a) LUBE LUBE LUBE (ie, I agree)
b) You don't have to start with a toy or a plug. Have your partner glove up one of their hands, add some lube (and then maybe a little more), and try rubbing the anus. Then, slowly and gently, push one finger inside of you. Work it in and out. Once you get accustomed to that, then you can work up to two, three, sex toys, penises, etc. Just remember, starting slow and small, and wanting more, is WAY better than starting too big and just hating it out right!
And I agree with Jimbo. I mean, we all know my slogan: Communication is key!
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