New Vanilla Girl Friend of a Male Submissive

VanillaGirlFriend VanillaGirlFriend
Hi there,

I am crazy about this new guy in my life. He identifies himself as Submissive. Now what?

I have been reading books here and there but I haven't come across anything even close to a 'How To Dominate If You Are Vanilla' guide or a 'Proper Care And Feeding Of Your Male Submissive' guide.

I still haven't found a source that can tell me 'this is what they crave' in concrete terms. I don't even know what to experiment with because this is completely outside my experience. Also, he has never told anyone this and he is inexperienced so we really are lost at sea here.

Suggestions?

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03/15/2012
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Bryan Bryan
Quote:
Originally posted by VanillaGirlFriend
Hi there,

I am crazy about this new guy in my life. He identifies himself as Submissive. Now what?

I have been reading books here and there but I haven't come across anything even close to a 'How To Dominate If You Are ... More
try tying him to the bed and getting your pleasure then leaving him there for a spell and doing it again when your ready. that will get old so maybe ask him to do the same for you. Remember what he does, it probably a mild version of what he wants you to do to him.

try this.
bondae kit
04/10/2012
BloodHound BloodHound
Quote:
Originally posted by VanillaGirlFriend
Hi there,

I am crazy about this new guy in my life. He identifies himself as Submissive. Now what?

I have been reading books here and there but I haven't come across anything even close to a 'How To Dominate If You Are ... More
I highly doubt that you are going to find a source that is going to tell you what you're boyfriend is going to crave. The only way to figure that out is to ask him. Everybody is different and what satisfies one persons craving might not work for the next person.

Being vanilla doesn't mean that you can't still dominate him. While you may not be too into engaging is any kind of kinky play with him you can still be dominant over him. You just have to do it with your mind and words. My suggestion so to do some research on D/s relationships. You don't always have to beat submission into someone. Words can make a very powerful tool when used in the right context.

I hope this helps some.
05/03/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
Since he is inexperienced, perhaps he should start by reading books and watching porn, then deciding which of the things he sees turn him on.
05/03/2012
Kenneth Fort Kenneth Fort
Quote:
Originally posted by VanillaGirlFriend
Hi there,

I am crazy about this new guy in my life. He identifies himself as Submissive. Now what?

I have been reading books here and there but I haven't come across anything even close to a 'How To Dominate If You Are ... More
Attach a car battery to his nipples.
10/12/2012
angelcrossmarie1 angelcrossmarie1
Try emailing each other and talking about it. Like, it's easier to talk over text than face to face about awkward stuff AND during sexytimes neither of you will have the thought of talking about it face to face in your head, which for me as a sub sort of turns me off, tbh. A lot of my bf and I's serious talks about sex happen over email and we communicate really effectively so...maybe it will help! XD Just remember that there's no dumb question and there's no shame in googling the crap out of a subject until you become a wikipedia expert. XD
03/13/2013
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