Teens and vibrators: Would you buy a teenager a vibrator? If so, which one?

I stole our family back massager and used it as a vibrator until I turned 18. Then I immediately went to a local sex shop.

It definitely kept me from making some bad decisions with boys.

I asked my mom to buy me a vibrator once...she didn't.

Absolutely! I think it's great that you can help her out.

I would, but if we're not related, I'd be a bit wary. I wouldn't like a conversation to start with "What the hell did you just buy my daughter?!" I don't have any underage friends so it probably wouldn't be an issue for me.

I think I would just pick one out.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it per se, but I wouldn't buy her one--for a few reasons.

For one, if her mother finds it and gets upset about it, it could come out that you bought it for her which could cause a big shit storm. You can encourage sexual exploration within the safe bounds of masturbation, and being that sex-positive voice in her life could be a wonderful thing for her, but that doesn't mean she has to do it with a vibrator. There's a reason why you have to affirm that you're 18 when you buy from a shop like EF, and why you have to show your ID when you go into a shop--people can get into serious trouble for supplying sexual material to minors. I wouldn't risk it.

I also think that exploring yourself through masturbation is something that happens in stages. Vibrators and sex toys are nice, but perhaps it would be more helpful for her to explore her body on her own, find out what feels good to through human touch first, and then think about the fancy toys later. Maybe she already has started this journey, but maybe not. I started masturbating when I was 10, and I had no idea what a vibrator was (I remember my friends laughing at me when I didn't know what a dildo was in the 5th grade), so it's not like she has no options for exploring her sexuality.

If you were her mother, I'd be more inclined to say sure, go for it. But you aren't, and that can be risky. You can never be too careful when dealing with minors and sexual matters; and tread even more lightly when it comes to your underage family members. What you see as harmless or even positive, her mother could see as crossing the line.

I wish I had someone like you when I was trying to figure this stuff out! It's great that your cousin feels that she can connect with you.

I think it's okay, and i'd get her a beginner one.

This seems like a good idea. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. And it can prevent her from making hasty decision. I dont think the vibrator itself is a big deal. The mia seems fine. Im sure there are other good ones too though

yes

Yes it is okay for teens to have sex toys and I would get her the Mia.

The Mia sounds like a great choice and I think it's perfectly fine for you to help her get it.

its safer than sex, too many teens getting pregnant already

I would if that's what she wanted. I found a way to get one for myself when I was 16. If I'd had someone to help me out, it would have been nice. There isn't anything wrong with it.

I would. You cant have a baby with a sex toy.

So, what happened? Did you get it for her? Did she like it? Were there any repercussions, such as her step-mom finding out & making trouble?

I wish I had access to sex toys as a teen! I still waited for sex until I was an adult, but I experimented a lot with others. My wait would have been MUCH easier had I been able to use sex toys. I would have spent more time studying if I hadn't been so frustrated & preoccupied with sex!!!

I think it's fine at her age to get one, I don't think I'd try to suggest ones though, I think that should be up to the person that is going to use it. Also that's pretty expensive as a first toy, I would just get a bullet and see how she likes that. If she's not used to vibrations a bullet would be good to get her into them.

I think that is a fantastic thing to do for a person. She's lucky to have you in her life!

I'm curious about the outcome of this! I remember reading/posting in this about a year ago when I first started on this site, and I'm curious how the situation played out

I think its a good idea people are curious better to try out things with a toy than a boy

I don't see anything wrong with a teen having a toy, but I wouldn't help them get one.

Is she close enough to her own mother to talk about this?

I have encountered many people who feel that sex toys should not be in the hands of teenagers, quite simply I think that they are foolish. I owned sex toys as a teen and my then boyfriend and I often used them. I think that it helped me to explore sex and sexuality in a safe manner without the worries of an unwanted pregnancy, it also took the pressure off to make that dive to have sex. We were content to just explore with toys (either alone or together)

Sexual urges and curiosity are normal parts of teenage years and it is great when teens are given another way to either explore or discover it without having to possibly make a mistake and sleep with their partner.

The Mia is a great choice given the situation here.

I have bought vibrators for my teenage sister and a few of her friends. I think the Mia would be a good choice since she doesn't have to worry about batteries and could totally pass it off as a flash drive.

I think it's okay for teens to have toys.. But I wouldn't be the one purchasing the toy for the teen.

I think it's totally cool for teens to have sex toys. I know what it's like to be that age I wouldn't want to go buy her a specific one if it was my daughter or something, but I'd totally give her an EF gift card or some money as a gift or something, why not?