Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio

Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Very well put. And for the younger men, never let your ego get ahead of your talent and just assume you know all there is about pleasing a lady. There's always something new to learn.
That is excellent advice. I was reading something recently that talked about a man's attitude toward learning about sex vs. a woman's attitude and the author notices a vast difference. The largest being that men are more likely to believe they are experts and have nothing to learn.

It's a generalization, to be sure, and really probably both men and women can benefit from the advice of not letting your ego prevent you thinking you have nothing to learn.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Fearsome Fearsome
I love books.
books about sexploration are educational and fun!
as far as oral technique, I honestly need to invest in one on fellatio.

I had 'the joy of self-loving' but a friend 'borrowed' it and then ran for the hills, never to return. :'c I miss it.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
That is excellent advice. I was reading something recently that talked about a man's attitude toward learning about sex vs. a woman's attitude and the author notices a vast difference. The largest being that men are more likely to believe ... more
Agreed. Particularly because everyone is different. So no matter how much past experience you have, there's always more to learn!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by 00
I so totally agree with the thoughts about younger men...don't let the male ego and cockiness (pardon the pun)lead you to think you know EXACTLY what or how to do something. Haha. We are ALL born ignorant and must be educated about ... more
Absolutely, I learned that recently with my life partner. He is younger than I am and I was his first so I constantly feel like a total NOOB...I mean I always had Sigel who was the experienced one, made me realize how much I DIDN'T know about sex being with Arch. Still continuing education is sooooo much fun.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Hell YES it gets better with age! YOu learn your partner so well that you don;t have to concentrate on technique it is just warm, wet, fluid and oh so right!
I'm totally looking forward to it.
06/08/2010
Contributor: 00 00
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Absolutely, I learned that recently with my life partner. He is younger than I am and I was his first so I constantly feel like a total NOOB...I mean I always had Sigel who was the experienced one, made me realize how much I DIDN'T know about sex ... more
Yes, continuing education is so much fun and it helps you to continue living and exploring a wonderful life.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Kayla
I'm totally looking forward to it.
Just don't get into a sexual rut...take the time to maintain your connection with your partner. Course you're here so I think you might have the golden keys in your hand already
06/08/2010
Contributor: MuffysPinguLove MuffysPinguLove
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Originally posted by Kayla
Things like that just kinda make me wonder what I'll be like after 20 years of marriage. Right now, my sexuality is still pretty young and everything. With all the kinky things I already do, I wonder what will be left in 20 years. Kinda a neat ... more
I was actually thinking the same thing! It's nice to hear that it gets better with age
06/08/2010
Contributor: Mel & James Mel & James
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Welcome to this week's Naked Reader Book Club Discussion! June is Oral Sex Month and this week we're discussing The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, both by the incomparable Violet Blue.

These guides ... more
I have not actually tried any how to books on this type of topic other than a Karma Sutra cliff notes style book. I would love to see what the author has to offer and maybe enhance the already wonderful joy that is oral sex. I will be adding this to my wish list and hoping my other half will be interested too!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Mel & James
I have not actually tried any how to books on this type of topic other than a Karma Sutra cliff notes style book. I would love to see what the author has to offer and maybe enhance the already wonderful joy that is oral sex. I will be adding this ... more
I honestly feel like Violet's books work for all audiences because she approaches the topics in a fresh, straightforward way.
06/08/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Andromeda
Agreed. Particularly because everyone is different. So no matter how much past experience you have, there's always more to learn!
I ran into this very thing a while ago with a new partner and oral sex. I tend to think I have some skills in this arena and am confident about being able to please someone. I got a little wake up call when he started asking me to do things differently. For about 10 seconds I was, sad to say, just a bit irritated. Doesn't he know I know what I am doing? But then I realized I was an idiot, I should be doing it his way for his enjoyment and appreciate that he actually spoke up and let me know what works for him.

There's no reason to think that everybody enjoys the same thing and I think Violet makes that point in her book (based on what someone else said earlier) about both parties taking responsibility for making it a pleasurable experience.
06/08/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
Ok guys, I have to actually go out and run an errand before it gets any later–so I wanted to say goodnight while I had the chance. This has been an absolutely awesome discussion and I hope you all keep going!

Thanks again to Kristina Wright, our fabulous moderator!

Who knows what the official post count will be at the end of tonight, but heck, we passed the high mark a while ago, so keep your eyes peeled tomorrow – I'll be giving away two gift cards to two lucky participants in tonight's discussion: one for $25 and one for $50!

Hope to see everybody back in two weeks!
06/08/2010
Contributor: MuffysPinguLove MuffysPinguLove
Thanks Kristina for moderating such an awesome discussion
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by MuffysPinguLove
Thanks Kristina for moderating such an awesome discussion
Thank YOU! It's been a fabulous discussion!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Thank you and good night. It's been a pleasure.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
Thanks to everyone for stopping in tonight and sharing your thoughts, experiences and questions! I've had a great time talking about Violet Blue's Ultimate guides! See you all again in two weeks to discuss Rachel Kramer Bussel's anthologies Tasting Him and Tasting Her!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Thank you and good night. It's been a pleasure.
Have a terrific evening! Thanks for stopping by!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
It's been a really great discussion! Thanks Kristina for moderating and Laurel for running the naked Reader's Book Club. Night all!
06/08/2010
Contributor: 00 00
Was a great night with a lot of good sharing and education. Goodnight all.
06/08/2010
Contributor: MuffysPinguLove MuffysPinguLove
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Thanks to everyone for stopping in tonight and sharing your thoughts, experiences and questions! I've had a great time talking about Violet Blue's Ultimate guides! See you all again in two weeks to discuss Rachel Kramer Bussel's ... more
I can't wait
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
It's been a really great discussion! Thanks Kristina for moderating and Laurel for running the naked Reader's Book Club. Night all!
Thanks, Airen! I appreciate your contribution tonight!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by 00
Was a great night with a lot of good sharing and education. Goodnight all.
Thanks so much for participating!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by MuffysPinguLove
I can't wait
Me, either! See you then!
06/08/2010
Contributor: TechyDad TechyDad
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Originally posted by Andromeda
LOL. I know EXACTLY what you mean. All those articles that are supposedly about the things guys "really" want.
I see those in the supermarket line all the time. 100 sex tips. 1,000 sex tips. etc. Sometimes I wonder just how many sex tips there are. (Not that I think I'd find anything useful in those magazines.)
06/08/2010
Contributor: TechyDad TechyDad
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Just don't get into a sexual rut...take the time to maintain your connection with your partner. Course you're here so I think you might have the golden keys in your hand already
I've got to admit, with 2 young kids, it's easy to get into a rut. Mornings are rushed to get to work/school. Evenings it is tempting to go online or just pass out from exhaustion. And with all the stresses during the day, it's very easy to succumb to it all and push sex off or just "go through the motions".
06/08/2010
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I *just* got my copy of Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, and it looks jam-packed full of great information and tips. I especially like the little bits of erotica slipped after some of the sections. I don't know if I'll read it cover to cover, but I've already picked out sections that I want to read thoroughly!
06/09/2010
Contributor: Peg Peg
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
You may have just hit on a truly genius idea!
An attempt at erotic directions titled:

Lick & Stick

With a well moistened tounge gently lick the sticky areas until the
tounge glides smoothly across the entire surface. This will ensure
that nothing will fall out when the objects are brought together.
Next carefully line up the two items and with firm pressure press the
two items together. Release the pressure and if done correctly the
items will remain in place.

Sealing an envelope and placing a stamp on it.
06/10/2010