Why did you fall in love with your spouse? Do you still appreciate those qualities in them?

I fell in love with my husband for lots of reasons.

His sense of humor - My husband is very sarcastic. Almost everything he says is sarcastic, in fact. I'm the same way, so we always make each other laugh.

His attitude - My husband is not the nicest guy on earth. I'm not the nicest girl sometimes. He accepts who he is and doesn't try to change it because people think he should act a certain way. I admire him for that and appreciate that he will always be himself no matter what.

His intelligence - My husband is smart. He can figure out things that his boss can't at work. Many times he can figure out things the engineers can't. He can always fix things, even if all the parts aren't there. He can hold a conversation about lots of different topics and I never feel like I'm talking to a zombie. less

That's awesome. In many ways he reminds me of my sweetie.

So - any ideas how you can show him how much you appreciate him this weekend?

I think that is part of what keeps our marriage so alive - trying to find the best in each other and then expressing thanks/appreciation for it- or simply doing something nice for each other. less

Sex? LOL That's my usual way. That's what he likes the most, anyhow. I'm vegetarian and he's not, so I wouldn't even know how to cook anything he eats.

I think I'll write him a nice email, actually. We email each other every week to say we love each other and go over any issues we had that week (neither of us is good in person - we're yellers - email is always quiet). I think I'll send him an early "I appreciate you" email. less

That's a great idea.

I still need to cook my hubby his acorn squash I got him as a treat.

Later this week I hope to do a thread in my store's forum on the five love languages and learning which is your spouse's and which is your own. The funny thing is- if we don't know about this - we tend to express love in the language we most like to receive it - which is often different than what our spouse wants.

For instance - my husband's "love language" is touch. When I walk by him, I will reach out and touch him and run my fingers through his hair or put my hand on his shoulders and lightly massage them. That's because his love language - is touch. Me? NOT AT ALL. I've had to train myself to do this. Meanwhile, he's learned that the two languages that are most necessary to me are words - and gifts. If he goes to the store and brings me home a soda or candy bar or a pen or whatever without me asking (I love office supply products) - that means more to me than dozens of roses. Also - praise means a lot to me. I need to hear the words of how I"m doing good and I crave love being shown to me in that way.

Its really fascinating and we've found that since we really learned each other's love languages and try to show love in that way - it helps our marriage. less

Our family was once in an office supply store and my husband handed me a pack of index cards and said, "Here, sniff...get your 'fix'".

He's bad...but that's oh so true almost.

One of the hardest times of the year for me is when the notebooks, etc. go on sale and since we're not homeschooling anymore, I have no reason to buy school supplies. We still have tons of notebook, paper and pens around. less