Vaginal/g-spot orgasms while masturbating, etc.

Phobia Phobia
Alright, so first of all, I'm new here, so hello everyone. (:

I can orgasm with clitoral stimulation, but only when I'm watching porn. And that's probably normal. During sex, I cannot orgasm. At all. Even if I stimulate myself, which I usually don't want to, it does nothing. I'm pretty sure it has something to do with my partner, who doesn't really make it exactly "comfortable" for me. He's very large, and he usually tries to penetrate very deeply, which ends up causing me a lot of pain. The girth is great, but it's the length that kills me. It's not like I'm complaining, but yeah.

So, I have never had a vaginal/g-spot/"squirt ing" orgasm. I partly blame it on my birth control pills, which I believe have totally whacked out my hormones.

I use the only dildo I have at the moment, which is a glass one I believe I purchased here. I like it, but I hate how cold it is. I like something with weight and, like, texture. I can't do those slim, smooth ones. Doesn't do anything for me.

What is your advice on masturbating and orgasming?
Feb 25, 2:34 am
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edeneve edeneve
welcome to EF. I hope you find it an enjoyable experience.

there are a lot of questions here. I'll do my best to address each one.

do you watch porn w/ your partner. if it gets you off when you're alone, watching it w/ your partner just may give you that O.

if your partner is hurting you during intercourse, have you talked about it w/ him? if not, you need to tell him it hurts & keeps you from having an orgasm & pleasure. it's not about complaining. it's about improving your sex life. communication is essential to a good sex life, among other relationship dynamics. if he truly cares for you, he should be wanting to pleasure you as well as be sensitive to your needs.

I hope you haven't been faking orgasms w/ him. that conveys the wrong message to him of what you're actually experiencing. and he will keep doing those things you indicate you enjoy cuz he doesn't know otherwise. he really does need to know how much pain he's causing you. a lot of pain? no wonder you don't enjoy sex w/ him.

I have never heard of birth control pills preventing a vaginal/g-spot/"s quirting" orgasm. if you think the pills are playing havoc with your body, see your Dr. tests can be done to determine this. there are lots of other birth control pills and alternatives that could work better for you.

a lot of ladies never experience a vaginal/g-spot/"s quirting" orgasm. what are you doing to search for that experience besides intercourse? there are a lot of vibrators that can give orgasms vs. just a dildo. are you using the dildo in a way that gives you pleasure.

if you have any questions about my response or otherwise, post my wall or send me a personal message/PM.

good luck & I hope you find pleasure.
Feb 25, 3:19 pm
Phobia Phobia
Thank you for your reply!

I don't watch porn with him, for a few reasons. I tend to be more into the kinky/bizarre stuff, and I don't want to frighten him. Lol! Also, with him there, it kind of turns me off. I prefer to do that alone.

No, I have NEVER faked an orgasm. I wouldn't even know how. He knows I can't do it, and he wishes he could, but it isn't really brought up, I guess.

I've discussed this with him, the way he's a little rough and he makes me feel guilty if I don't give him oral sex. I don't think it's intentional, though.

This whole thing is really about getting comfortable with a partner to the point where I can experience and orgasm. An orgasm on my own would be nice too. (:
Feb 26, 5:08 pm
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by Phobia
Alright, so first of all, I'm new here, so hello everyone. (:

I can orgasm with clitoral stimulation, but only when I'm watching porn. And that's probably normal. During sex, I cannot orgasm. At all. Even if I stimulate myself, ... More
I would ask your partner not to penetrate so deeply, tell him that it hurts and isn't pleasant for you. If he cares about you he won't continue doing something that hurts you, if he continues then he doesn't care enough about you and you'd be best leaving him.

I get there multiple times every time my husband and I have sex. It's awesome!

I enjoy toys, but very few of the toys I currently have are enough to get me there by themselves. I don't usually care for porn, though I like to read erotica.
Feb 26, 11:45 pm
edeneve edeneve
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Originally posted by Phobia
Thank you for your reply!

I don't watch porn with him, for a few reasons. I tend to be more into the kinky/bizarre stuff, and I don't want to frighten him. Lol! Also, with him there, it kind of turns me off. I prefer to do that ... More
if he trys to make you feel guilty, he only cares about what he wants. please don't accept his guilt trips on you as unintentional. people that lay guilt trips on others know exactly what they're doing. that's my 2 cents, for what it's worth.

feel free to post my wall or send me a personal message/PM anytime.
Feb 26, 11:53 pm
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