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08/01/2011
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Start small and use a lot of lube. Go slow. Communication is very important.
08/01/2011
Purpleladybug Purpleladybug
Lots of lube and take deep breathes and go slow and let her do all the controlling until she gets comfortable.
08/01/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
The link you have is for a 2.25" dia plug. That's enormous for anal - no way is that a beginner toy. Start at about 1" and work your way to 1.25 - the 1.5. By the time she's comfortable with 1.5" - chances are she will be ready for penile penetration.
08/02/2011
RonLee RonLee
Take it SLOW and slow means a lot more time than 10 seconds to put it into her.
08/02/2011
ToyBoy ToyBoy
Warm up with smaller toys, use lots of lube, go slow, and RELAX.
08/02/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by messer69
any way for easy anal sex?.besides booze...yes she's willing, just says it's uncomfortable..
1. NO booze is honestly the best advice. You WANT to be sober so you know what you are doing and can enjoy...without doing any harm. Booze is anesthetic and anesthetics numb pain signals that SHOULD say "stop".

2. If you are both interested and willing, GO SLOW, relax....a massage and tender play with fingers, kissing..even tongue if you want to do that, after a nice long shower together is GREAT.

3. Use a nice, thick anal specialty lube, then use fingers before EVER thinking about a penis. It should take MANY minutes to get your finger in there the first time. FORGET what you see in porn. You are not racing into this any more then you are running your Prius in the Indy 500. GO SLOW...go GENTLE.

4. Use lube...more lube, too much lube. THEN, and only then, ADD A HECK OF A LOT MORE LUBE. Did I mention, at this point USE MORE LUBE????? THEN ADD MORE. If you think you have used too much....ADD MORE.

5. Once you have a finger in there, to HER comfort (I love anal. I HATE pain), you do NOT need to THRUST. Just have it there. STILL. Pressure is enough. You can move it a little if SHE asks you to.


6. That activity alone may be fine for the first three or four "anal" sessions. Honestly. SLOW is better. SLOW equals NO PAIN. Slow equals a LIFETIME of anal fun for the both of you...if you START SLOW, GO SLOW and USE LOTS, LOTS, LOTS of lube, good judgment and loving tenderness.

7. Once you can get a finger in COMFORTABLY, for HER, repeat the above instructions till you can do TWO fingers. NO RUSH. This can be DAYS, or WEEKS. You will, hopefully, have fun every time!!!!

8. Once you can do TWO fingers, that is about close enough to penis size that after a GOOD, SLOW, LONG finger session (lots of clit play with the other hand does not hurt)....THEN you can start to introduce your penis to the equation.

9. The penis wants to go VAROOOM...fast. It is up to YOU to control it. SLOW, MORE LUBE...SLOW...THEN SLOWER STILL. Take your cues from HER. Let her open up and feel the GENTLE pressure. NO THRUSTING, NO POUNDING, NO ANYTHING. SLOW...pressure, slow.

BY THE WAY, Again, from a gal who LOVES anal....DOGGY STYLE may not be the best way to introduce anal. I have a number of girlfriends and we all talk "sex" and we ALL agree, MISSIONARY (pillow under rump) or laying on our side with bottom leg straight and top leg forward is WAY, WAY more comfortable for a newbie.

The woman can RELAX a lot more in missionary or on side too.

I would suggest approaching that way till you are both pro's and want to branch out positions.

THAT is MY advice. Be careful, have fun and DO NOT BE AFRAID TO STOP COMPLETELY and try another day if she in ANY way says "stop". She is at least willing and you have to make this PLEASANT as it sounds like she wants all the gain and ZERO pain. YOU can give her that.

ENJOY!!!!
08/02/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by RonLee
Take it SLOW and slow means a lot more time than 10 seconds to put it into her.
My "first" took an HOUR to half way put it in me. HE is the reason I LOVE anal play today. SLOW indeed.
08/02/2011
gary4funplay gary4funplay
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
1. NO booze is honestly the best advice. You WANT to be sober so you know what you are doing and can enjoy...without doing any harm. Booze is anesthetic and anesthetics numb pain signals that SHOULD say "stop".

2. If you are both ... More
Great Advice!!
10/10/2011
badk1tty badk1tty
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Originally posted by gary4funplay
Great Advice!!
Lube. Lots of it. And not the numbing kind, if it hurts you're doing it wrong. Be slow. Help her relax. Finger her ass first. Try smaller toys. And do not do it drunk or drugged up - if it HURTS you're doing it WRONG.
10/10/2011
Rawhide Rawhide
Ok yes, we've established lube. But what kind of lube? Silicone lube. Nice, thick, long lasting silicone lube.

Lay off the toys. Get yourself a nice glove and lube up your fingers. Run your fingers around the ring of her asshole- no penetration. Just rub and give light pressure. After lots of that (when you think you're done, you're halfway there) slip some fingers in. Next level after that is small toys.

Good luck! Remember, full on cock-in-ass anal sex is varsity level sex. Don't rush it.
10/11/2011
jenn g jenn g
it's a process of building up to insertion, then a process to build in size. don't rush it and she will probably love it.
10/21/2011
geliebt geliebt
I love silicone lube for anal. And I have to echo what everyone else says, take it slow, relax, don't pressure her or anything, make sure you guys trust eachother and are comfortable at all times. Your emotional state can have plenty of effect on it as well as everything else.
10/25/2011
kz916 kz916
Anal is fun.
12/10/2011
GRRRRR GRRRRR
I would say start off small and work your way up.
12/11/2011
Rawhide Rawhide
Also, as others have said: NO BOOZE! At least the first couple times. You want the senses sharp, not dull.
03/03/2012
Porygorish Porygorish
Maybe go with a little bit more of a beginner one, a 2 and a quarter inch is pushing a intermediate to a notch under advanced, go slow!
09/06/2012
Innocent Mathias Innocent Mathias
agree
11/24/2012
spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
1. NO booze is honestly the best advice. You WANT to be sober so you know what you are doing and can enjoy...without doing any harm. Booze is anesthetic and anesthetics numb pain signals that SHOULD say "stop".

2. If you are both ... More
You said it perfectly! A lot of good advice, pretty much everything someone needs to know.

I think it's also important to go slow even after it starts to become comfortable. I like to ease my wife into it by using lots of lube and slowly inserting one finger, then when she's enjoying that, two fingers. When she's comfortable with two fingers just being still inside her, I scissor them, slowly and gently at first. When she's comfortable with that, I know she is ready for my penis--if I go slow and pull out right away if she gives any sign of pain.

That's basically how I prepare myself for pegging, too. Anal can be incredibly enjoyable if done right.
11/24/2012
DiscretionAdvised DiscretionAdvised
Skip the booze, grab some Sliquid sassy booty formula, start with a finger, and go slow.
11/24/2012
Rraine Rraine
The best advice is to make sure she wants it and start out small and slow. Use a finger to loosen it up and go slow when doing it. Use lube.

Anal can be very enjoyable if done right and not rushed.
11/24/2012
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