A guy here - I hate it when my wife tries to make me cum quickly. Since most men - especially guys like me nearing 60 - are one and done!
I want to play - to enjoy a long time with my partner. We're usually 30-40 minutes into a session before I will even let her touch my erection.
After she has had 2-5 orgasms,
it's my turn - I get one big one and after that much build up, it is usually pretty intense.