I've only had mine a week, but I love it so hard! The trick I figured out tonight was using it in the bath. The water helps support the weight of it so you can just let it rest there against your G-spot while you relax in the water. A waterproof clit vibe would be a nice addition too.
In bed, the rocking motion is best. I warm up with the small end, then switch to the large one, rest it just behind my G and rock away, either laying on my side or back.
(I would not recommend letting a partner control the thrusting until you've both gotten used to how it handles, just to be safe.)
Hopefully some wand veterans will come along to give more tips!
I've had mine for more than a week, but only used it once. I've been trying the rocking motion, but my husband can't keep his fingers away from my clit, so I haven't had a chance to achieve a g-spot only orgasm from the wand yet.
I'll have to try again while he's sleeping, so he won't be in the way!
We use all of our toys together - but when I bought the Pure Wand I printed out every review for it that I could find on the internet. I gave her the Pure Wand, the printout - and went on a business trip. Her instructions were to learn how the thing works and teach me.
The strategy was very successful. Basically the technique is like Redboxbaby describes.
As you probably know as a woman's arousal level increases, her vagina deepens. For this reason I make sure she's pretty turned on (usually with oral) - then start with shallow rocking motions (we only use the larger ball vaginally).
As things progress the penetration becomes a little deeper - but one needs to be careful - even though there is not pain during play - if I am too aggressive, her cervix can hurt a little. She concedes 'it hurts so good'.
for backdoor pleasure, lie on your side, use your thighs to hold onto one of the ends, and then use hump motion. this allows your to control the depth and speed of the penetration with how fast and how deep you hump.
When using it on my wife, besides rocking I also like to do back and forth sweeping motions so that I don't get the head caught on her pubic bone. And try using both ends, they create different sensations.
Congratulations! I hope you enjoy your introduction to stainless steel.
Lot of good ideas here, I'll just add one. Try a windshield wiper motion, let the entrance to your vagina/anus act as a pivot point and stroke the spot from side to side. My favorite for P-spot stimulation, I am sure it could work good for G-spot stimulation as well.