I'm an open book and if someone doesn't like what I'm doing, well that doesn't bother me at all.
I do, however, have a friend who does hide parts of her sex life and when I found out several months ago she told me that I was the first person she's told. She's been diligently hiding it from others who might not be so open and accepting. She's not ashamed and has no reason to be, but she's afraid some people may turn away from her.
I'm happy she told me and was able to talk to me. It felt good knowing I could offer her some comfort, if anything just being there to listen to her.
I don't care if people find something out, so I don't hide things, but I also don't think it's everyone's business or that they even care. So, while I enjoy the plain wrapped boxes, I don't care if the postal carrier figures it out or the TSA finds my 'weapon of terror' in my carry on.
That said, I also don't enjoy making others uncomfortable on purpose. So, for instance, I don't leave my sex toys out if I have people over. But I'm not hiding it because I care if they find something out about my sexuality. I just think it careless to give them more info than they're comfortable handling. But, my sister or close friends will get the tour if they like.
I've always been really comfortable talking about sex or other personal issues with people. I'm curious & I guess it makes me feel closer to someone, like I am seeing into the real person. And maybe because they sense this, even strangers tell me the most personal things, (but I'm not sure why).
I also have never been squeamish about seeing my parents kiss or been bothered by the idea of them having sex. Having them walk in on me masturbating when much younger would have been upsetting, but not the knowledge that it's something in which I indulge. If it happened now, I'd just ask them to give me minute & that would be the end of it. (...that's assuming they didn't walk in on something such as auto erotic asphyxia, then I might expect some questions or a raised eyebrow!)
All this is easy for me to say, though because I haven't participated in anything that most of the puritans in the US consider all that scandalous. If I had a fringe type fetish, or my livelihood depended on keeping it quiet, perhaps I would.
...gets figured out about their sex life. Not even things you'd be ashamed of, more just details I mean which you;d want kept personal. D: Do you take extra cares to hide some things because of this?
i always have paranoia that i will accidentally turn in fan fiction or porn or nudes to one of my online submitted assignments for school, it's so irrational but i think about it every time! i double, triple, quadruple check what i am uploading haha