What is the best way to tell your partner about your kink?

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What is the best way to tell your partner about your kink?

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Contributor: Arlinnae Arlinnae
If you are unsure you kink would be well-ecived, what is the best way to tell them about it to minimize a really bad reaction?
I was lucky enough that it was my partner who came out with his kink first and made it easier for me to admit mine, but I am not sure if I had been brave enough to take the firat step.
ow do you/did you do it?
01/06/2013
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Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
For us it was the trust we have between each other for many many many years. If we're just talking about using vibes together than we started small, with the Tiani 2. Beyond that I can't speak to. It really depends on the couple, the communication between them and what they're planning on sharing.
01/06/2013
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
You have to have trust and a solid line of communication between you two. Just be honest and listen.
01/06/2013
Contributor: Strider Strider
Talk about it. Not in a "we need to talk" overly serious way but not in a completely flippant way either. Just talk. Say that you find whatever it is interesting and go from there.
01/14/2013
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
With straightforward honesty. I'd also suggest doing it away from the bedroom.
01/14/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
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Originally posted by Arlinnae
If you are unsure you kink would be well-ecived, what is the best way to tell them about it to minimize a really bad reaction?
I was lucky enough that it was my partner who came out with his kink first and made it easier for me to admit mine, but ... more
be honest
01/17/2013
Contributor: A Good Girl A Good Girl
Be honest, and just lay it out there. I agree with doing it away from the bedroom, and try to spin it to your partners advantage if you can.
03/11/2013
Contributor: smlove smlove
Quote:
Originally posted by Arlinnae
If you are unsure you kink would be well-ecived, what is the best way to tell them about it to minimize a really bad reaction?
I was lucky enough that it was my partner who came out with his kink first and made it easier for me to admit mine, but ... more
just be honest and open. express it in a loving, open manner. let them know they don't have to participate if it makes them uncomfortable.
03/11/2013
Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
I am usually pretty up front and honest with my partners. But if I think that my kinks will not be received I try to start up a general conversation about it and see what their reaction is to it before confessing.
03/12/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
I've gotten over trying to hide the things I enjoy from partners. If I like something I like something, and I'm not going to pretend I don't. Now, if it is something that they aren't into.. I might be able to do without, but I will still be heard.
03/12/2013