Best way to tell your girl you're into anal play?

FHeemz FHeemz
I am a straight male and I am quite comfortable with the fact that I am into anal play. However, it is still sadly quite a taboo subject in society. So my girlfriend and I have been going out for a bit now and I kinda want to tell her I am into anal play, but I don't know how to go about since I'm worried she might get weird about it. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. Thanks!
06/01/2012
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Nirelan Nirelan
I'd say if she was really into pleasing you (like a good girlfriend should be) just mention it to her...but make sure you tell her YOU are fond of it, she may say, "ewww" if she thinks you think that....or watch a porn with it in it? My man just straight out asked me to do it lol It's a HUGE turn on for me, and at first I totally didn't think it would be...
06/01/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
It took my wife a long time to comprehend that anal play does not equal homosexual tendencies. I bought a few small toys and asked her to try them out. The most successful toy was a vibrating plug that stayed in place during intercourse worked well because she could feel the vibrations - and liked them.
06/02/2012
Beck Beck
Might try asking her opinion on watching that in a porn. Say something like you happen to come across one online and that is what was going on. And see what she comments first. Then if she says that is hot you know what to say. But if she is grossed out, you'll have time to regroup and think about what all to inform her on why you like it and why she shouldn't be grossed out.
06/02/2012
Th8405 Th8405
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Originally posted by FHeemz
I am a straight male and I am quite comfortable with the fact that I am into anal play. However, it is still sadly quite a taboo subject in society. So my girlfriend and I have been going out for a bit now and I kinda want to tell her I am into anal ... More
When you all gettin busy just act like you accidently went into that area and if she complains youll know
06/02/2012
Gracie Gracie
I think you should just tell her "I enjoy anal play." Then describe what you would like to do together and see how it goes. Even if she doesn't respond the way you hope right away, you have opened the door to begin sharing more of your sexual desires. Ask her about her fantasies! You may begin to discover all sorts of wonderful things about each other! It is a process. I wish you all the best!
06/08/2012
klucas88 klucas88
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Originally posted by FHeemz
I am a straight male and I am quite comfortable with the fact that I am into anal play. However, it is still sadly quite a taboo subject in society. So my girlfriend and I have been going out for a bit now and I kinda want to tell her I am into anal ... More
just do it its not that weird
06/08/2012
Megan Jean Megan Jean
Just straight up tell her!
06/08/2012
Colonel Angus Colonel Angus
I'd say gradually work your way back during cunnilingus. Tease the taint, then go a little further. By that time, she should be pretty relaxed/excited and open to anything, unless she has a major hang-up, then she'll tell you (or at least give you enough body language - do pay attention), at which point, of course, you respect her boundaries. If that goes well, slowly start working a finger in while you are orally servicing her clit. See how she feels about anal penetration by her reaction.

If that has gone well, you can certainly discuss it. Or you can just keep trying new things and watching her reaction. Keep in mind, you need to really have her warmed up (again, I suggest oral) before you move onto anything else. You can also try working a finger in her butt during vaginal sex. Many women like the double penetration.

Later on, trying out a small plug (vibrating is probably better) with lots of lube. Obviously, make sure she knows what's coming before you slowly work it in.

Remember, she may not have done any anal play before, or she may have had a bad experience. The key is to earn her trust by respecting her boundaries and earn her lust by keeping her coming from other, more familiar activity before you start making and backdoor advances.

Now, if you are looking to be the receptive partner on ass-play, I think that usually comes naturally after getting her to enjoy receiving first. You can give her the opportunity to play with you simply by being accessible and providing verbal and non-verbal feedback when she is doing something you like.
06/09/2012
CaliGirl CaliGirl
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Originally posted by FHeemz
I am a straight male and I am quite comfortable with the fact that I am into anal play. However, it is still sadly quite a taboo subject in society. So my girlfriend and I have been going out for a bit now and I kinda want to tell her I am into anal ... More
Just be honest with her. If you are straight and only want her than tell her. Remind her how good anal play makes her feel and tell her that you would love for her to share that feeling with you.
06/20/2012
Andrew1992 Andrew1992
I would say something along the lines of "I'm into anal play" and if she freaks, she probably isn't very cool anyway.
06/25/2012
Velocity Velocity
Tell her your into that, and ask her if she's willing to consider it.
For some girls it's a huge thing to get over, others (like myself) had a really terrible first time experience and would really rather not go back there.
Go slow, and level up with toys or fingers to the real thing. Nothing worse than just going all out for it.
07/05/2012
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