For ladies... to fake or not to fake

SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
No, it is lying.
03/27/2012
FruityCloudPuff FruityCloudPuff
I've moaned louder then I probably need too, but never faked anything. Mostly because I don't have many orgasms, and my boyfriend can't figure out how to help me achieve them. *shrugs*
03/27/2012
Caus Caus
Faking is so counterproductive on so many levels.
03/27/2012
HannahPanda HannahPanda
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
I wouldn't ever fake it because I wouldn't ever want to be in the position of explaining that I know it seemed like I was really enjoying that for months, but I didn't and now I want mine. It makes a lot more sense to me to try and get ... More
Said perfectly. I don't fake it, don't plan to.
03/27/2012
tattooedtaurus tattooedtaurus
I feel like faking orgasms really emotionally undermines relationships, because humans are sexual beings. Eventually, you WILL resent your partner for your lack of sexual fulfillment.And they are not going to understand, because they think they've been doing it right the whole time!! It's better to calmly explain to them what works and what doesn't. A little gentle "coaching" during the act can do wonders!
03/31/2012
Shellz31 Shellz31
I can't bring myself to fake it. If I can't cum, then that's that. If a guy can't accept that on the rare occasion (only when I have too much on my mind - at this stage) it's just not going to happen for me at that time, then he's not suitable cause I won't fake it.
04/15/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I have a very hard time achieving climax and my hubby knows that so there's no reason to fake.
04/15/2012
JessCee JessCee
I'm not going to lie and say I NEVER faked it... but I sure did learn the hard way that it's not the way to go, LOL
04/15/2012
Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
I have never faked, and I never will fake. Honesty is important. If something is not working then find something that does work. Communication is the only way to fix the problem. Besides if I'm having a hard time its usually something about my body that has nothing to do with my partner. Fixating on orgasm rather than sensation and enjoyment in general is not healthy, its puts way too much pressure on both partners and makes orgasm even more elusive.
04/15/2012
Girly Juice Girly Juice
I don't understand how any woman who fakes orgasms expects to ever have good sex. I would never do it because I expect my partner to learn how to make me come, even if it doesn't happen right away. I also don't lie to my partners, and would expect the same basic courtesy in return.
04/15/2012
SecretToyMan SecretToyMan
My wife faked a lot when we first met. She told me she wanted to boost my ego because I was a virgin when we met.
04/23/2012
catastic catastic
I never fake it. Faking it means your partner won't know that it wasn't working for you and might do the same thing next time.
05/03/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
No, I'd rather be honest
05/05/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I always tell guys straight up that I don't get off during sex.
05/05/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
No faking. I don't think it's a big deal to NOT orgasm.
05/05/2012
toxie m toxie m
Not with my current partner, no.
05/05/2012
Chami Chami
if he doesnt get me there i make him do other things to get me there
05/08/2012
tigertiger tigertiger
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady Hazel
Have you ever faked just too save your mans ego??
NO. faking it means you don't get what you want
05/15/2012
VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
No, it's the opposite of good communication in bed. If it's not working, I tell him/her how to make it work better. If I just can't (or don't want to) come, it's no big deal. Pleasure doesn't begin and end with orgasms.

To me faking it is a form of a lie, and it cheats both partners out of learning how to make things better.
05/15/2012
Passion plum Passion plum
Don't fake it. If he doesn't do it for you then do it for yourself.
05/15/2012
TakeHimAway TakeHimAway
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady Hazel
Have you ever faked just too save your mans ego??
Nope.
05/16/2012
Life's Little Secrets Life's Little Secrets
I have never faked an orgasm for my SO. He prefers me to be honest, and I have also told him countless times that if I am not into it then I just won't get turned on. I have actually been so honest with him that I told him I just wasn't into it that night and it wasn't gonna happen. He can either deal with it or go jerk off... in the end that's his choice.
05/24/2012
Kat. Kat.
Its not worth it. If your man thinks you like what he's doing and you don't your just digging yourself a hole.
06/05/2012
Whisper21 Whisper21
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady Hazel
Have you ever faked just too save your mans ego??
My husband and I are more open about this. If I feel the need to fake we just discuss instead what to do to make it better for me.
06/05/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady Hazel
Have you ever faked just too save your mans ego??
I have, not with my current partner.
06/05/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
Nope, never faked and never will.
06/05/2012
Short Cake Short Cake
If it's not working for me, he can always tell and we try something different. We have an understanding about this! Even if we didn't I still wouldn't, hey if it's not working why fake it say something and fix it that way you can get to the big O!
06/05/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
No, if you fake then he has no way of knowing what you actually like and hes going to continue to do things you are indifferent to, or worse, dislike.
06/05/2012
jennifur77 jennifur77
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady Hazel
Have you ever faked just too save your mans ego??
NEVER fake. Then your partner thinks what they are doing that isn't working is working and then they will do the same thing next time.
06/05/2012
Velocity Velocity
Sometimes it's really hard for me to orgasm, but i've never faked it.
There will be points during sex that I'm /almost/ there but I won't actually come, and start to go through my orgasm motions. But I don't view that as faking. My partner knows when I do, don't and almost get there.
He also knows that I don't always need one. I personally quite enjoy the intimacy of having sex with him, and thats pleasurable enough.
A huge part of good sex is being able to tell each other when sex was particularly good or not, and being able to guide each other to what feels the best.
07/09/2012
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