For ladies... to fake or not to fake
I don't fake. My Man can take it if I don't come. And, if I don't he knows we need to continue to work on it, if I really want to. Why should I miss out?
A few times, a long time ago, when I was having a lot of problems with climax I did, but I realized I was reinforcing techniques (and time frames) that didn't work for me, and he was thinking this stuff was working. That wasn't good for either of us.
You both need to work on what works, and if necessary, SHOW him what works for you, if he can't get you to orgasm. Then he can try it. If necessary show him what toys work for you, so you can use them together.
You both benefit from honesty.
A few times, a long time ago, when I was having a lot of problems with climax I did, but I realized I was reinforcing techniques (and time frames) that didn't work for me, and he was thinking this stuff was working. That wasn't good for either of us.
You both need to work on what works, and if necessary, SHOW him what works for you, if he can't get you to orgasm. Then he can try it. If necessary show him what toys work for you, so you can use them together.
You both benefit from honesty.
03/05/2012
Nahhh, and it always startled me immensely to see how many females have done such a thing, especially that many of them do it regularly!
It wouldn't only be totally disrespectful to a partner, it is also the sure way to take any chance out to make mutual pleasure work! I rather whine and pull legs and whimper and beg and repeat my opinion than turn to faking or other horrid deeds! ^^
It wouldn't only be totally disrespectful to a partner, it is also the sure way to take any chance out to make mutual pleasure work! I rather whine and pull legs and whimper and beg and repeat my opinion than turn to faking or other horrid deeds! ^^
03/05/2012
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Im not a lady lol, but my wife has told me she has faked it before. That was before we got married though. I did take a slight blow to the ego about it, but I know that she has more of the "pleasurable orgasms" rather than those earth shattering ones, so she said it feels good still, its just not the "orgasms" I was expecting. I would much rather she be totally honest with me though. In my opinion. My ego can take it, and this way I can also try to find out what I can do BETTER to make sure that she DOES have that "earth shattering orgasm".
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Lady Hazel
Have you ever faked just too save your mans ego??
03/06/2012
I wouldn't ever fake it because I wouldn't ever want to be in the position of explaining that I know it seemed like I was really enjoying that for months, but I didn't and now I want mine. It makes a lot more sense to me to try and get mine right off the bat than lie about it and hurt my partner even more later on.
03/06/2012
I'd never fake it. Faking just means I'll either have to continue to fake while the guy thinks he's doing a good job, or I'll have to explain later why it suddenly isn't working.
It's best to just be honest. A good man will listen to what you like and try to work with you. If a man's ego is such that he can't or won't handle that, then he obviously doesn't care enough about your pleasure and thus is not worth your time or trouble.
It's best to just be honest. A good man will listen to what you like and try to work with you. If a man's ego is such that he can't or won't handle that, then he obviously doesn't care enough about your pleasure and thus is not worth your time or trouble.
03/06/2012
I do not fake with my partner. I think when communication is healthy and open, that includes our communication in the bedroom. My partner wants me to enjoy myself as much as he does, or more. So he is willing to take however long it takes, and do whatever it takes, to make sure I enjoy myself.
Relationships thrive when there is honesty across the board. If you fake, you are cheating both of you out of a happy, healthy, fulfilling relationship.
Relationships thrive when there is honesty across the board. If you fake, you are cheating both of you out of a happy, healthy, fulfilling relationship.
03/06/2012
I've never faked it and never will, I made it clear to my partner from the start that I have a hard time orgasming and just penetration or light play is never going to get me there unfortunately. He doesn't take it personally because he KNOWS it's not his fault at all, he feels bad that I can't but he's SUPER good about making sure that I have my bullet or something to help. He said he faked it with his ex before though haha, that's a whole other story though and I understand why he did.
03/12/2012
