And in reading you make up the visual you want.
Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: CAN'T HELP THE WAY THAT I FEEL (Lori Bryant-Woolridge) and MAKING THE HOOK-UP (Cole Riley)(July 27, 7-11 PM EST)
rexy
07/27/2010
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One of the biggest reasons I prefer reading erotica to watching porn.
Originally posted by
*Keona*
Reading is better then porn. Its more realisitic to me.
07/27/2010
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I've never looked at temptation that way. I think I'm in desperate need of some of that in my life now.
Originally posted by
Lori Bryant-Woolridge
It started with temptation and I asked all my writers to center their stories around that theme. So many of us view temptation as a bad thing, and absolutely sometimes it can be, but often temptation can be the catalyst for personal growth because
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It started with temptation and I asked all my writers to center their stories around that theme. So many of us view temptation as a bad thing, and absolutely sometimes it can be, but often temptation can be the catalyst for personal growth because often its in those impulsive moments that we grow into the new and improved version of ourselves.
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07/27/2010
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Me as well. At least my husband agrees with me on our tastes for porn to have a storyline rather than just pure (exaggerated) sex.
Originally posted by
*Keona*
Reading is better then porn. Its more realisitic to me.
I did convince him to read the first erotic series I bought, and he still brings it up as a favorite when he and his buddies start talking porn - but he refuses to read any more.
07/27/2010
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I think your concept of temptation is very liberating, empowering and sensual. Actually, I think those are the words I'd use to describe this collection.
Originally posted by
Lori Bryant-Woolridge
It started with temptation and I asked all my writers to center their stories around that theme. So many of us view temptation as a bad thing, and absolutely sometimes it can be, but often temptation can be the catalyst for personal growth because
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more
It started with temptation and I asked all my writers to center their stories around that theme. So many of us view temptation as a bad thing, and absolutely sometimes it can be, but often temptation can be the catalyst for personal growth because often its in those impulsive moments that we grow into the new and improved version of ourselves.
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07/27/2010
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Yes I like to watch porn. My man just started watching it with me recently. It seems maybe we have problems opening up to each other for some reason. He watches it all the time. I do not know if he has read any books like this, but I know he likes to read because he has shown me a few good books.
Originally posted by
clp
Reading/watching appeals to different sides of me. I like reading because it puts my head in a very focused, sympathetic space--I am more likely to look back at the story as something I've done or would like to do. Watching, on the other hand, is
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Reading/watching appeals to different sides of me. I like reading because it puts my head in a very focused, sympathetic space--I am more likely to look back at the story as something I've done or would like to do. Watching, on the other hand, is purely physical for me--in through the eyes and out through... well.. you know. So it kind of depends what sort of fix I'm looking for!
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I like both
07/27/2010
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Lori, in my trade, there is so much insensitivity between the sexes, between the genders, between everyone. I see it every day. How can we remedy that? With our work, maybe.
Originally posted by
Cole Riley
I felt all of those things when I read Lori's book. Erotica is a window into someone's experience. Into their world. And you can pick a lot of tricks too.
07/27/2010
Lori Bryant-Woolridge
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I got into writing erotica at the request of an editor who had read my sex scenes in my first novel, Read Between the Lies. It was for a Cleis book, Best Black Women's Erotica. The driving point that made me say yes was that I didn't know when I might ever have the opportunity to share billing with greats like Nikki Giovanni or Iyanla Vanzant. For years, I actually avoided getting too deep into it because I wanted to grow my novelist voice. But after seeing the boom and seeing that so much of it was just one note, I thought I there might be room for my voice. And I'm so glad that really strong writers like Cole are in the game too.
Originally posted by
rexy
How did you guys get interested in writing erotica? And do your mother know what you do?
07/27/2010
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I may have to try this! I have a few new books that I haven't read yet.
Originally posted by
Jul!a
Have you tried reading to him first? Might be the kick he needs to return the favor.
07/27/2010
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Reading erotica leaves part of what's going on to your imagination. It's customizable in that way, unlike porn, which leaves nothing to the imagination.
Originally posted by
*Keona*
Reading is better then porn. Its more realisitic to me.
For me, erotica is preferable for this reason, but because a few well-chosen words can excite me instantly–they don't even have to be erotic.
07/27/2010
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Maybe you should get some sexy lingerie and act out what you're reading when it comes to the sex parts. He might not read it with you but he'll most definitely listen to it.
Originally posted by
Misfit Momma
Me as well. At least my husband agrees with me on our tastes for porn to have a storyline rather than just pure (exaggerated) sex.
I did convince him to read the first erotic series I bought, and he still brings it up as a favorite when he and ... more
I did convince him to read the first erotic series I bought, and he still brings it up as a favorite when he and ... more
Me as well. At least my husband agrees with me on our tastes for porn to have a storyline rather than just pure (exaggerated) sex.
I did convince him to read the first erotic series I bought, and he still brings it up as a favorite when he and his buddies start talking porn - but he refuses to read any more. less
I did convince him to read the first erotic series I bought, and he still brings it up as a favorite when he and his buddies start talking porn - but he refuses to read any more. less
07/27/2010
Lori Bryant-Woolridge
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My mom knows but my father doesn't!
Originally posted by
rexy
the mothers part was a joke. I think erotica has made great strides into the mainstream because of writers like you
07/27/2010
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I caught mine reading some of my erotica books when I mentioned a story and started trying to explain it to get his feedback on it and he already knew what story I was talking about, lol
Originally posted by
Misfit Momma
Me as well. At least my husband agrees with me on our tastes for porn to have a storyline rather than just pure (exaggerated) sex.
I did convince him to read the first erotic series I bought, and he still brings it up as a favorite when he and ... more
I did convince him to read the first erotic series I bought, and he still brings it up as a favorite when he and ... more
Me as well. At least my husband agrees with me on our tastes for porn to have a storyline rather than just pure (exaggerated) sex.
I did convince him to read the first erotic series I bought, and he still brings it up as a favorite when he and his buddies start talking porn - but he refuses to read any more. less
I did convince him to read the first erotic series I bought, and he still brings it up as a favorite when he and his buddies start talking porn - but he refuses to read any more. less
07/27/2010
Brendada
I have a question for Cole - what would happen if you played with Lori's "lead me into temptation" which prompts readers to "fill in the blanks" and write their own erotica in a sort of "C"mon and get your kink on" fill in the blanks?
07/27/2010
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You'll have to come back and let me know if that works
Originally posted by
Misfit Momma
I may have to try this! I have a few new books that I haven't read yet.
07/27/2010
Lori Bryant-Woolridge
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Absolutely, because it's all third person. When you read nonfiction, it's all about you!
Originally posted by
rexy
Do you think maybe some people find getting help through fiction is less scary?
07/27/2010
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Ooh, that's a really good idea too
Originally posted by
*Keona*
Maybe you should get some sexy lingerie and act out what you're reading when it comes to the sex parts. He might not read it with you but he'll most definitely listen to it.
07/27/2010
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I got in writing erotica when I wrote for Oui Magazine with my editor Dian Hanson, now with Taschen. That was long ago. Porn doesn't bother me. I see it mirrored in TV and film. But I love words. I love language.
Originally posted by
Cole Riley
Lori, in my trade, there is so much insensitivity between the sexes, between the genders, between everyone. I see it every day. How can we remedy that? With our work, maybe.
07/27/2010
Hi ya'll, sorry im late
07/27/2010
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that should read "and also because" not "but because"
Originally posted by
LicentiouslyYours
Reading erotica leaves part of what's going on to your imagination. It's customizable in that way, unlike porn, which leaves nothing to the imagination.
For me, erotica is preferable for this reason, but because a few well-chosen ... more
For me, erotica is preferable for this reason, but because a few well-chosen ... more
Reading erotica leaves part of what's going on to your imagination. It's customizable in that way, unlike porn, which leaves nothing to the imagination.
For me, erotica is preferable for this reason, but because a few well-chosen words can excite me instantly–they don't even have to be erotic. less
For me, erotica is preferable for this reason, but because a few well-chosen words can excite me instantly–they don't even have to be erotic. less
07/27/2010
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No worries Deadpoet Jump right in, we are happy to have you!
Originally posted by
deadpoet
Hi ya'll, sorry im late
07/27/2010
Lori Bryant-Woolridge
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Restless discontent will whisper in your ear...
Originally posted by
*Keona*
I've never looked at temptation that way. I think I'm in desperate need of some of that in my life now.
07/27/2010
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Brenda, temptation means going for it. I have a very loving partner. She is very experienced. That makes it fun.
Originally posted by
Cole Riley
I got in writing erotica when I wrote for Oui Magazine with my editor Dian Hanson, now with Taschen. That was long ago. Porn doesn't bother me. I see it mirrored in TV and film. But I love words. I love language.
07/27/2010
rexy
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that makes sense to me!
Originally posted by
Lori Bryant-Woolridge
My mom knows but my father doesn't!
07/27/2010
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Hello!
Originally posted by
deadpoet
Hi ya'll, sorry im late
07/27/2010
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What a fascinating story to your erotica beginnings! And to share space with Nikki Giovanni-- oh my!
Originally posted by
Lori Bryant-Woolridge
I got into writing erotica at the request of an editor who had read my sex scenes in my first novel, Read Between the Lies. It was for a Cleis book, Best Black Women's Erotica. The driving point that made me say yes was that I didn't know
...
more
I got into writing erotica at the request of an editor who had read my sex scenes in my first novel, Read Between the Lies. It was for a Cleis book, Best Black Women's Erotica. The driving point that made me say yes was that I didn't know when I might ever have the opportunity to share billing with greats like Nikki Giovanni or Iyanla Vanzant. For years, I actually avoided getting too deep into it because I wanted to grow my novelist voice. But after seeing the boom and seeing that so much of it was just one note, I thought I there might be room for my voice. And I'm so glad that really strong writers like Cole are in the game too.
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07/27/2010
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Oh I don't know about that! I usually can't keep lingerie on long enough to admire it myself. Shame too, love lingerie
Originally posted by
*Keona*
Maybe you should get some sexy lingerie and act out what you're reading when it comes to the sex parts. He might not read it with you but he'll most definitely listen to it.
07/27/2010
Lori Bryant-Woolridge
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Words have power. They leave lingering impressions. How many authors do you think actually consider that as they craft their stories. For all the reasons you mentioned, people are looking for escape and books still provide this. It's our job, through our work to provide escape that is entertaining, meaningful and hopeful. Well, I'm all about the happy ending!
Originally posted by
Cole Riley
Lori, in my trade, there is so much insensitivity between the sexes, between the genders, between everyone. I see it every day. How can we remedy that? With our work, maybe.
07/27/2010
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I can relate to that. I've read some stories that ended up in having to take a break to get myself together. Also, I think it takes a talented person to excite someone without necessarily using erotic terms. I tend not to read stories where the dialogue reads like bad porn.
Originally posted by
LicentiouslyYours
Reading erotica leaves part of what's going on to your imagination. It's customizable in that way, unlike porn, which leaves nothing to the imagination.
For me, erotica is preferable for this reason, but because a few well-chosen ... more
For me, erotica is preferable for this reason, but because a few well-chosen ... more
Reading erotica leaves part of what's going on to your imagination. It's customizable in that way, unlike porn, which leaves nothing to the imagination.
For me, erotica is preferable for this reason, but because a few well-chosen words can excite me instantly–they don't even have to be erotic. less
For me, erotica is preferable for this reason, but because a few well-chosen words can excite me instantly–they don't even have to be erotic. less
07/27/2010
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There is a time delay...LOL. I've seen a lot of love and lust but I want to experience so much more.
Originally posted by
Cole Riley
Brenda, temptation means going for it. I have a very loving partner. She is very experienced. That makes it fun.
07/27/2010