Ever tried fisting?

Hell to the yes! Not only have I loved it in the past, Mr. Visual and I started to go there for the first time, and lo and behold, we hit the g-spot and Oi! -- unexpected fun for SERIOUSLY 20 minutes (the first time...) -- So, this next try, we'll be actually 'getting there' (if we don't get too distracted!), and see how much fun *that* will be...I have a feeling that now that we have g-spot orgasms down, it's going to bring a whole new level to something I already enjoyed.

In all seriousness -- The thing is, there has to be so many things... A lot of trust. A lot of relaxation. Plenty of warm-up. _Gentleness_. The desire for pleasure on the behalf of *both* parties. PLENTY OF LUBE... Knowledge about bodies -- your own, your partners, how they work. (AND, need I say? CLEAN hands. Trimmed nails. And/or, gloves -- depending on who/what the sitch is. Take Care Of Yourself!)

There are plenty of articles out "there" on the interwebs about vaginal fisting (in my case...), and many are very helpful for those interested. (In my case, it happened the first time with a careful, kind partner, and we just experimented.) It can be very intense, pleasurable, and also emotional, and can require the same kind of 'aftercare' (look it up if not familiar with the term) that heavier play also can require. Here's why: In the same way that lots of chemicals are released from the brain in BDSM -- endorphins, adrenalin (and in women, also sometimes a big fat estrogen wave) -- the 'coming down' (no pun intended) can be really , unexpected, too. It's truly important to make sure that someone's headspace and heartspace is taken care of just as much as the bodyspace. (Or, not: sometimes it is what it is, and that's it!)

For a 'first time' person, though both parties should expect the unexpected. Take care of each other. Be _nice_ (Before, during, and after!) -- this stuff is supposed to be FUN! And if it's not -- then hey...don't do it. Or try it again when it feels right. It can be amazing...(If it wasn't, why would people be trying it? ) less