First time for anal

cgartman1989 cgartman1989
I have never had anal, and I was interested in how to begin.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
With a toy
epiphanyjayne , LittleBun91 , Gureisu , SecretKinksters , MissyKy
5
With a finger
snowminx , AmethystQueen , never shy , LoneOokami , mandi.myth , RonLee , Rossie , Adnerbmw , Rufus , eri86 , butts , ChubbyNerd , NekoSerenity , dancingduo , Isola , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Hummingbird , Mrs.Hellzapoppin , Sirgirr , MrWood , animepanda89 , ashboo32 , sweetpea12 , Real or memorex , bratcat , lovelyzombie , Pastafariette , giftdgecko , NaughtyButterfly , SagePain , Bignuf , SecretKinksters , iluvPHSfh9 , Slutty Girl Problems , Paradoxica , peppermintgal , sexilexi29
37
With your patner's penis
Noelle
1
Total votes: 43 (42 voters)
Poll is closed
04/07/2013
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snowminx snowminx
I would definitely start with a finger.
PLEASE do not start with a penis, first off it most likely won't even go in unless he's using a lot of force and then if it does go in it will hurt worse than anything you have had sexually. Trust me on this- I had had a finger up there plenty of times and even small toys but when my partner was using force and finally got in, I felt like I was literally going to be sick. I had to had to lay on the bed for a while before I could even make myself stand up.
Even after you're getting used to anal I would advise fingers/ toys as foreplay before anal sex. Go slow and use lube. Yes it will hurt at first, for me it was a lot worse than losing my virginity, but it will get better with time if you don't rush things. Now I really enjoy being fingered and although I'm not too too joyful for anal right now I plan to be in the future.
Good luck and don't let anyone pressure you into something you're not read for yet!
04/07/2013
AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
Definitely with a well lubed finger. You probably won't find too many toys the size if your finger so start with something that does the job and is free!
04/07/2013
never shy never shy
Well lubed finger inserted slowly and make sure it is clipped down and smooth. Most toys will be large to start and a penis will be too large for a little while. Any time with snail make sure whatever you are using is clean lubed and take it slow.
04/07/2013
mandi.myth mandi.myth
start with a finger and lube. breath before and RELAX!
04/07/2013
Rossie Rossie
Like others have said, with a finger and lots of lube...just make sure the fingernails are neatly trimmed.
04/07/2013
Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
def use a finger, lube, and try to relax and enjoy it.
04/07/2013
epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
I used a very slender toy to start with, my personal preference.
04/07/2013
butts butts
Finger, slender toy, THEN penis, then bigger toys Go slow with lots of lube!
04/08/2013
cowboywill87 cowboywill87
Quote:
Originally posted by cgartman1989
I have never had anal, and I was interested in how to begin.
I personally would love to try this with my partner, it would be interesting experience. The problem that stops me from trying is size issue.
04/08/2013
ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
Your finger and lube.
04/08/2013
cgartman1989 cgartman1989
Quote:
Originally posted by cowboywill87
I personally would love to try this with my partner, it would be interesting experience. The problem that stops me from trying is size issue.
see i have always been fastinated with the idea nd i have a turn on for anal porn but i have always been to afraid to try it.
04/08/2013
dancingduo dancingduo
glove+lube for the first time.
04/08/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
As far as I'm concerned, you finger and plenty of lube to start. Circle the hole, just get used to that and slowly slip a digit in. Get comfortable with your pinky then work up to your thumb. If you like that that than there's plenty of beginner plugs both vibrating and to look into.
04/10/2013
animepanda89 animepanda89
Start slow with a lubed finger. Remember there is no such thing as too much lube when it comes to anal play.
04/15/2013
ashboo32 ashboo32
finger
04/15/2013
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by cgartman1989
I have never had anal, and I was interested in how to begin.
I would suggest starting with a finger, and then maybe two fingers. Just ease yourself into the situation.. And be patient, anal can be really uncomfortable if you rush it
04/22/2013
Real or memorex Real or memorex
A finger is something you already have and which costs nothing. Small plugs are great when you want to move up.

Stay away from the penis. Penis is an advanced-level item.
05/06/2013
lovelyzombie lovelyzombie
finger
05/07/2013
Catan Catan
Take it slow, and by slow, I don't mean a few minutes slow, I mean a few weeks slow. Just use one finger your first couple of sessions, then 2 fingers your next several. Don't move on until the previous phase no longer makes you nervous. When you are ready for a slender toy, I read from another poster that vibrating toys are actually more comfortable to insert than non-vibrating ones.
05/07/2013
giftdgecko giftdgecko
Quote:
Originally posted by cgartman1989
I have never had anal, and I was interested in how to begin.
smaller is better until you can get used to the sensation and relax. Natural instinct is for your muscles to fight it, which can make it painful.
05/08/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by cgartman1989
see i have always been fastinated with the idea nd i have a turn on for anal porn but i have always been to afraid to try it.
Don't be afraid. Slow, slow, slow, with the receiver calling all the shots is key. This, plus using way more lube then you need, and a finger does not have to "hurt" at all. This should be an intense and totally pleasurable experience. I read in some posts here about, "it will hurt". NO! If it is hurting, then you are doing something wrong or moving too fast.
12/02/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Hummingbird
As far as I'm concerned, you finger and plenty of lube to start. Circle the hole, just get used to that and slowly slip a digit in. Get comfortable with your pinky then work up to your thumb. If you like that that than there's plenty of ... More
We agree totally with your ideas here. Fingering around the anus and using the pinkie first for a while is a great idea, with lots and lots of lube. Use a towel under you so you are not stressed about creating a mess and thus tightening up more.
12/02/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Finger or small toy, and ease your way into it.
12/02/2013
Slutty Girl Problems Slutty Girl Problems
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
I would definitely start with a finger.
PLEASE do not start with a penis, first off it most likely won't even go in unless he's using a lot of force and then if it does go in it will hurt worse than anything you have had sexually. Trust ... More
Fabulous answer!!!!

Finger all the way. I'd also recommend getting finger cots. They make for a much smoother entry. Smoother = less pain!
12/03/2013
Slutty Girl Problems Slutty Girl Problems
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
I would definitely start with a finger.
PLEASE do not start with a penis, first off it most likely won't even go in unless he's using a lot of force and then if it does go in it will hurt worse than anything you have had sexually. Trust ... More
Also would recommend the Jo H2O Anal Lubricant, or the Sliquid Sassy Anal Lube (unfortunately no longer carried here)
12/03/2013
Paradoxica Paradoxica
Quote:
Originally posted by cgartman1989
I have never had anal, and I was interested in how to begin.
I've found it is really important for me to be in control of the movement until I'm really relaxed and into it...he or she should only apply slight pressure at first, letting your body get used to the sensation and start moving naturally. Starting small and slow (and well lubed) is always a good idea. For it to be fun for both, your partner really has to be tuned in to what is going on for you and paying close attention to how your body responds to each touch.
12/04/2013
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Unique posters: 24