Questions from a virgin

lilacviolet lilacviolet
I probably made a thread similar to this somewhere but I can't find it no matter where I look. Anyway so I'm a virgin, never used tampons, don't insert fingers usually. I think my hymen is stretched enough though, not sure. Anyway, several months ago I bought a slim silicone dildo (The Slim by Doc Johnson) but I've tried inserting it at least 20 times by now over the course of several months and all it has given me is frustration. I can't seem to insert it no matter how much I try.

Okay, my problem is that even when I'm naturally lubed up AND EVEN WHEN I use literally HALF A BOTTLE of lube and everything is slick and wet, I CAN'T insert the dildo anyway! What am I doing wrong? It seems like the silicone sucks up all the lube, completely drying me up no matter how much lube I produce and no matter if I practically use half a bottle of lube, the silicone seems to just absorb the lube and dry me up. I feel like my vagina is a vault refusing to budge, like my vagina is completely bolted shut.

I think I have been able to insert it 1 inch, 2 inches maybe, maybe 3 inches at most but no matter how much I try to insert it, it feels like my vagina is a closed wall, a bolted iron vault. I'm so clueless. The little bit that I have been able to insert it, it feels completely uncomfortable and not pleasurable at all. It feels like I just inserted a stick of rubber inside me (well a stick of silicone). I don't know how a dildo can be pleasurable in that way?

I need some advice or help or recommendations. No matter what I do, I can't insert the silicone dildo, it's extremely draggy and it seems to absorb all forms of lube drying me up. No matter how wet I am, it seems to dry me up and it feels like I'm trying to tear my insides with it. I have literally used up half a bottle of lube trying to fix the problem and it doesn't make a difference. What am I doing wrong?

Also another question from a clueless virgin. How does it feel to have a dildo inside you? Does it feel like you have a stick of rubber inside you? That's sort of how it felt for me and it was extremely uncomfortable. How do people find that pleasurable at all?

*clueless*
I'll ask more questions later as they come up. I hope this is the right thread to post this.
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Quote:
Originally posted by lilacviolet
I probably made a thread similar to this somewhere but I can't find it no matter where I look. Anyway so I'm a virgin, never used tampons, don't insert fingers usually. I think my hymen is stretched enough though, not sure. Anyway, ... More
I'm sending you a PM because I have a long response. But the main thing you need to do is stop trying for now & go to the gynecologist. It's essential you get checked out to see what might be going on down there & to rule out a physical cause. This is nothing to fool around with, you gave it plenty of tries. There is no use speculating about it when you can & should relieve your mind by finding out what is going on. It could be a simple matter, but you won't know that until you get checked out.

By the way, if you click on the "Set Alerts", right under your discussion title on this page, a box will open & you can check the box so you will get an email letting you know when someone responds to this discussion! That way, you don't have to remember how to find it. (I saw you said you couldn't find your previous post.)
04/03/2013
charletnarouh charletnarouh
i would second going to a doctor if you haven't already, but i'd also recommend trying with your fingers and using a mirror to look for yourself.
04/15/2013
kaylajoy89 kaylajoy89
it takes time. don't rush it and hurt yourself.
04/16/2013
LilVBWifey LilVBWifey
Quote:
Originally posted by lilacviolet
I probably made a thread similar to this somewhere but I can't find it no matter where I look. Anyway so I'm a virgin, never used tampons, don't insert fingers usually. I think my hymen is stretched enough though, not sure. Anyway, ... More
Make sure you aren't trying to go straight up. Angle it towards your tailbone, like diagonally. That will follow the natural curve, also if you use it on the clit first it will get you ready to insert it! HTH
04/16/2013
Lovelove21 Lovelove21
Did you find out why you couldn't fit it in? I'm a Virgin and I have the same problem. Did you go to the doctor?
08/04/2013
Tar2013 Tar2013
Go to the gynecologist with this to rule out anything big, but you could need a vaginal dilator system. You literally could just be really really tight. You should try with fingers.
09/28/2013
flameworker flameworker
Quote:
Originally posted by Tar2013
Go to the gynecologist with this to rule out anything big, but you could need a vaginal dilator system. You literally could just be really really tight. You should try with fingers.
A trip to the Doctor. Plus, why not stick to some of the clitoral vibrators for the time being and relax and enjoy that for a while. Then move on to the penetration vibrators.
10/03/2013
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