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Contributor: Blinker Blinker
The mere thought of having an episiotomy freaks me out. I have several friends who are mothers and say you don't feel it, it's over in a second, blah diddy blah blah blah. I don't care! NO ONE is cutting open my vagina! NO!

I want a baby but childbirth makes me nauseous. After watching that obligatory "Miracle of Life" video in the 8th grade, I had a panic attack and barfed on the floor. I need to quit talking about it because I'm starting to gag...

My point is, that yes, I do want a baby in the future. What I'm wondering is if it's possible to have a C section even if you don't need one? Like, instead of pushing my kid out and exploding my vagina, can't the doctor cut the baby out instead? I want a baby but childbirth freaks me out. It isn't just a little thing that creeps into my mind and makes me shiver, ok, I've been to therapy sessions devoted to my phobia of it and have thrown up in each session.It makes me physically ill, and no this isn't about vanity. It disgusts me. I asked my gyno if I could have a voluntary C section and he laughed. Thought it was a joke.

It's not a joke
07/18/2010
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Contributor: kck kck
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Originally posted by Blinker
The mere thought of having an episiotomy freaks me out. I have several friends who are mothers and say you don't feel it, it's over in a second, blah diddy blah blah blah. I don't care! NO ONE is cutting open my vagina! NO!

I want ... more
Dude. I dunno if it's possible, but I wouldn't want it! C-Sections scare me

I trust my body to know what it's doing... especially after hearing of "orgasmic births." They're rare, but apparently not as rare as you'd think. There's a documentary about them. Basically, the claim is that we've been taught to fear childbirth (through Hollywood representations, horror stories, etc.). Some women do meditation and hypnotherapy in order to prepare for their babies. Because of this prep, they're able to channel the pain into other emotions... many of these women experience orgasms during labor.

Dunno about you, but I think that is AWESOME, and I plan on giving it a try!
07/19/2010
Contributor: kck kck
Mreh, I forgot to post the videos:

ABC News spotlight on Orgasmic Birth/Interview with Woman who had one

Orgasmic Birth movie trailer

07/19/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
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Originally posted by kck
Mreh, I forgot to post the videos:

ABC News spotlight on Orgasmic Birth/Interview with Woman who had one

Orgasmic Birth movie trailer

AGH!

Not worth it! Nooooooooooooooooooooo oooooo

I want a C section. I can deal with surgery and staples and recovery and all that, but cannot deal with the ripping vagina. No.

*barf*
07/19/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Blinker
The mere thought of having an episiotomy freaks me out. I have several friends who are mothers and say you don't feel it, it's over in a second, blah diddy blah blah blah. I don't care! NO ONE is cutting open my vagina! NO!

I want ... more
There are doctors who will do Elective C Sections, but a C Section is major abdominal surgery, and the recovery can be brutal, because you have a tiny baby to care for while you are recovering from major, painful surgery. Also, the risk of death of both mother and baby are much higher with a C Birth, even if it's an Elective C Section.

I can understand the fear. I've had LONG labors (like 2.5 days for my first one) and ended up with C Sections. I refused a C for hours with my first baby then gave in. I labored again with my second and the same thing happened (I have a constricted or Android Pelvis) and the C Section SUCKED! I then had to schedule Cs with my other kids. I would so have wanted to just have the baby and go home "in one piece" instead of as a new mom AND a post surgical patient. I would have done ANYTHING (except risking either of our lives) to have a vaginal birth. Not all births require episiotomies, in fact, with a good doc or a good midwife MOST births don't require an episiotomy.

But, if your fear is overwhelming, it is going to prevent you from having kids and you really want kids, or cause such stress that it would be dangerous to you and your baby and it can be documented, talk to you OBGYN later (one you trust) and see what he or she says when they read the Therapy reports.

Your situation is really different than the Stars who are "too posh to push" you have a true phobia, and I know exceptions are made sometimes for things like that.

I know you're stressed right now, and worried, Honey, take it one thing at a time. Don't fight yourself with this now, OK?

Hugs,

P'Gell
07/19/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
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Originally posted by P'Gell
There are doctors who will do Elective C Sections, but a C Section is major abdominal surgery, and the recovery can be brutal, because you have a tiny baby to care for while you are recovering from major, painful surgery. Also, the risk of death of ... more
Awwwwww P'Gell you're so sweet

Thank you. You make me feel better
07/19/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Blinker
Awwwwww P'Gell you're so sweet

Thank you. You make me feel better
BIG FAT CYBER HUG AND BIG FAT HEALING THOUGHT RAYS!!!!

07/19/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
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Originally posted by P'Gell
BIG FAT CYBER HUG AND BIG FAT HEALING THOUGHT RAYS!!!!

*hugs*

Thankies
07/19/2010
Contributor: kck kck
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
There are doctors who will do Elective C Sections, but a C Section is major abdominal surgery, and the recovery can be brutal, because you have a tiny baby to care for while you are recovering from major, painful surgery. Also, the risk of death of ... more
Preach it, girl!

I plan on having a midwife and on giving birth in the comfort of my home. No one is going to make me work against gravity and tear up my vagina (except my babies)!


Blinker, you should really check out the wonderfulness that is midwifery.
07/19/2010
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
Quote:
Originally posted by Blinker
The mere thought of having an episiotomy freaks me out. I have several friends who are mothers and say you don't feel it, it's over in a second, blah diddy blah blah blah. I don't care! NO ONE is cutting open my vagina! NO!

I want ... more
I am in the SAME situation. I fear about having my entire vagina rip and just shatter, and would so do an elective c-section in a heartbeat. Bring on the epidural, too.

I'm not at the point of "physically ill" but it definitely does make me sweat a bit.
07/19/2010
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
Yes, you can have a voluntary c-section. Many women do so because they want to make sure their doctor is available for the delivery, some do it because they want their vaginas to "stay nice"...although frankly, I can't see how a gigantic scar and major abdominal surgery is any more appealing than doing a few extra sets of kegel exercises. Keep in mind, however, that some doctors will not do voluntary c-sections, just like some doctors will not perform abortions or prescribe Plan B.
07/19/2010
Contributor: buzzvibe buzzvibe
I have 2 kids, both birthed vaginally, and I did not have an episiotomy with either one. I did tear with my first, but it healed fine in less time than it would have taken to recover from a C-section. My second baby popped out after only 2 pushes with no tearing. C-sections are much riskier overall than vaginal delivery, and once you've had a C-section, many doctors are unwilling to let you try vaginal birth with any subsequent pregnancies.
07/19/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
I think C-sections are just down right dangerous to both the baby and mother. Plus I've read there can be problems for the baby afterward. I would seriously do my homework before making that decision.

I've had 4 children naturally. And I have a very low pain tolerance! But I and my vagina survived. I did have my last one at home with a midwife and a doctor who does home deliveries and it was the best experience of all 4 deliveries.
07/19/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
No way! I had all 3 with an epidural and tore just a little bit. I think I needed a couple stitches with two of them, no big deal. Beats a scar and a very sore abdomen for weeks, besides, from what I hear, you still bleed a lot vaginally after a C-section. So all of you is going to be hurting, tits too! And you have to stay in the hospital longer. I was home within 48 hours each one, maybe even 30 hours with the last one. He slid right out, LOL.

Unless it is medically necessary to have a C-section, go vaginal. I don't agree with elective C-sections at all, especially for the reason of "timing the delivery" or convenience.

Even after 3 kids, my pussy is nice and tight. Masturbation with lots of Kegels helps.
07/19/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
I personally wouldn't ever do it. If I have another I'll probably have the baby at home actually. The midwife who delivered my son had a very low episiotomy rate but unfortunately my 8lb 7oz son combined with them pushing things along and me not being the biggest girl had her snipping. I didn't feel anything. I did feel her sewing me up once the anesthesia wore off and made the mistake of mentioning it because that needle hurt way worse.

I personally wouldn't want a c-section because I don't think I've ever felt as in touch with that whole womanly, feminine side of myself as when I had my son and the emotional intensity of the experience was beyond any moment I've ever felt. I fear that the c-section would lose a large amount of that.

To teach their own though and judging other people is lame unless you have been in their situation. I'm pretty sure that you can schedule c-sections and if your gyno laughed at you I would seriously consider finding a new one because that's unprofessional if you have a genuine phobia.
07/19/2010
Contributor: kck kck
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Originally posted by removedacnt
I think C-sections are just down right dangerous to both the baby and mother. Plus I've read there can be problems for the baby afterward. I would seriously do my homework before making that decision.

I've had 4 children naturally. ... more
That's awesome, NuMe! It's what I look forward to. How did you find your midwife, if you don't mind me asking?
07/19/2010
Contributor: LilyLustings LilyLustings
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Originally posted by Blinker
The mere thought of having an episiotomy freaks me out. I have several friends who are mothers and say you don't feel it, it's over in a second, blah diddy blah blah blah. I don't care! NO ONE is cutting open my vagina! NO!

I want ... more
I'm sorry your gyno laughed at you, that's really unprofessional.
But to answer your question, yes, nowadays there's such a thing as "voluntary cesareans". I had one but it was involuntary =D
07/01/2013
Contributor: dontbackdown02 dontbackdown02
Quote:
Originally posted by Blinker
The mere thought of having an episiotomy freaks me out. I have several friends who are mothers and say you don't feel it, it's over in a second, blah diddy blah blah blah. I don't care! NO ONE is cutting open my vagina! NO!

I want ... more
Don't freak out, it's normal to have fears about this and that. Talk to your doctor and tell them you want a csection. My doctor would let you decide what ever is comfortable for you. If your doctor doesn't take it serious, you can always find another doctor.
07/10/2013