I am not sure I completely understand either. Neither the wife nor the husband have to do everything the other wants with some exceptions (if they cross boundaries.) But when you are together, usually, you want to do everything your partner wants. There are no gender specific things at all. The wife isn't the submissive to the husband, unless that is their agreed up relationship. It works the other way around too.
When a women has a husband is true she need to do everything he want ,my friend tell me that and I tell her that not true because she have the sAme position what are you thinking sorry for my writing
A husband and wife are equal. They should be willing to explore eachother's desires purely out of love (unless too uncomfortable), but one should not have to blindly do as the other wants. It's about give and take. Equality.