Stretching for fisting: Ideas?

Contributor: Jess.McCleod Jess.McCleod
Hello!

My girlfriend recently had the, "So I would like you to try (vaginally) fisting me," talk with me - something I'm 110% for but we're both 110% new at. We both definitely know this is going to be a slow, lubed filled, process that could take weeks+ to achieve and could possibly not be physically possible. We're in a super trusting place and I know that she knows she can pull the plug or pause it any time, communication is half of this process for us.

The big question I have is does anyone out there that has suggestions for stretching toys? We're definitely open to looking into anything. Obviously fingers are a great option! But having some little adventures on the way there sounds exciting.

The only qualifier is that she is pretty much a super lesbian and doesn't like any toys that look vaguely realistic penis-wise. But feel free to throw stuff out there incase someone with the same question, but less restrictions, comes along!

Thanks in advance
02/13/2017
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Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
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Originally posted by Jess.McCleod
Hello!

My girlfriend recently had the, "So I would like you to try (vaginally) fisting me," talk with me - something I'm 110% for but we're both 110% new at. We both definitely know this is going to be a slow, lubed filled, ... more
If you're looking for something girthy, still not realistic, I'd recommend you one fo these guys: Mio, Tiger or O2 Cush.
02/14/2017
Contributor: Jess.McCleod Jess.McCleod
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Originally posted by Lena Eden
If you're looking for something girthy, still not realistic, I'd recommend you one fo these guys: Mio, Tiger or O2 Cush. ... more
Especially the Mio will definitely be on the list. I suppose I didn't know my question was actually are there even toys, or tools, that people have found made their vaginas more accommodating. Most things I've found in this category have been more for people with specifically small vaginas that want to work up to an average size.

Thanks for your suggestions! Definitely going to run them by her.
02/14/2017
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
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Originally posted by Jess.McCleod
Especially the Mio will definitely be on the list. I suppose I didn't know my question was actually are there even toys, or tools, that people have found made their vaginas more accommodating. Most things I've found in this category have been ... more
You're more than welcome

Probably you'd like to share your experience once you've tried the Mio or any other big dildo? Do you know about the Review Program we're running on EdenFantasys?
02/15/2017
Contributor: jen1447 jen1447
Can I ask what level of size/penetration you're at now normally? Stretching is something that definitely needs to be done in stages, so for instance if you use small sizes now or just focus mainly on clit pleasure, you don't want to go straight to some big toy that's supposedly designed for stretching. You could help her stretch just by taking a step up, like a medium sized dildo.

If you're already pretty far along tho and you feel like you're ready to take the plunge, personally I'd just practice with the real thing. You don't really have to get all the way there on the first (or tenth) try, and you can have plenty of fun working up to it and still giving her the thrill of trying and having various amounts of you inside her.

I'm not much into fisting myself but I use a lot of big dilos on women (usually strapons - funny how no one likes a small dick when they have a choice ) and so I understand the special thrill of toy play. It doesn't really matter what you use as long as the size is right tho (aside from body-safe materials etc.), so I'm sure the EF peeps here can suggest lots of fun stuff. You could even go grocery shopping for a special twist if you know what I mean. The produce section takes on new meaning when grocery shopping becomes sex toy shopping, and it's easy to upgrade.
02/15/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by jen1447
Can I ask what level of size/penetration you're at now normally? Stretching is something that definitely needs to be done in stages, so for instance if you use small sizes now or just focus mainly on clit pleasure, you don't want to go ... more
I remember one time at the cuke section, this lady almost pushed me over. She was picking them up and examining them at a quick pace. If I remember correctly, she grabbed a few fairly large ones with peculiar shapes.

Of course maybe she was going to make a salad. Didn't notice what else was in her basket.
02/16/2017
Contributor: Jess.McCleod Jess.McCleod
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Originally posted by Lena Eden
You're more than welcome

Probably you'd like to share your experience once you've tried the Mio or any other big dildo? Do you know about the Review Program we're running on EdenFantasys? ... more
I do, yes! I did a couple... I really don't want to know how many years ago. I admittedly fell out of toy play a little bit but everything always seems to come back around, doesn't it?

Once we've settled on a couple new play pals and really give them a work out reviewing is definitely something I'll be peeking into again. I love reading other people's reviews.
02/16/2017
Contributor: Jess.McCleod Jess.McCleod
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Originally posted by jen1447
Can I ask what level of size/penetration you're at now normally? Stretching is something that definitely needs to be done in stages, so for instance if you use small sizes now or just focus mainly on clit pleasure, you don't want to go ... more
We're definitely on the work up. I have very small hands and while two fingers are welcome pretty much right off the bat the third is definitely a work up to. As I said in my original post - we are definitely not looking into this has a race! Even if this doesn't end up being pleasurably possible - the idea of being 'THAT' full is arousing no matter how many digits that takes.

I'm honestly glad that there isn't a specific toy out there for this kind of thing! When I couldn't find one myself I thought I had to be crazy - there's one of everything out there. But we have 0 qualms about buying a measuring cup-esk set of dildos and working up the line up.

I think we both actually enjoy me using my own hand. Not only does it have a far more personal touch but I feel like once we do work up it's almost as if your starting with the right shape to begin with? If that makes sense. However, in a pinch, I'm ready to fight someone for the biggest carrot.

Thanks!
02/16/2017
Contributor: jen1447 jen1447
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Originally posted by Jess.McCleod
We're definitely on the work up. I have very small hands and while two fingers are welcome pretty much right off the bat the third is definitely a work up to. As I said in my original post - we are definitely not looking into this has a race! ... more
That's a good point about hands - there's no better tool in existence than the human hand. That's why when it comes to stuff like g-spot treatment, while toys are fun, if I really want to get it done and make a woman squirt, I'll always use my fingers. Precision control baby.

Also yeah, your hand is undeniably human while being un-dick-like, so that's a big plus. And you're right that it tapers nicely to your fingertips.

btw, remember that the vagina is very elastic and was bscly built to accommodate a variety of sizes (including babies going out lol), so do apply those basic arousal and warmup principles before trying the main event. I find that the best way to get a woman ready is to sex her up well beforehand (day-long seduction via text, call, etc.) and then a lengthy lead-in makeout session that also involves increased levels of pussy play, from a clit tickle to an eventual finger inside pushing on her g-spot. If you do that long enough while building her up without release (she can have 20+ gazzes or w/e after you push her over), she'll be ready for almost anything in an hour or so.
02/17/2017
Contributor: Otelia Otelia
use an oil with vitamin-E as a lube and stay with your hand...one finger, two finger....three finger four....till she is comfortable....anyway that is what I like
01/06/2020
Contributor: kinkycouplebi kinkycouplebi
Fisting is very pleasurable, but its very important you both have a safe word , that at anytime u feel uncomfortable she can pull out slowly, otherwise you will clamp her inside.
Another important fact is to be extremely relaxed, the more relaxed you are , the more your pussy, will open and welcome her fist.
08/23/2020