husband is the one who got me started with toys.
01/04/2011
Yoda Yoda
I don't think I'd want to be told.
01/04/2011
RomeroB RomeroB
My mom never discussed anything about sex with me. Everything I have learned about toys I have learned here on this site and reading the reviews.
01/04/2011
Kim! Kim!
I knew they existed and not much else. I had no clue about materials and variety.
01/04/2011
deletedacct deletedacct
Since the schools i attended as a youngster preached abstinence, my only sex ed was bits & pieces from my Mom usually followed by "don't get pregnant." I've learned a lot the last few years from my own research mainly.
01/04/2011
rdytogo rdytogo
Nobody ever talked to me about anything, so I went out on my own to figure it out.
01/04/2011
liilii080 liilii080
Well I'm glad I'm not the only one who has had to investigate this stuff on my own. I think it's sad that there's not more talk about it though since toys can be a part of having a healthy, satisfying sex life and are a great way to figure out what you like and how you work. Keep the responses coming!
01/04/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Honestly - isn't this the kind of thing you need to learn on your own? Are any of expecting sex toys 101 to be taught in local high schools or colleges? I think not - I sure don't want my tax dollars going into this kind of person choice.

Likewise - is anyone expecting mom or dad to sit down and say 'now here's a rabbit vibe - you stick it here - rotate this and vibe that' - NOT!

This is what self exploration is all about. Unlike prior generations the whole world is available at the click of a few buttons! Because of the WWW, there are no excuses for not not knowing - anything that you are interested in finding out.

Is everything on the web correct? Obviously not, that's why we can go to multiple sources, read conflicting information and judge for ourselves!
01/04/2011
liilii080 liilii080
I definitely think you need to learn about it on your own but in my opinion I would have liked some info from the people I trust. No demo necessary, just straight talk.
01/05/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by liilii080
I definitely think you need to learn about it on your own but in my opinion I would have liked some info from the people I trust. No demo necessary, just straight talk.
I understand the concept - I just can't imagine what I would actually say to my son or daughter. I'm 98% sure they would flee the room screaming!
01/05/2011
liilii080 liilii080
Yes, I find myself wondering that too! I don't have kids yet but want them and would like to be able to give them a great, open place to discuss and learn sexual well being including toys, but, how do you get there without you or them getting squirmy? Luckily, I have some time to work that out.
01/05/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by liilii080
I learned a lot about sex (anatomy, diseases, etc.) from my Mom, a nurse; but in all the talks we ever had about sex she never once talked to me about toys and the role they can play in learning your body and what works for you. I plan to change ... More
No, unfortunately not
01/08/2011
Eliza Eliza
I pretty much had to teach myself everything. Thank God for the internet!
01/09/2011
BluePixi BluePixi
I don't remember where I learned about toys, I knew such things existed and shopped online at spencer's where I discovered that there were different types. I think I lucked out finding EF by making a search on google when I was tring to find a good store to buy toys from.
As for anyone talking to me about it; I never got "the Talk" I had access to a book on human biology/anatomy (age appropriate) that gave a pretty reasonable description of intercourse and masturbation in addition to information on puberty.
01/09/2011
Gallowraven Gallowraven
Quote:
Originally posted by liilii080
I learned a lot about sex (anatomy, diseases, etc.) from my Mom, a nurse; but in all the talks we ever had about sex she never once talked to me about toys and the role they can play in learning your body and what works for you. I plan to change ... More
the only thing I learned was through trial and error, and all the horror stories they teach in school, except for one occasion. I was about 15 when I got my first toy, a simple el-cheapo vibe. my best friend's mother got it for me. after that I had an incredible interest in toys.
01/10/2011
Liz2 Liz2
I was almost entirely on my own, but I did attend a sex toy party once which gave me some more toy ideas.
It didn't help that I live in an area almost totally devoid of adult stores.
01/10/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
The internet taught me...hehehe.
01/11/2011
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Unique posters: 143