Getting what you want in bed

link82 link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
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I just come right out and tell them - it's important to be straightforward so that we both end up satisfied.
55  (12%)
I show them by guiding their hands (and other parts).
10  (2%)
I let them know by moaning and making other noises when things feel good.
27  (6%)
I do all of the above.
312  (71%)
I'm more shy in bed and am not sure how to let my partner know what I like.
31  (7%)
Other (please explain)
5  (1%)
Total votes: 440
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06/10/2011
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daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
We mostly figure it out without words, but I wouldn't hesitate to say something.
06/10/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
Tell them straight! I hate not being pleasured properly.
06/10/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I have to be really careful how I ask because my partner gets offended easily or gives up easily when I tell him to try differently.

He has been getting better and has been perservering a lot more. I am proud of him!
06/11/2011
ichigostrawberry ichigostrawberry
I just do a combination of things. It really depends on the situation since correctly at the wrong time could be a mood-killer.
06/11/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
I do all the above, but I rarely have to because he knows EXACTLY what I like. I guess he can read my mind because he can always tell when I would prefer slower, harder, etc. lol He never gets it wrong, but my preferences change depending on my mood so sometimes I have to say whoa. That's too much or be careful (if it's too rough on my lower stomach.) Anyways, I'm VERY blessed to have someone who cares so much about my enjoyment too. His goal is always to please. lol He's always making sure it's what I want and how I want it.
06/11/2011
Ghost Ghost
The better the communication - the better the sex.
06/11/2011
married with children married with children
you have to be able to communicate to have a good relationship. You have to be able to tell them what you like without making them feel like they are doing it wrong.
06/11/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
This looks a lot like another post word for word? Maybe just a coincidence. Anyhow, I do all of the above, but not on purpose. It just sort of "happens" for me. I naturally make moans or somewhat of sighs when I'm wanting my fiance to get in there and give it to me how I want, and when he touches a spot that I like, those moans get more intense. He does a really great job at feeling my whole body up before hand in order to know where I want to get touched or how I want to be made love to. I have good communication when it comes to what I want, and same goes for my fiance. During sex we will say "Sweetie you're hurting me a little" or "Can you rub a little lower". Things like that are heard a lot in bed, because we want to make sure we know how the other is feeling. It's a bit funny, but I swear some days, spots that felt good the previous day don't feel good the next day. So it's all about communication.
06/11/2011
Anjulie Anjulie
It's a combo of all 3 for me. Mostly i guide and let them know by my reaction. But, if i think it is something they may have no idea im into, i will just tell them.
06/11/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I do all of them. I'm a big fan of telling them straight out and then I show him I like it as he is doing it
06/11/2011
SiNSaNiTy SiNSaNiTy
you have to just ask for what you want, or show them. The moaning always helps too
06/11/2011
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
I do both tell and show
06/12/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
i "show" him what i like
06/12/2011
zeebot zeebot
Most moaning (I like moaning), but talking and guiding as well.
06/16/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
He knows my body better than I do, honestly. Occasionally, I will grab a hold of his hand, whisper in his ear, or demonstrate. We've been together so long he knows my body like his hand.
06/16/2011
ID42 ID42
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
He knows my body better than I do, honestly. Occasionally, I will grab a hold of his hand, whisper in his ear, or demonstrate. We've been together so long he knows my body like his hand.
Exactly. My hubby is the same way.
06/16/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
He knows my body better than I do, honestly. Occasionally, I will grab a hold of his hand, whisper in his ear, or demonstrate. We've been together so long he knows my body like his hand.
My wife has said this to me many times - it's her highest compliment.
06/16/2011
LostBoy988 LostBoy988
I enjoy experimenting and communicating both verbally and physically.
06/18/2011
stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
As almost everyone has stated. It is all about communication & knowing your partner.
06/20/2011
Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
Well I'm pretty straight forward with what I want I think, but don't always get what I want. Usually though if I'm patient and not pushy my partner will decide to surprise me with something I'd been asking for.
06/21/2011
Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
Quote:
Originally posted by Ghost
The better the communication - the better the sex.
So true!
06/21/2011
ichwillwaffels ichwillwaffels
Quote:
Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
I'm pretty shy. My partner is a traditional kind of guy and I dont know how to tell him when i want to add a kink
06/22/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
We have gotten better about specifically talking about our likes/dislikes over the years.
06/23/2011
iveversxe iveversxe
I tell them what I liked and didn't like. I'd rather have no sex than bad sex, and most of all I prefer great sex.
06/29/2011
MJ1337 MJ1337
It's so important to tell your partner (in some form) what works for you and what doesn't. Makes for a better sex life!
06/30/2011
Mr. & Mrs. Peg Mr. & Mrs. Peg
Somethings we need to talk about. If it isn't complicated, or doesn't need an explanation (i.e. pegging) than a moan is very helpful.
06/30/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
My fiancee and I definitely do all three!
06/30/2011
edrys edrys
Its more fun if you do everything
06/30/2011
Love&War Love&War
We do all three. It helps to know each other so well too
07/05/2011
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