What would you do? A matter of trust.

TexasBrat TexasBrat
This actually happened with my ex, which is why our sex life slowed down to almost nothing.....

What would YOU do if your husband/wife wanted more children, but you honestly didn't? What if they actually threatened to poke holes in condoms or "forget" to take their Pill?
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icyqueen , U3H , SexScienceAndFood , TexasBrat , Sincerely Yours, N , charmedtomeetyou , CoffeeCup , March Hare , Bignuf , spaventosa , DreezzyyBabyy , Syrus , SaucyxGirl , eri86 , Velociraptor , Sei , irisheyes79 , edeneve
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Total votes: 20 (18 voters)
Poll is open till 10/30/2015 6:00 PM
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SexScienceAndFood SexScienceAndFood
relationships require trust. That isn't trust. That's a threat. an ultimatum. That's not a relationship. I'd send him/her ass to a curb.
Aug 9, 3:41 pm
TexasBrat TexasBrat
I did eventually. Our sex life was nadda at the end. And, when we did have sex on the rare occasions that we did, we used condoms, I had timed it for less fertile days, and I used the contraceptive foam before and afterwards.
Aug 9, 4:49 pm
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
Sounds like there were way deeper issues with your ex than just this. If you love someone, you have to honor and respect them. Making threats because you don't get your way is something a spoiled child would do, not someone who wanted to be a parent. Also, why would you want to have a child with someone who does not want kids. You are setting that kid up for a mess of issues when they are being rejected before they are even conceived. The tricked person can hardly help but resenting that child, the child feels that tension and thinks it is something they did. There are too many kids who are brought into this world by people who have no business raising children. Kids are a life long commitment not an accessory. Sounds like you made the right choice.
Aug 9, 8:30 pm
Sincerely Yours, N Sincerely Yours, N
A similar thing is happening to somebody that I know.... Only he actually caught her no longer taking the pill (his wife and I take the same exact one, so when he sent me a picture to me after getting suspicious that the condoms kept breaking I was able to confirm that's not the pill). He just cut off the sex.

Granted, there are always deeper issues that need to be discussed in situations like these. Work those out, and hopefully all will be well.
Aug 12, 10:27 am
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
This actually happened with my ex, which is why our sex life slowed down to almost nothing.....

What would YOU do if your husband/wife wanted more children, but you honestly didn't? What if they actually threatened to poke holes in condoms ... More
Trust, mutual respect and common goals are, in our minds, the foundation, hallmark and core of any marriage. Without that, and without the other person being "on your side" and your best advocate (even when you disagree on a topic) what kind of relationship do you have?
Aug 14, 6:37 pm
DreezzyyBabyy DreezzyyBabyy
That's conniving..
Aug 17, 12:27 am
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
First off trust should always be a part of relationships, second that is fucked up. No one has the right to force another person via deceit into father/mother hood. I would be extremely angry if my partner even suggested poking holes in the condoms, that would be the very last conversation that we would have.
Aug 20, 2:28 pm
eri86 eri86
I'd stop having sex with them and insist we get therapy.

This is the sort of thing that is also up there with people who think that having a kid will save their relationship.
Aug 28, 5:12 pm
edeneve edeneve
wow, that's more than disrespectful! get away as fast as you can.
Sep 10, 12:28 pm
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Unique posters: 9