I want romance first. Just to see him and feel him and enjoy his presence next to me. Once we've had a little time to reconnect then it's time for sex, and more romance and more sex, and more romance...you get the idea!
I guess my answer depends on the situation. But in new relationships I prefer romance, but after awhile I want the romance/sex package. I guess that's my way of avoiding overly causal relationships lol
I want a bit of a cuddle, a quick fuck, more of a cuddle, then a slower fuck. Then to go back to our normal life, which romance isn't really a big feature in.