Do you ever feel like people who aren't kinky...

Kenneth Fort Kenneth Fort
...Are just really not that creative, and don't like the idea of finding new ways to do things in general, much less sex? And if so, do you feel guilty about it?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes. I think this outright
Yes, but I feel guilty about it.
2  (4%)
Yes, half and half
7  (15%)
sometimes
2  (4%)
no, there's generally other reasons
24  (50%)
no, it doesn't seem likely
1  (2%)
Never even bothered thinking about it.
12  (25%)
Total votes: 48
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10/08/2012
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skeeterlynn skeeterlynn
Eh. I think there are a lot of people who don't because they just don't want to and don't feel like it. But not everyone. Some are shy, some just don't know about it, and there's also worries their partner won't like it. I know a few people who would like to try stuff, but are just very shy. And I know others who are just plain boring and don't wanna try different positions let alone sex styles. But that doesn't mean all who have not tried kinky things are like that. They could also just simply have tried it and not liked it. Trying new things in the bedroom doesn't always mean being kinky.
10/08/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
I certainly think that can be the case sometimes--but like skeeterlynn said, there are lots of other reason why someone may not be into kinky stuff. I think trust is another issue that people can struggle with. It takes a particular level intimacy and either putting yourself in a very vulnerable place or taking on another person's absolute trust, which is intimidating. Also, the stigma that is generally attached to kinkiness can inform someone's opinion of it, creating an aversion before they even consider giving it a try. Some people are not into pain--not that all kink causes pain, but a lot of it is.

There could be lots of reasons for vanilla tastes in sex, just like there could be a lot of reasons for kinky tastes. Everyone is different
10/08/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
"Some people like salt, some people like cayenne. Which one's wrong? Ha - neither! Next trick question!" - half-forgotten Doctor Who fic I read somewhere
10/08/2012
closed account closed account
i think it's usually either a lack of adventurous spirit or having hang-ups. sometimes i think it's laziness...i do feel guilty for thinking that though, it sounds judgemental
10/08/2012
married with children married with children
you don't have to be kinky to lead a happy fulfilling sex life.
10/08/2012
Thumper Logic Thumper Logic
I think some people are perfectly happy with not being kinky. That being said, I've also known people who met kinky partners and learned a lot about their desires. It just depends on the dynamic of the person and the couple. If you find someone you trust completely, I think it's easier to explore kinky sex.
10/08/2012
panthercat23 panthercat23
I don't give it any thought why some people aren't kinky.
10/08/2012
amazon amazon
People are, they just repress is for whatever reason.
10/08/2012
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
You don't have to be kinky to be creative, at least in my opinion.
10/09/2012
GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I don't really give a lot of thought to why some people are kinky and others aren't. I would guess that there would be many many reasons.
10/09/2012
MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I don't always necessarily think that it's that they're not creative, but sometimes I do think it has a lot to do with being open-minded, sometimes. Although I also think there are times when people just aren't exposed to something, so they never learn to like it.
10/09/2012
mr115393 mr115393
Everyone gets turned on by different things. I always just assumed less kinky people just have different tastes.
10/10/2012
Alyona Alyona
no, there's generally other reasons
10/10/2012
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
"Some people like salt, some people like cayenne. Which one's wrong? Ha - neither! Next trick question!" - half-forgotten Doctor Who fic I read somewhere
Who doesn't like salt? XD
10/11/2012
T&L T&L
Never thought about it
10/11/2012
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by amazon
People are, they just repress is for whatever reason.
I guess that depends on just what one considers kinky. There are people I've talked to who are completely turned off by anyof what I consider my fairly mild kinks (not getting into my Dom side, just what I'll do when bottoming - if I mentioned what I do as a Dom, I think they'd be horrified).

Everyone has different things that turn them on, and some people don't like any form of restraint, any form of impact play, any form of D/s, or any talk that isn't purely romantic. And that's fine.
10/11/2012
Lioncub Lioncub
Never given it a thought
10/12/2012
SoloJoe SoloJoe
never thought about it
10/16/2012
Total posts: 19
Unique posters: 19